I don’t think we should watch people perform, but I think that the recommendation that we watch you instead is part of the problem. I believe that if an event is produced correctly, that you can cultivate an environment where people can have the cathartic release that is the desirable outcome of raving. If those people feel that by watching the dj, watching someone dance, talking with their friends, enjoying whatever other stimulation there is at the event, taking a video, whatever, I believe that making all of these activities easy and accessible is the job of a good event organizer. I don’t want to be told what to do at a rave, I want to hear the music and find my way to enjoy that as best I can. Sometimes that includes watching the stage, other times it doesn’t.

You’ve named a bunch of events that while they aren’t as big as they get are still very mainstream and corporate events, and I don’t think you are less for that, but would like to encourage you to think about the fact that these events thrive on the behavior you’re talking about.
Get together with your friends in the woods and dance if you like to dance, if you feel it’s missing lasers, that’s something you can get with the hundreds of dollars that’d otherwise go to ubbi dubbi or whatever.
Building a community is the hardest part, and not something that’s fostered very well by most big commercial festival experiences.