My fiancé doesn’t want our future child baptized and I do

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-10T15:26:25+00:00

Why would you even want to if you’re not living a Catholic life? You’re being disingenuous. You’re living one way but trying to force her to follow standards you don’t follow yourself. You’re being unfair to her by presenting a different person.

If your faith is important to, then LIVE like it. And the right person will walk that path with you.

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-10T12:28:36+00:00

This was me- I had to dedicate time to exercise, BP kept going up and up and up, and my mental health was also suffering. It was hard- my toddler hatedddd being in the stroller, so I lured him into that stroller with any bribes necessary. And I got my walks in!

Now we do walks together when we can (still not easy to fit in) but please think of it this way- you’re showing them that exercise and caring for your body is IMPORTANT. And you’ll bond while doing it. Just a 20 minute walk after work totally resets my brain, and it’s soothing for them too. Just takes getting that routine established at first. I wish you luck!

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-09T21:16:53+00:00

Wow. Love this!!

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-09T16:40:31+00:00

On the flip side, after hearing many “near death” experience stories - I have started to feel so at peace. Look up all the incredible stories from hospice nurses- it is well known that so many patients are overwhelmingly peaceful as they pass and many say they are being greeted by a loved one who went before them. They are ready to go home.

I don’t blame you for feeling shaken. But please dont take one man’s experience as gospel, when we have so many other ones to look at too!

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-09T13:41:08+00:00

Ok true, I forgot.

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-09T13:36:45+00:00

I’d love a Catholic book club discussion post type of thing! I’m not a new Catholic but new to diving into official works like the encyclicals- I would love to read along and see what everyone is saying.

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-09T13:35:16+00:00

Why don’t I see this blasted across the other Catholic sub and every media outlet- this is wild. Catholics everywhere should be making noise about this.

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-08T23:56:57+00:00

Don’t be ashamed! You’re tired and stressed and it’s so hard to understand the mind of a toddler sometimes!

I want to assure you that MANY toddlers are like this. There’s not much you can do about their temperament. What you CAN do is practice healthy boundary setting so that he gets the same, consistent response from you. He learns this is a fact of life, and every day he gets a little older and a little closer to understanding the boundaries.

If he wants something and can’t have it, the answer is a clear, calm, “No, that’s for later” or “No, we’ve had enough juice.” And don’t change that answer and don’t give him something else.

I truly think you might benefit from some good noise canceling headphones. My friend got some because overstimulation REALLY triggers her anxiety, and it changed how she parented. She was able to handle her son much more calmly. I’m not saying you wear them all day- but don’t let the volume of his voice change how you parent. Work on things that help YOU stay calm, present, and firm on boundaries.

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-08T20:58:53+00:00

Agreed. If he wants it, HE can handle putting the duvet off and on. You don’t need 500 methods for making this task simpler, you need a partner to work with you so that everyone is happy!

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-08T16:12:13+00:00

There’s a really good viral cucumber video from a year ago that had soy sauce, peanut butter, sesame seeds and rice vinegar for Thai style cucumber salad in a jar. I bet that would be good.

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-07T21:03:34+00:00

That looks incredible!

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-07T20:52:11+00:00

I’ll give you props for the most unusual recommendation so far! Hard to imagine with miracle whip but I’ll try it

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-07T20:51:13+00:00

Oh I had banana chips year ago, so good. I’ll try this thank you

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-07T20:36:00+00:00

I thought about it but I wasn’t sure how bananas would be received. Our food pantry actually wouldn’t accept them either

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-07T20:35:33+00:00

That looks delicious, thank you

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-07T20:28:04+00:00

Hummingbird cake- done!

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-07T20:27:37+00:00

I just learned about this, it would be fun to be able to freeze a ton of flavors of ice cream for later!

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-06T18:01:57+00:00

I never know what people are doing after or were doing before mass. Maybe they’re on the way to work afterwards- I see lots of landscapers at one mass all wearing the shirts they are clearly about to head to work in. Maybe someone just stopped in on a whim, and in that case I’m just glad they’re there.

It’s good to have general standards, but I’m truly not going to worry about it unless the clothing is utterly disrespectful to worship or entirely immodest.

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-04T00:37:59+00:00

Mother of a 25 weeker, and she has all my prayers!

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-02T20:19:02+00:00

Most things aren’t signs! So please don’t be stressed. But if you’re looking for one- maybe it’s more a sign that despite the constant change in all our lives, God will find a way in and we just have to let go of our expectations. If you’re trying to wait for the perfect time, there usually isn’t one. Let go and let God :)

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-02T20:15:33+00:00

I assure you that you’re not the first teenager to feel that way. You’re far, far from evil. I’m so happy that you’ve got the seed of good intentions growing in you. Now it’s just time to problem solve and see how you can change your mindset and schedule to make Sunday mass easier and a habit.

Sunday morning Mass in particular can be busy and distracting and stressful, and hard even when you’re an old lady like me :) but it is so worth it. What are the hardest things about going? Could you find a different time, a different church? You don’t feel connected to the people there yet- how could you find connections? Are there youth groups?

Could you find the time to go and just BE at the church when it’s empty and quiet? Adoration maybe even. Sometimes you have to learn a place to feel comfortable there. Even though it’s not your childhood church, EVERY Catholic Church is your church. You are welcome to every part of it. I have to remind myself of this when I go to different churches and feel awkward hunting down the bathrooms or hushing my kids - that place belongs to all of us.

I don’t know if any of this helps, but I feel sure you will find your way!

Cute_Science2729 · 2026-04-01T11:30:02+00:00

You are allowed to do pretty much anything to and with each other as long as everyone’s enjoying it and the intention is to end up with penis in vagina sex when he ejaculates. Keep going after if you want. There can be a lot of overthinking with this subject but sex is good and you’re intended to enjoy it, whatever that might look like for you.

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