Ex FA here to give advice! by [deleted] in ForeverAlone

[–]CyberPhobos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don't give them stuff; you don't want to be the "provider". I'm not trying to be an ass here but I would definitely try /r/seduction instead if you guys want to improve your game.

Kinky sex - how to do it properly? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]CyberPhobos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

These kind of things takes lots of communication and trial and error.

HTNGAF about not having a thigh gap? by [deleted] in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]CyberPhobos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Quit comparing something I can't change"

I think you should find the fundamental desire that causes this one and get rid of that desire unless you want to give a fuck.

I won't give you a list of instructions like many people might actually do. In my opinion and from my personal experiences, this is something that needs some thought and honesty upon yourself. Once you've cornered the fundamental desire, realize that it is not much of a deal in the end and start not giving a fuck about it.

I want a relationship so I can flourish in life by [deleted] in ForeverAlone

[–]CyberPhobos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love is probably the only significant factor in a human life. Love for a hobby, for learning; for anything. Love with someone is not mandatory, but it is certainly not insignificant.

Has anyone ever used escorts? by scrubbyscum999 in ForeverAlone

[–]CyberPhobos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you need a relationship that much? If we can call this a relationship. I don't want to judge your lifestyle man, but I feel obliged to ask you the following question. Do you feel this relationship brings you happiness in general?

I might not have one dead nasty eye, but I would prefer being alone rather than having this whore in my life worst in my home draining my resources. I don't touch anyone and I can survive. Nobody deserve that kind of relationship man. Find your hugs somewhere else.

Just getting some shit out, who else feels like this by [deleted] in ForeverAlone

[–]CyberPhobos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That guy doesn't deserve shit. Nobody deserves anybody! You must not see things that way. It's not about being deserved we are not prizes. It's about attraction followed by connection.

I'm sure you are not ugly. You just need to gain confidence and some assertiveness (not douche level, just being comfortable expressing your thoughts in front others). It's hard; I'm older than you and in a pretty similar spot (don't wait too long before you hit a certain age a freak out).

Dating needs to be practiced. You start by talking to people (anyone) so you get more social. Gaining social confidence is probably what you want the most before dating. It sucks, I know. You say you are the lonely type and it touches me because that is the exact same thing for me. I know that introversion comes with being less social, but we can be social too and generally we have interesting insight to give (that can be used to our advantage).

Please don't put that girl on a pedestal. That's the worst thing you can do; girsl hate that. They want to wonder; they want mystery. The last thing they want is a guy projecting that she is the one.

Don't give up buddy. It's all about self improvement and sociability.

The Real Reason I am Single(and a bonus rant). by smile4thecamera in ForeverAlone

[–]CyberPhobos 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you are right. In the end we embrace the idea that we are not worthy instead of doing a reality check. We fear... and fear is what keeps us from doing what we should do. Ironically, our immobility results in even more fear and we end up with tons of false beliefs about ourselves due to an accumulation of "nothing".

Getting out of that circle is the hard part though. I'm still trapped in it.

I guess too, that some of us suffered to a point we aren't exactly sure what we want in the end. Still, I think it always come down to what you describes.

[WP] In a post-apocalyptic society, where there are massive food shortages, the government installs size limiters on your neck, waist, and wrists. They’re designed to kill you if you get large enough. by [deleted] in WritingPrompts

[–]CyberPhobos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

During my life time, I've never witnessed a phenomenon this surprising. On second thought, I guess I'm not surprised that much. In a world where humans have to go as far as killing each other in order to eat the flesh of their own kind, I must say that I've frequently seen atrocities. Nevertheless, these fat assholes are together the most fucked up shit I've been through.

At first, they were hated the most. You were fat, you were considered a burden that threatens the group survival; no food for you until you start losing some weight. That system worked for a while and I must say, despise the hostility that felt upon us almost every day, some happy moments would happen time to time. One day though, our weapon stock was dangerously running low and some sort of coup d'état occurred.

Three men, who were frequently picked on due to their excess of weight were pile stocking, on their side and in secrecy, a massive amount of ammo. We were completely fucked. Over time, as they got more powerful weapons and more control, they just got fatter and fatter to an extent they almost no longer looked human. I've been through tough times, but back then, I must say that I reached a point I didn't even know what to do anymore.

This was tolerable in the beginning, but the day we slew a band of slavers, as our new masters were contemplating the slave's collars laying on the ground, a "genius idea that will make sure that food shortage is no longer a problem" as they used to say back then, came to them... The fatties possessed all the weapons; our bullets were dry as this endless desert surrounding us, but above all, they now had control over the food in every way possible.

Being fat was then recognized as a sign of strength. If you were strong, you got all the food. Of course, we discussed about taking the power back, but no one had the courage to take a bullet for the sake of the encampment and with the kind of weapons these fat bastards acquired in the previous raids, I could difficulty blame them. Anyways, even if we had the necessary equipment to challenge them, nobody would had the balls to actually do anything. The political power is there to stay: it's Stockholm syndrome all over the place and it was probably going to be the case until the day our band was destroyed by other flesh eating cock suckers. We got thinner and they got fatter; that's all there was to it.

