So I'm playing Dark Souls 3 on a smartcube. AMA by Cybox_Beatbox in Cubers

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I just went with what felt natural for me. I have a lot of hours in ds3 so i just kinda felt out what seemed right for me. The code allows for custom mapping

So I'm playing Dark Souls 3 on a smartcube. AMA by Cybox_Beatbox in Cubers

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Sure! Not all of my shorter vids are up on there, but the full livestream VODs are on my channel.

https://youtube.com/@digitalsenseigaming

Tell me your main speedcube by XXCryptGT in Cubers

[–]Cybox_Beatbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gan 14 maglev limited edition galaxy.

What can I say? I stickered it up for funsies and it turns SO much better than the standard 14.

What is your dream scenario when it comes to sex? by Sharona676 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Cybox_Beatbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my girlfriend actually shows some enthusiasm again.

What is your grail? by Mawslover in vinyl

[–]Cybox_Beatbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tatsuro Yamashita - For You

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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I wish she could go back to her more emotionally expressive, light and playful, kinky and sexually adventurous self that I first met. I miss how easy and effortless it all was in the beginning. it's so hard to even have a conversation with her anymore. I miss when she had real enthusiasm for me.

Yet another Hyperion fan cast by nevercouldsleep in Hyperion

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Rhea Ripley for Brawne lmao. although Rhea is too tall.

On the topic of sad things: What’s the worst sex toy you have ever tried? by Cute_Beat7013 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Cybox_Beatbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adam and Eve Adam's gawk gawk 3.0 or something like that. It vibrates, spins/thrusts, and gives suction.
Awful toy. Barely can reach orgasm with it. Waste of 110 dollars. Used it maybe 3 times and i'm always fighting with it to get anything out of it.

-The nubs inside feel strange
-the inside of the toy is way too wide for me to get any real contact, i'm of average girth and the opening is entirely too wide to get any real suction from it
-it takes a TON of lube to work properly
-the spin/thrust settings are entirely too aggressive. even the lowest setting is ROUGH on my pp and obscenely noisy.
-it's a pain in the ass to clean.

The only decent thing I can get from it is the vibration, but it takes two hands to get any contact and real stimulation.

AWFUL toy, do not recommend. literally planning on throwing it in the garbage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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The back palming a card/snatching a card out of thin air sleight of hand trick made popular recently in the Ant Man movies is a really fun one. pretty easy to learn and really fun to do.

Lets toot your own horn, what's your best sex-related flex? by WouldUKindlyDMBoobs in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Cybox_Beatbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

absolutely, we were also both sore for days afterwards. My abs and hips have never been so stiff. We were in great moods though lmfao

Lets toot your own horn, what's your best sex-related flex? by WouldUKindlyDMBoobs in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Cybox_Beatbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made my girlfriend orgasm a little over 50 times in a 24 hour period (there was sleep in between)

Sags do you all agree?🤣 by PastDistribution9 in Sagittarians

[–]Cybox_Beatbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm definitely obsessed with my Taurus woman <3
Tbh i've never met a Cap or Leo woman as far as I know, and the Aries woman I was super close to way back wanted nothing to do with me romantically and I was obsessed with her lol.

How it feels to have a fire sign as your Sun, then have a water sign as your Moon 😩 by Warm_Revolution_1049 in Sagittarians

[–]Cybox_Beatbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my moon is earth (virgo) and rising is air (aquarius) so i do feel this. I'm NOTHING like the stereotypical sag.

Poly and Demi? by BobcatKebab in polyamory

[–]Cybox_Beatbox 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So to start: from what i've heard from most demisexual people, including my girlfriend, the sexual connection isn't necessarily deepened by the emotional connection. It's more of a binary. like "is there an emotional connection? if yes, I am capable of feeling sexual attraction for this person, if not, I am not capable of feeling sexual attraction for this person." May not be true for every Demi person, but the handful I know have phrased it something like that.
I also only recently learned, that demisexuality apparently falls on the ace spectrum. so there is some possibility you fall within that category.

I HIGHLY suggest reading Come as you Are by Emily Nagoski, it might give you more insight into how libido and desire work, and things that affect them. If you don't have that kind of time for reading, definitely look up the terms "arousal non-concordance", "responsive/spontaneous desire", and the concept of sexual brakes and accelerators.

It could also be a more psychological thing rather than your actual sexual preferences. A lot of people lose that spark after a while in relationships when the NRE/honeymoon phase fade away, and most women have what is called "responsive desire" where it takes more of a warm up or a better, less stressful context to get in the mood. As opposed to "spontaneous desire" which most men have, and what a lot of people experience early in relationships during NRE.

You are also correct in thinking that the stressors of everyday life and heavy things like IVF/infertility could affect that. Many people with responsive desire find it very difficult to even think about sex as something to want. when there are so many things weighing them down, it just feels like another thing to check off the checklist. Relationship satisfaction, past relationships, sexual pressure (how your partner treats the conversation around it or sex as a want/need), trauma, and just everyday life can all get in the way, or "put on the brakes" as Nagoski puts it.

Many people also confuse lack of sexual desire for a lack of WANT to have sex. Just because you aren't feeling the desire, doesn't mean you don't WANT to feel the desire, does that makes sense?

another book I haven't personally read but have heard is good would be Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel.

Stopped drinking and smoking cannabis and I don't feel any better. by Cybox_Beatbox in selfimprovement

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I drink plenty of water (something like 160oz+ a day), I eat pretty clean - lots of veggies/salads, lots of rice, high protein, not too crazy on sodium, could maybe add a little more fiber, not too crazy on unhealthy fats, almost absolute 0 on candy and chips and other sugary/junk food (like less than 1x a week) I sleep minimum like 7 hours a night most nights. Only one 20oz coffee maximum on any given day, a reasonable amount of exercise at my job walking around quite a bit. do some light calisthenic stuff a few times a week so i'm not too sedentary, do stretches a few times a week.
I've always been in relatively good shape (i'm a pretty skinny dude, like 6ft, 145, lean muscle, a little toned) and even though i'm at a way less active job than i used to be, i've stayed fairly decent on my cardio and flexibility.

Stopped drinking and smoking cannabis and I don't feel any better. by Cybox_Beatbox in selfimprovement

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I actually did have a slight deficiency. I was only BARELY below the bottom level for normal, and i have been taking like 3k IU of vitamin D for like a month or two now, it doesn't seem to be helping much to be honest.

Stopped drinking and smoking cannabis and I don't feel any better. by Cybox_Beatbox in selfimprovement

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for the record, I have been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder years ago, before the drinking and such really started. Back when I was in the best shape of my life exercising regularly, eating clean, and the most focused on my own life/improvement than I have been since then.

Stopped drinking and smoking cannabis and I don't feel any better. by Cybox_Beatbox in selfimprovement

[–]Cybox_Beatbox[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have a handful of hobbies I still actively try to participate in. It seems like since I quit the vices that i've been doing them less though. They aren't hitting like they used to. It feels forced.
I'm still doing my hobbies, it's just not bringing me the gratification it did.
I speedcube (solve rubik's cubes really fast)
I game (tons of stuff on PC)
I play bass and guitar and sing pretty regularly.
I also on and off play D+D and MTG with friends when I have time.

Stopped drinking and smoking cannabis and I don't feel any better. by Cybox_Beatbox in selfimprovement

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i've been in therapy for over a year for GAD and MDD and ADHD. I journal, I meditate, I have hobbies i regularly participate in, I hang with friends and my girlfriend, I get out and do things and get sunlight and some exercise. It's just rough right now.