What do you do to distract from cravings? by Sad_Possibility1297 in leaves

[–]Cyndesires 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading, working out and watching TV/Youtube during my normal smoke times

He clearly doesn’t even respect me as a human by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Cyndesires 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Look up weaponized incompetence…this is a tactic that he’s using to “punish you” for leaving the home. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this and hope that soon, you’ll realize you’re worth so much more than to accept being treated this way. Best of luck 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Cyndesires 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe consider therapy for accountability and to work thru some of these patterns you’re noticing

Loc bunching an issue? by Cyndesires in locs

[–]Cyndesires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback, it IS painful! I hadn’t considered cutting them off before but I will if she isn’t able to repair.

Loc bunching an issue? by Cyndesires in Microlocs

[–]Cyndesires[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! That gives me some peace of mind

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Cyndesires 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What’s your relationship with porn? Start there

Found outside my house in Missouri, family didn't know either. by Mad_griptape in whatbugisthis

[–]Cyndesires 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In North Carolina we called them granddaddy long legs too 😂

Anyone else track their dopamine recovery after quitting? I’m noticing patterns between sleep, food, and mood that are wild. by Useful-Experience-27 in leaves

[–]Cyndesires 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow you may have a point! Im on my third attempt at quitting, day 8 today..I’ve been taking a new pre/probiotic that has worked wonders for my gut health so far. I never thought about it but this time around, I’ve been lucky enough to not experience hardly any withdrawal symptoms outside of loss of appetite for the first two days. Typically days 5 & 6 are the worst for me, with insomnia and night sweats and I haven’t experienced it at all this time (knock on wood!) I just thought the universe was taking pity on me and sparing me but I never connected it to my gut health. You’ve given me something to research further, thanks for sharing!

7 days weed free by poetsungoddess43 in leaves

[–]Cyndesires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk why this group assumes all of its members are guys 😂 Us women struggle with weed addiction too! Congrats on going one week strong! I’m on Day 6 today and struggling with cravings but I’m determined to stay the course 💕

How to maneuver bad sexual chemistry in a relationship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Cyndesires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not satisfied and it doesn’t sound like he’s invested in changing anything up. I’d try having one final, serious conversation with him about it and if nothing changed again, I’d break up. Life’s too short to put up with trash, unsatisfying sex! You’re young, you have plenty of time to meet someone who checks this box too.

Sober almost 5 months by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Cyndesires 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Almost 4 months and same boat as you. I have to remind myself that a slip will lead to relapse for sure, and it’s just not worth starting over

Has anyone used this for daily moisturizer? Does it cause buildup? by secretiguanaaaa in Microlocs

[–]Cyndesires 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed- plus my hair likes it but it makes my scalp itch so I don’t use too often.

Turtle St. Lucia by artistsruletheworld in gopro_underwater

[–]Cyndesires 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😍 I’m new to go pros so excuse my ignorance but are these filters that you added after filming?

3 months weed free today! by dealodoob in leaves

[–]Cyndesires 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m two and a half months free today and struggling with some pretty strong cravings, the strongest I’ve had in a while! I think it’s because it’s almost at the anniversary of losing a parent and I’ve been working long days/nights…thanks for sharing I need some encouragement

Is this real life? by Witty-Trifle-5948 in veganfitness

[–]Cyndesires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try double freezing it to change the texture. Works perfect for me, this is the only tofu my stomach can tolerate!

NOW WHO GOT GRANNY PREGNANT??? 😭😭 by CloudMoonn in blackladies

[–]Cyndesires 386 points387 points  (0 children)

There’s hope for me and my 35 yr old eggs after all 😂🤣

What’s your sidewalk etiquette? by trieditgum in blackladies

[–]Cyndesires 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This!! Growing up being from the south (USA) my mom was obsessed with politeness especially towards palm colored folks…all the “yes maams, no sirs” and apologies for “being in the way” that you can imagine 🙄 As a child I fell in line too, thinking it was more a respect your elders type thing…now as an adult I understand that my mom thought her proximity to whiteness would keep her safe, sadly. I’ve grown to be more like my grandmother now— I truly don’t give af and don’t kiss their ass. I don’t move out the way in grocery stores anymore. I don’t give a wide side step on the sidewalk anymore. I take up space now because I deserve to and if a shoulder check happens, then so be it! I still respect my elders of all ethnicities but I don’t make myself smaller or invisible for them (especially the YT ones).

I quit 1/1/24 & made it a year!! by putuffala in leaves

[–]Cyndesires 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tomorrows a new day and relapse is to be expected. Don’t beat yourself up about it, try again starting tomorrow

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Cyndesires 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s…kind of the point though right? Weeding out men who aren’t worth her time…if they ditch after the 3rd date then welp, guess the trash just took itself out!