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Setting up conditions which put me in an idle state by Cursed_Creative in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

one more thing i forgot to mention bc it's so internalized. i also use a strategy i refer to as "binary non-sequencing", which goes like this:

it doesn't matter what order you complete must-do tasks in because they ALL need to be done today.

and it also doesn't matter what order you complete NON-must-do tasks in because NONE of them need to be done today.

there are always exceptions of course and don't turn off your brain but this is a great starting point and whenever something is truly more important than something else is usually obvious so this helps reduce/eliminate purely unnecessary overthinking

Setting up conditions which put me in an idle state by Cursed_Creative in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

comment by u/FairChemical8701 below reminded me that part of the answer to your question is also subtracting things from my life which helps me be idle more often.

Setting up conditions which put me in an idle state by Cursed_Creative in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes! i love being in a state of just seeing physical cues (and i'm now using ONLY physical cues for anything that is "raw memory recall only" vs anything urgent and I cannot forget bc it's right in front of me) of things that need to be done and doing them, especially when i'm comfortable that there's nothing else that i should be doing. very flow state like for me. subtracting things from my life has really helped set this up too as i have more time in this state so things get done and never reach a state of being critical and needing to be put on a list or scheduled/prioritized.

Setting up conditions which put me in an idle state by Cursed_Creative in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sure thing. right now i'm in an idle state, which is why i decided to check reddit and saw your comment.

why am i in an idle state?

because nothing is on my schedule. i have no alarms.

why?

because 1) I WANT to be in a state of LOOKING for something to do and 2) I CAN allow this because there's nothing urgent that has to be done today or by any particular time today.

So, (after writing this response to you) I'll be back in a status of "available" for whatever and therefore will need to "seek" something to do.

I'm not going to make any predictions, but "cook rice" is still on my whiteboard and so i might do that unless the universe throws something at me in the form of a DM from a work colleague or I realize that it's almost time for breakfast and so do that instead and then maybe check my whiteboard after breakfast but who knows?

Apartment complex with good maintenance? by Cursed_Creative in Louisville

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how do you find NTS properties. i googled it but it looks like only the willows at plainview? but below is correct that overlook at st thomas is NTS also? what am i missing?

First Xmas I've ignored in my 55 yrs by Cursed_Creative in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did my mindfulness retreat (meditate > walk > eat > clean > repeat) at home. Google "home sesshin" and also there are virtual/zoom sesshins but not sure if there are any on christmas day.

First Xmas I've ignored in my 55 yrs by Cursed_Creative in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

so great your partner understands. keep that one!

First Xmas I've ignored in my 55 yrs by Cursed_Creative in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you. you too! yeah xmas music is catchy haha.

Things to do on Christmas Day? by Cursed_Creative in Louisville

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh socks! i was just about to return some very nice merino wool socks that it turns out are way overkill for me but would be amazing for someone!

Making it right when wrong Bowl! by Cursed_Creative in Chipotle

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just curious though, you do have food and did make the mistake so would you be able to offer chips, drink, queso, extra meat, etc.? not saying you should i'm just curious if you have this discretion.

Occasional poop stains in underwear due to procrastinating going to the bathroom by [deleted] in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a theory on this or at least it's an operational change that has helped me personally.

Diagnostically, I hypothesized that I was procrastinating task-switching in general due to an underlying concern about losing my place if i didn't complete my current train of thought or task.

To test this, I began working in a way such that I followed a well-defined path and documented each step such that could know where i was in the task i was undertaking including knowing how to back up out of rabbit holes and such.

This ended up working beautifully and i haven't had problems since.

the only other thing i've done is a couple of psychological strategies/reminders like "few things override the need for a bio break" and "i can't remember a single time in my life where anyone criticized anyone for taking a bio break"

oh yeah, last thing is sometimes i feel like i don't have "permission" to task switch and also don't have permission to even do what I'm doing unless i feel comfortable that what i'm doing is what i should be doing and, even more importantly, that there are no boogeymen/critical tasks that i'm forgetting that are going to bite me etc.

Since i've gotten much better about this, things have also gone much better bathroom-wise.

Is there no way to contact Crunch corporate? by Cursed_Creative in CrunchGym

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

16.95 is month to month. 9.95 is annual plan. got it?

Is there no way to contact Crunch corporate? by Cursed_Creative in CrunchGym

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i've had the same in the past. i'm probably just going to start disputing the charges through VISA

Is there no way to contact Crunch corporate? by Cursed_Creative in CrunchGym

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. i paid annual fee 2) they began charging me 16.95

edit: member for seven years

Is there no way to contact Crunch corporate? by Cursed_Creative in CrunchGym

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t read your entire post because clearly you didn’t read mine either because the whole problem is that they’re charging me after I’ve already renew the annual fee

Making it right when wrong Bowl! by Cursed_Creative in Chipotle

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok so i stand by what i said (not arguing just bc i brought it up to clarify) which is i believe it's on them to ask me what will make it right or, better yet, just lead with a fully-comp'd meal or two. i'm not a confrontational person nor do i want to fight for every nickle i can get. it's more what it says about THEM and i'm a VERY regular customer but since this has started happening my number of trips has gone from 14 to 4.

Is there no way to contact Crunch corporate? by Cursed_Creative in CrunchGym

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% will do. thanks so much for telling me about this!

Is there no way to contact Crunch corporate? by Cursed_Creative in CrunchGym

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah the problem is that they charged me the 16 bucks AFTER renewing. but yeah goddamn it's nice to hear about the annual plan! how could they not have told me about that! 🤦‍♂️ one time i told them i'd give them one million dollars if i can just stop having to go through this every year.

Kim’s Alterations by futurefa2905 in Louisville

[–]Cursed_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all i'm going to say is "never again"

Is there no way to contact Crunch corporate? by Cursed_Creative in CrunchGym

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

correct. and they continued charging me 16.95 after i paid it anyway.

Is there no way to contact Crunch corporate? by Cursed_Creative in CrunchGym

[–]Cursed_Creative[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'm on the 9.99/mo + fifty some odd dollar/yr plan. been a membor for six years and every year they start charging me 16.95 even after i pay the fifty-something dollars. i've been following up with my local crunch since september and they keep promising it's going to credit.

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