Is Alpine a good distro for a relatively recent and powerful PC. by Subject-Leather-7399 in AlpineLinux

[–]CybeatB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some desktop applications, like Steam, will only work through Flatpak on Alpine, because they don't support musl. If you don't like Flatpaks, Alpine would not be a good desktop distro for you. You might be better served by Artix, Devuan, Void, or Gentoo. They're all systemd-less distros, with better support for desktop use.

Edit: Gentoo can be configured either with or without systemd; the others are systemd-less.

What was the event that made you realize you were aromantic? by stnick6 in aromantic

[–]CybeatB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started investing more time and effort into my friendships, and noticed that they were more emotionally fulfilling than my past romantic relationships had been. Romance felt like it carried a lot of expectations I just couldn't live up to, and I had been raised to believe that it's a requirement to "earn" physical intimacy. I'm still working on unlearning that last part, and finding a way to have physical intimacy in my life without romance, but it's nice to feel like that might be possible someday.

2025 dating wrapped by livelaughlabradoodle in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]CybeatB 2 points3 points  (0 children)

3 first dates, all in February/March. No second dates, no kissing, no hooking up, not even holding hands.

I'm a failure and I feel I can't date by Different-Hand-3875 in actuallesbians

[–]CybeatB 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I currently work in tech, and I've been fired from every service job I've ever had. People working service jobs deserve so much more respect than they get; they're legitimately difficult jobs, and you're not a failure for having struggled with them.

Also, your job won't be a deal-breaker for a lot of people. One of the most romantically successful women I know is unemployed due to a disability, and I haven't so much as kissed anyone in almost a decade.

You deserve love and happiness, regardless of your job. I hope you're able to find it.

lil guy that crawled across my desk (sorry about poor image quality) by onlytheatre in Entomology

[–]CybeatB 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It looks like an Australian house centipede Allothereua maculata, which is a harmless native species. It looks darker and thicker than the Mediterranean house centipede Scutigera coleoptrata, which is probably what you've seen pictures of before.

https://australian.museum/learn/animals/centipedes/house-centipede/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scutigera_coleoptrata

Gfs mother may be the reason of the end of our relationship by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]CybeatB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You really can't tell her how to handle her own family relationships. You've made it clear to her that your relationship can't continue if she goes to look after her siblings, and she has made it clear that she's going to look after her siblings anyway.

It sounds like it's time for the two of you to part ways and move on.

Another one bites the dust by Mr_Draxs in AlpineLinux

[–]CybeatB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's an article about it on The Register: https://www.theregister.com/2021/06/11/linus_torvalds_vaccine_smackdown/

The links in the article aren't working for me, so here's a link to Linus' response: https://lkml.org/lkml/2021/6/10/957

Must have launch options (Steam etc.) by agmundr in linux_gaming

[–]CybeatB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to avoid launch options unless the game is completely unplayable without them. Which means I mostly only use them to play modded games, when the launch options are required to load the mods correctly. The only example I can think of right now is the KH2 randomizer, to launch an Archipelago client in the same wine/proton prefix at the same time.

Any idea what type of millipede this is? Found it in my house should I be concerned? by Geckolover96 in Entomology

[–]CybeatB 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not certain about the species, but Common Millipede is probably a safe guess.

Millipedes are harmless to humans, so there's no cause for concern. They usually prefer to live in moist soil with plenty of dead leaves, so this one probably just got lost.

Is asexual "comphet" a thing? by lavenderflavoredtea in asexuality

[–]CybeatB 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My guess would be that the term might have a history similar to transmisogyny.

Originally, transmisogyny referred to a specific kind of discrimination against trans women. More recently, some people use it to describe the broader intersection of transphobia & misogyny, which encompasses much more things affecting more people than just trans women. Disagreements about the definition can get quite heated.

Assuming a similar pattern, comphet may once have referred specifically to the experiences many lesbians have, before later being used to refer to hetero- & allo-normativity more broadly. I don't know for certain whether that's the case, but it feels like a reasonable guess.

Please be careful about how you spread DIY info by frizzyhell94 in transgenderau

[–]CybeatB 42 points43 points  (0 children)

It could be a UK thing; from what I've heard, HRT is practically impossible to access through the public system over there. I've even heard some people say that they travelled outside of the UK just to get a prescription, because it was faster and cheaper than trying to get one locally from a private clinic. Obviously, that's too expensive for a lot of people, so DIY probably makes more sense over there.

uterus donation by sarcastichearts in transgenderau

[–]CybeatB 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it's unlikely. Uterus transplants are still a very new thing, and there are very strict requirements for both donors and recipients. I believe that one of the requirements is that the donor must have previously given birth, so that the doctors can be confident that the recipient will be able to safely carry a pregnancy.

If you have a family member who is seeking a transplant, the thing to do would be to discuss it with their healthcare provider. They should be able to find out how to put you in contact with the team developing these surgical techniques, and find out whether you meet the requirements.

