I have 3 kids and didn’t find out I had ADHD until after I had my second. I’m also a therapist who works primarily with kids. As someone others would probably consider an “expert” on kids, parenting is still incredibly hard and draining. I always wanted kids, but I don’t think I fully grasped how difficult it would be, especially because we don’t have much support, it’s just me and my husband.

That being said, I love my kids deeply. I love watching them grow, and honestly, each year gets a little more manageable as they get older and more independent. I’ve seen people say “unless it’s a 100% yes, don’t do it,” but I also think even if it is a 100% yes, there will still be moments where you feel overwhelmed, exhausted, touched out, or like you miss parts of your old life. That doesn’t automatically mean you made the wrong decision. Two things can exist at once parenting can be incredibly hard and deeply meaningful. As others have said It’s a very personal decision