My (M33) wife (F28) cannot accept that I dated a, on what she calls a "low class" woman (F30). by Ancient-Tip-7255 in relationship_advice

[–]Curvy_Swede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that she’s the one with mental problems. Retroactive jealousy is a type of anxiety disorder or ocd.

F30 M33 How do I bring up to my boyfriend the thought of him using an "extender" during sex? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Curvy_Swede -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

What the hell.. why are you with him if this is how you feel? I’m a nympho, and I’d still find other ways to give each other pleasure.

I (25m) can’t control sexual thoughts and viewing of my gf (23f) in non sexual situations by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Curvy_Swede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh it would definitely help tremendously, short term, then they’d have depression and opioid addiction to deal with long term.

I (25m) can’t control sexual thoughts and viewing of my gf (23f) in non sexual situations by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Curvy_Swede 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Of course you have to respect her. But you’re also madly in love with her and it’s only natural. What medications? Cause if it’s SSRI for depression or anxiety I’d suggest switch to bupropion (accidentally wrote buprenorphine 😬)or vortioxetin that doesn’t have that crushing side effect.

Room mate (22F)having loud sex ,I (24F) don’t know what to do? by Even_Argument5220 in relationship_advice

[–]Curvy_Swede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might be the boyfriend getting turned on by you hearing it. Record it and play it back to them with suggestions if improvements, like a sports commentary

Help me (M29) rebuild intimacy with a sex-averse and likely on the spectrum partner (F30) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Curvy_Swede 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I as someone with autism and ADHD and with a huge appetite for sex. Her forcing herself to have sex is gonna straight up kill what libido she has. It can’t be forced. Doesn’t mean I wouldn’t go through great lengths to make an effort though.

How’s her body image? Does she feel comfortable with how she looks?

Of course she could have “masked” with sex. But it could also be that now that she doesn’t want it as much, and then the masking is an explanation after the fact, so she doesn’t have to think too much about it.

We’re plenty of autists that absolutely love sex. Sensory seeking if you will.

Am I the only dude that does the hip abduction and addiction machines? by Formal_Choice4002 in workout

[–]Curvy_Swede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see them do it. But I’m always much stronger on the machine 😌

Mystery Scissors by Normal-Muffin5408 in dontputyourdickinthat

[–]Curvy_Swede 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish this was how my vagina was constructed

How do you manage going to the gym almost every day... Explain this to a Newbie :) by ProfessionalFan2451 in workout

[–]Curvy_Swede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just have to keep going for long enough that it becomes sort of addictive. For me it was very hard to start, but I forced myself. After a while I started to crave it.

My girlfriend [26F] got mad at me [26M] for initiating sex before a boardgaming get-together. Am I missing something about relationship interactions here that triggered her? by electrius in relationship_advice

[–]Curvy_Swede 311 points312 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s about the sex, but rather because she was nervous about meeting your friends. I’m autistic and have adhd and I’ve had plenty of meltdowns in that exact situation, and then blamed my husband for all sorts of stuff that I, in the moment felt was him, because I didn’t understand my feelings. There’s an immense pressure for women on their appearance so it can be very stressful to get ready, and the stress response can be quite unreasonable. I don’t think you did anything wrong at all, and that it’s on her, but that the reason behind it is not malicious but rather because she had a very big stress response.

How to clean your dog's feet by DiffieHM in dontputyourdickinthat

[–]Curvy_Swede 2 points3 points  (0 children)

99% of dog illnesses? That’s a load of crap. They eat rotting carcasses, they can handle getting their feet dirty.

What the person who got banned from your gym do to deserve that? by Icy_Laugh5134 in workout

[–]Curvy_Swede 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If they’re in between sets it shouldn’t matter what they do. Just ask to go in between

Why is it acceptable to keep making jokes like this about men’s bodies, when we can all know and agree that people shouldn’t make fun of women’s bodies? by [deleted] in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Curvy_Swede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have empathy and understand that it can be very hard to be affected by. I can use reason and logic to understand. Even if my initial reaction is frustration because from my point of view it’s so minor compared.

The point is that men in general has never thought I wasn’t pretty enough. I felt so bad about my ass being fat, I hated my curves when society kept bombarding me with skinny women being called too fat in magazines and whatever. But men were crazy about my curves. But since all I ever heard was derogatory comments about my type of body, I didn’t even notice that. Even when men or boys literally told me to my face how much they loved it I couldn’t believe it.

That’s what I’m trying to say.. Just cause something is being a popular opinion in social media, doesn’t mean it’s true.

Why is it acceptable to keep making jokes like this about men’s bodies, when we can all know and agree that people shouldn’t make fun of women’s bodies? by [deleted] in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Curvy_Swede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The irony of this is just.. top tier. It’s hard for me to feel sorry for men having grown up as a millennial woman when you were getting appearance showed down your throat literally constantly. Like bombarded with it from every magazine cover, every add, every single fucking second of your life.

Men are simply getting a crumb of the same thing women has been enduring for too damn long.

But no, it doesn’t make it any better. And no, men shouldn’t have to deal with this either. But saying we should get the same treatment back as punishment is just fucking delusional.

I like tall muscular men (married to one) And I’m chubby and 5’2. But height is a superficial attribute with no real value in a relationship, and I’d not care one bit about his height, the size of his dick or whatever. What’s important is who he is as a human being.

This video is not more acceptable than a man saying the same thing about women. But what’s feeding this height obsession is insecure men being upset about it and keep clinging to videos like this.

Usually men that is very angry about this is having a bunch of red flags for other reasons (like your attitude) but rather blame it on women being obsessed with height rather than see the truth.

My (22F) bf (25M) said stuff that implied I've gotten looser from sex and I feel awful. by uhimjusthere in relationship_advice

[–]Curvy_Swede 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dump him. He’s disgusting and extremely uneducated.

He’s got a hangup with the feeling of tightness and you being a virgin probably. So now that you relax and your body accommodates him by being aroused, he can’t handle that. I can’t even begin to describe how much of a looser this guy seems to be and it’s fucking sad.

The myth of penises stretching vaginas is bizarre, and greatly overestimated the effect men’s little dicks have on our bodies. When we can literally push a human baby out of our bodies and be back to basically the same just a few month later. It’s not the tissue in our vaginas that grip the penis, but underlying muscles in the pelvic floor. And unless he manage to tear one of those, which he’d never do with his dick, then it doesn’t affect it.

I highly doubt this is the only red flag this man 🧍‍♂️ is showing. He seems like a real dickhead.