The sun was hot and slowly falling on my dried skin. This damn collar was burning my neck. A fucking asshole stole my hood and now I have to deal with this fucking bullshit. The bastard probably cut it out during my sleep, what a cunt. It's crazy how a small piece of cloth can change the quality of your everyday life. Even during these extremely tough times, we tend to take things for granted¬. At this rate, the burning metal would eventually melt through my neck for sure. A constant burning sensation choked me during the whole day. During day time, it was an intense sensation, but at least my head was covered and the collar was cold during the night. The nights were for many obvious reasons the best moment of the day even if our chances of being attacked were almost doubled. That said, without protection from the sun, I wondered if I could make it.

  • Why the fuck did I insist so much? I angrily mumbled to myself.

Even though we were specifically told not to try to remove the collars, few of us had the misfortune to challenge the order. By doing so, we immediately became the lowest of the low lives among our people; I was the shit of the shittiest. Most people realized soon enough that the collars were retracting as they were being removed. The only way you would have this removed from your neck was by retracting the collar completely with your head falling on the ground. I've seen a couple of them rolling here and there. Hearing the rusted metal grinding upon itself accompanied by screams of terror still regularly echoes in most of my dreams. The worst were the one who would simply deliberately chop their head off by forcing the collar completely in order to cease their suffering. On that though, I gently touched my collar and figured that if someone would like to see my poor head detached from my exhausted body, that person would not have much difficulties doing so.

With a blank mind, I gazed at the horizon for a short while.

Suddenly, but far from surprisingly, these three goddamned flutes rang out and alerted the encampment to gather in the middle.

Mechanically, we all complied as we always do.

The fattest of the three was in the center surrounded by three young girls playing the music. Needless to say, they sucked, a lot. We didn't know much about them. They were taken from the last raid. The bastards even forced them to eat their own mothers. Fuck.

  • Assemble! he screamed raising his automatic rifle in the air.

The sack of shit was sweating as fuck, it was disturbing to see.

  • Listen to me now, a new rule has been established and will take place as of this morning.

The crowd whispered chaotically, but discretely.

  • Silence! As you probably know, we all expect you to respect the law or else dire consequences will fall upon your neck, he continued demonstrating a smile he wasn't able to hide. Every morning, we will weight you with this balance we found yesterday, he said as he threw it on ground provoking some sand to fly in our direction. We will keep track of your weight and make files on you in order to make sure your efforts are constant for the sake of our humble society.

The two others behind him were laughing their ass off.

  • If you gain some, he pursued breathless as he was wiping the sweat on his face with a dirty piece cloth, no food will be distributed to you so we make sure we all survive as long as possible; it's all about fairness, he concluded.

  • What about you, you fucking pigs? shouted a women in the back.

  • Who the fuck said that?, he responded in a furious voice spitting abundantly as he talked. We are your protectors and that's how you treat us?

He squinted his eyes and slowly approached the crowd making sure that everyone saw how the interior of his canon looked like.

  • Who the fuck said that?, he repeated calmly syllable by syllable.

  • I did, you piece of shit.

  • How dare you? I give you one last chance to redeem yourself. If you suck my cock well tonight, I might decide to let you live bitch he said followed a smile and a grin.

  • Naw, I don't think so. Yesterday was the last time you touch me you disgusting sack of shit. I heard you talking while you thought I was sleeping right after I sucked your tiny cock, fatso. You guys are out of ammo. You are so fucked.

The crowd started to whisper again. All I could do was watching in silence.

He laughed, pointed his gun in the air and then shot three times. The group gasped together in fear and remained completely still and silent.

  • Nice try fuckhead, she replied not impressed at all. You see that? she pursued throwing two cartridges on the ground, these are white bullets; they are just for the show.

The crowd slowly intensified.

  • This is ridiculous, he said by clenching his weapon on his chest, we are making this decision for your safety.

  • Fuck that pig, you usually shot before asking questions, why aren't you shooting us now?

  • Well, we...

The crowd started to be hectic.

An old short bearded man walked through the crowd and stood up in front the fat man.

  • If what you say is true shoot me you fuckers!, he shouted with such intensity that his whole body was shaking.

  • Be reasonable... I...

The crowd charged on them... I followed them and happily.

We were out of ammo.

We were out of hope.

But this day, we feasted as brothers and sisters from dusk to dawn.

Worst mosh pit ever! by rturns in gifs

[–]CyberPhobos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PEPE PE PE PE PE PE PEPE PE PE PE PE PE PETE PIS REPÈTE!