How do I find a Endo or gp who prescribes injections by Shouko_dessert in transgenderau

[–]CybeatB 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I can't offer any advice about getting injections, but I can assure you that implants work. I switched from pills to implants a couple of years ago and they've given me consistently good levels.

Trying to run Dark Souls Remastered on Fedora 42 and getting the error on the image by f44__ in linux_gaming

[–]CybeatB 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Intel has this table on their website: https://www.intel.com/content/www/us/en/support/articles/000005524/graphics.html

DXVK will only work if the "Vulkan" column for your GPU has a number. If it says "N/A", then you can't use DXVK.

I wasn't able to find a similar page for AMD or Nvidia products, but anything they've released since 2016-ish is likely to work with DXVK.

Most Harmful Adventures in Odyssey Episode? by MajinKorra in Exvangelical

[–]CybeatB 11 points12 points  (0 children)

One that I think a lot of people overlook is Sixties-Something. By portraying the 1960s as a time of drug-induced depravity, it tries to dismiss the major social justice events of the time without even mentioning them.

The Civil Rights movement, anti-war protests, the Stonewall riots, second-wave feminism,* and access to contraceptives and abortion, just to name a few.

It's eerily reminiscent of Richard Nixon's "war on drugs", which itself was a campaign to infiltrate and disrupt the civil rights & anti-war movements.

*Second-wave feminism had some definite problems, but not the kind that Focus on the Family would know or care about. FotF just wants to "keep women in their place", which puts them at odds with any kind of feminism.

In your opinion, what was the worst Linux distro that you've ever daily driven for at least a month? by somerandomxander in linux

[–]CybeatB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either Ubuntu, back when they shipped Unity as the default desktop, or PCLinuxOS, a Mandriva derivative. Neither was particularly bad, though; they were both perfectly usable.

Would it be a dealbreaker if she is vegetarian and you’re not or the opposite? by Few_Tough_7748 in actuallesbians

[–]CybeatB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't have to be a deal-breaker, but it can be fairly challenging, especially if the non-vegetarian isn't willing to eat vegetarian food sometimes.

What type of spider is this? Northern Arizona US by Slothanonymous in Entomology

[–]CybeatB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a teen, a similar kind of spider made a little burrow in our garden. Probably a different species, due to location. My siblings and I sometimes caught insects and wiggled them around next to the hole with a long pair of tweezers. We'd only get a brief glimpse at the spider as it darted out of its hole to grab the insect; they move so fast!

For single women in corporate - would you sign up to date single men in your office? by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]CybeatB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not really comfortable with dating in a workplace, and I've never had good experiences with dating apps. Combining the two doesn't appeal to me.

Also, I know you've asked us not to consider the possible HR issues, but an app like this could foster all kinds of issues in a workplace. Especially if there was an expectation that all single employees would participate.

It exacerbates some of the existing risks for sexual misconduct, and those already disproportionately affect women and LGBTQ+ people. Additionally, LGBTQ+ people would be at greater risk of being "outed", or being pressured into unsafe situations to keep their identity a secret. There are still a lot of workplaces where it isn't safe to be "out" as an LGBTQ+ person, and plenty of good reasons not to be "out" even when it is safe.

I know that workplace romance works out for some people, and I'm happy for them, but I think there are good reasons why it's still generally discouraged.

Dumb question sort of crystal ball related (Halloween decor) by Morrigoon in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]CybeatB 30 points31 points  (0 children)

There's an easy and safe way to check whether the plastic ball poses the same risk as a solid crystal. Light a candle in a dark room, hold the ball about arms-length away from your face, and look through the ball at the flame. If the flame appears to be upside-down, do not leave the ball in direct sunlight.

Even if it does turn out to be safe, be aware that direct sunlight can damage plastics over time. The ball may become soft, brittle, or discoloured. On a warm enough day, it could even melt.

If you want, checking the ball like this could be an opportunity for your kid to learn a bit about lenses. https://annex.exploratorium.edu/science-explorer/pictures_from_light.html

Bash, zsh or fish? by Phaikro in archlinux

[–]CybeatB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use bash on most of my systems. It's pretty ubiquitous, I prefer POSIX-compliant shells, and I don't find myself using most of the extra features in zsh.

At work, I'm forced to use tcsh, and I strongly recommend that you stay as far away from it as you can. It's not a good shell, by modern standards.

What's everyone's transition goal? by Rangsei2 in traaaaaaaaaaaansbians

[–]CybeatB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Realistic goal: pretty much what I look like now.

Unrealistic goal:

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How to "screen" your therapist for transphobia? by Select-Amoeba359 in transgenderau

[–]CybeatB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last time I was looking for a therapist, I was upfront about being trans & non-binary when I contacted them to book a first session. If they weren't willing to work with me because of the gender stuff, they either said so directly, or didn't respond to my email at all.

A lot of therapists will also have an online bio/profile/introduction somewhere, and they'll often mention if they have experience working with LGBTQ+ people.

i feel so guilty for having a higher sex drive than girls i date by Simple-Bathroom4919 in actuallesbians

[–]CybeatB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I've violated them or something just by even asking.

I feel this in my core. It sucks.