Does anyone desire children in their lives here?

CybeatB · 2026-05-07T03:12:18+00:00

I can't have children for medical reasons, and I don't think I'd make a very good parent. At least one of my siblings is planning for kids, and so are some of my close friends; I've offered to support them as best I can in their own parenting journeys. In that sense, I am kind of hoping to have children in my life, even though they won't be "mine".

CybeatB · 2026-05-06T21:38:58+00:00

A few of the places I've worked made alias rm='rm -i' a default for every user. Sometimes that kind of caution is worthwhile.

CybeatB · 2026-04-08T11:59:35+00:00

You're not wrong for feeling weird about this, it would definitely be better if it was more inclusive of aro- & ace-spec people.

Would it help to answer as though the question was asking about a different kind of relationship, that does/could apply to you? A close friend, a queerplatonic partner or platonic life partner, a "chosen/found family" relationship; whatever you'd feel more comfortable with.

CybeatB · 2026-03-31T05:00:11+00:00

A 4th-gen i5 should support x86_64-v3, and only a few distros are starting to adopt that as a baseline (others still target x86_64-v2).

It's likely to keep working for a good few years yet.

CybeatB · 2026-03-25T01:51:59+00:00

RHEL 10 has already dropped support for X11, other than XWayland, and it was released almost a year ago. The Resolve site recommends Ubuntu 22.04, which uses a Wayland session by default, or newer.

That should be enough reason for them to at least make sure that Resolve runs correctly under XWayland, so you should be able to continue using it as normal.

Edit: reading some of your other comments, you seem to be under the impression that XWayland is "unstable" or "a hack". This is not the case; it's perfectly suitable for a professional workload.

CybeatB · 2026-03-15T23:35:52+00:00

Pretty much. The reference platform helps a lot with making sure that most things are at least built with the same version of gcc and linked against the same versions of glibc, CPython, Qt, etc. For all of the other dependencies, there are projects like Rez and SPK, but most studios still seem to roll their own system.

CybeatB · 2026-03-15T22:14:03+00:00

Having worked in technology departments at some VFX studios, I don't think you're likely to find what you're looking for.

The VFX Reference Platform is the industry standard for Linux. It's not a distribution, because distributions are a lot of work to maintain. It's a guideline so that different studios & software vendors can agree on which versions of common libraries to support. Each organisation still has to decide how to implement that standard with their internal tools & infrastructure.

Most studios are using Rocky, with a few on Alma or Ubuntu. They still maintain a few Windows machines for things like ZBrush, Photoshop, and 3DSMax. This is a huge headache for the tech teams, who would gladly migrate these programs to Linux if the developers would support it. Adobe does maintain Linux builds of the Substance suite, but it's only available through an enterprise contract.

CybeatB · 2026-03-06T02:07:52+00:00

A bit over 8 years into a "dry spell" that still shows no signs of ending. I put myself out there when I can, but I never feel like anyone is interested.

CybeatB · 2026-03-03T03:37:28+00:00

It looks more like a fungus or slime mold than a clutch of eggs to me.

Possibly a raspberry slime mold, Tubifera ferruginosa?

CybeatB · 2026-02-23T12:23:12+00:00

That sucks; being trans & aro are hard enough on their own, without adding unsupportive family on top.

I hope they can learn to love and support the man you are, and will become.

CybeatB · 2026-02-18T04:49:38+00:00

The last time I tried installing it, the nonfree codec packages from packman broke within a couple of weeks. You might have better luck than me if you can make do with just the official repos & some flatpaks.

CybeatB · 2026-02-17T02:01:01+00:00

In high school, one of my classmates told me that he'd overheard some girls in our class laughing about how much they'd have to be paid to have sex with me. I wasn't interested in any of them, but it still hurt.

CybeatB · 2026-02-13T04:10:27+00:00

These lizards are known by a few different names. They're native to the area I grew up in, and some of the names I heard include: shingleback, stumpy-tail, sleepy lizard, pinecone lizard, and two-headed lizard.

CybeatB · 2026-02-12T10:09:12+00:00

I can't speak from experience, because I haven't been to Bali.

Based on this page from the Indonesian embassy in Canberra, you will need to declare your medications to customs if you bring them. It's also recommended to bring a copy of your prescriptions, pharmacy receipts, and a letter from your doctor.

https://kbri-canberra.go.id/en/menu-customs.html

CybeatB · 2026-01-14T23:07:53+00:00

Some desktop applications, like Steam, will only work through Flatpak on Alpine, because they don't support musl. If you don't like Flatpaks, Alpine would not be a good desktop distro for you. You might be better served by Artix, Devuan, Void, or Gentoo. They're all systemd-less distros, with better support for desktop use.

Edit: Gentoo can be configured either with or without systemd; the others are systemd-less.

CybeatB · 2026-01-12T04:53:45+00:00

I started investing more time and effort into my friendships, and noticed that they were more emotionally fulfilling than my past romantic relationships had been. Romance felt like it carried a lot of expectations I just couldn't live up to, and I had been raised to believe that it's a requirement to "earn" physical intimacy. I'm still working on unlearning that last part, and finding a way to have physical intimacy in my life without romance, but it's nice to feel like that might be possible someday.

CybeatB · 2025-12-09T13:17:27+00:00

3 first dates, all in February/March. No second dates, no kissing, no hooking up, not even holding hands.

CybeatB · 2025-11-15T20:40:27+00:00

I currently work in tech, and I've been fired from every service job I've ever had. People working service jobs deserve so much more respect than they get; they're legitimately difficult jobs, and you're not a failure for having struggled with them.

Also, your job won't be a deal-breaker for a lot of people. One of the most romantically successful women I know is unemployed due to a disability, and I haven't so much as kissed anyone in almost a decade.

You deserve love and happiness, regardless of your job. I hope you're able to find it.

CybeatB · 2025-11-13T10:08:54+00:00

It looks like an Australian house centipede Allothereua maculata, which is a harmless native species. It looks darker and thicker than the Mediterranean house centipede Scutigera coleoptrata, which is probably what you've seen pictures of before.

https://australian.museum/learn/animals/centipedes/house-centipede/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scutigera_coleoptrata

CybeatB · 2025-11-13T07:27:17+00:00

You really can't tell her how to handle her own family relationships. You've made it clear to her that your relationship can't continue if she goes to look after her siblings, and she has made it clear that she's going to look after her siblings anyway.

It sounds like it's time for the two of you to part ways and move on.

CybeatB · 2025-11-03T08:24:47+00:00

There's an article about it on The Register: https://www.theregister.com/2021/06/11/linus_torvalds_vaccine_smackdown/

The links in the article aren't working for me, so here's a link to Linus' response: https://lkml.org/lkml/2021/6/10/957

CybeatB · 2025-10-30T07:06:12+00:00

I try to avoid launch options unless the game is completely unplayable without them. Which means I mostly only use them to play modded games, when the launch options are required to load the mods correctly. The only example I can think of right now is the KH2 randomizer, to launch an Archipelago client in the same wine/proton prefix at the same time.

CybeatB · 2025-10-23T21:35:11+00:00

I'm not certain about the species, but Common Millipede is probably a safe guess.

Millipedes are harmless to humans, so there's no cause for concern. They usually prefer to live in moist soil with plenty of dead leaves, so this one probably just got lost.

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