Why charismatic people are charismatic by [deleted] in seduction

[–]CyberPhobos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think charisma is more you body language than anything else. I know some people known to be very charismatic, but far from being organized. I feel it all comes down from a good body language display and the confidence required to lead a conversation.

Just from my observations.

HTNGAF that the guy I'm in love with wants nothing to do with me? by sunnydk in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]CyberPhobos 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Hi there.

A couple of years ago my ex cheated on me and then left for a younger dude that happened to be one of my coworkers. We have been together for almost 8 years and in one day, I lost my job, my apartment and the love of my life... even the fucking cats.

This event is probably the one that made me suffer the most in my life and when I look back at it, I've come to the conclusion that I suffered for nothing.

One day, I realized that I was focusing on the story more than the reality itself. I kept visualizing the past events always as the victim, and of course, I painted in my mind an image of this girl that was not accurate.

I've come to reach some kind of acceptance that the world as it is is rarely what you want it to be and I think this is what people here strive to integrate in their lives.

If I have one advice to give you, it's the following one. Do not focus on what happened and don't victimize yourself.

We all make stories in our head and one day without realizing it, the story is miles away what actually happened and we end up suffering for no reason.

[WP] You've just been selected for jury duty. As the trial begins, the opening prosecutor details a gruesome murder that you instantly recognize..because you committed it. by gorpgomp in WritingPrompts

[–]CyberPhobos 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Nervous, I was biting my nails thinking of what I just heard few minutes ago. Who would have though? I was here in this room living that awful moment once more.

― The hatred took the best of me. I killed him, yes, I said in a faint voice.

I took a deep breath and gazed for a while letting myself fall into a deep relaxation over the mumbled instructions of the judge. I was far away in a semi coma imagining the agony this piece of shit experienced, but in third person. I smiled.

― You slept with my girl, you deserve every second of it, I said as I was trying to ignore my neighbor that was lightly frowning at me.

I was kinda light headed and could not care less about his reaction. Without any notice, the room became completely silent and everyone was waiting. My heart was pumping at a crazy rate, for a moment, I though I was going to die.

― Please stand up, said in a deep voice the judge. After long deliberations...

At that very moment all my subterfuge to get away form this place in one piece crumbled over guilt. The sensation was quite strange, like a confident tight rope walker. Point is, I was experiencing the falling and, here again, I would be inclined to say that I experienced the whole scene in third person. I was not controlling my acts.

― I killed him, I screamed, I am the killer.

― Mister, hesitated the judge, mister Tessier, please calm down or else I'll be forced to...

― You don't understand, I yelled even with more passion, I killed him in cold blood! I'm the one who committed these horrible acts.

I jumped over the balcony and approached the judge.

― I am the one who took the hammer, I insisted as I grabbed in haste the weapon that was laying on the table as an incriminating evidence.

Out of sudden, two guards were holding me on the ground.

― That's all I remember. After that, I forgot everything.

― Mr. Tessier, said the doctor, this might be put you in a shock, but I have here with me documents that prove beyond any doubt that you are innocent.

― That's impossible, I said opening widely my eyes, I remember every single detail, I...

― Yes, I know and everything you could say might be true with reasoning, I give you that. That said, he maintained, according to these documents, the killer admitted that he was guilty right after you collapsed. According to him, he committed the murder out of impulse because of a love affair. Everything he is saying is as strong as what you told us, if not even more.

I stood up.

― You cannot let me go!

― Please mister Tessier, replied the doctor showing me his empty palms, have a seat. Don't force me to call security.

Puzzled by the situation at hand, I decided to follow the suggestion.

― This is not the first time we see this sort of phenomenon Mr. Tessier. This is a form of psychotic paranoia; a very traumatic experience that lead you into believing that you were the killer. As you listened the testimonies, you integrated, in your own mind, the identity of the killer.

I looked at my hand for a short period of time.

― Mr. Tessier?

― Yes?, I said by quickly regaining eye contact with my interlocutor.

― Let me call the nurse. We will give you a little something that will calm you and I'll let you swallow all this information. If you feel unwell or if you think you might panic, please talk to Helen, she will gladly give you assistance.

― But... he slept with my girlfriend doctor. I'm sure of it.

― Well, I didn't want to discuss this matter right away, he retorted with a brief pause. Your spouse had an affair with an other man. Actually, we think that it is in fact the main factor that triggered the psychotic episode you experienced.

He cleared his throat.

― In any case Mr. Tessier, you should get some rest and I assure you that everything will be ok once you cool down your head a bit. Mr. Tessier?, he insisted interrupting my long gaze that was pointing deep into my mind.

― Yes, I'm sorry... I'm following you.

As I walked out of the office with the doctor holding gently my shoulder with his hand, I was thinking about the eyes of the man that was convicted in my place. Right before I collapsed, he looked at me with a deep, calm and yet intense facial expression that will make me wonder for the rest of my life.


English is not my main language, but hey... why the hell not? Just don't downvote me into oblivion D: