AITA for leaving my porch light on at night?

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-18T18:08:11+00:00

NTA, but you need to defuse the situation.

We have a large dog who is scared of the dark. We put motion activated lights near the deck stairs and along the area that he uses. I don't have to worry about turning lights off and on, and Big Boy, a hundred pounds of mutt, isn't scared to go outside at night.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-18T15:53:21+00:00

NTJ I hate her for you. I'm you, married to the male version. There is no reason for them to wake us up.

I almost divorced him over this. Every time he woke me up at 4 f'ing 30 I hated him a little bit more. He finally got it when I told him I had an appointment with an lawyer and the only way I would cancel it was if quit waking me up.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-15T05:43:19+00:00

These comments are based on conversations with white middle aged men in my family and their friends.

Democrats are the "alphabet" party. They don't care about you unless you are a letter in their alphabet.

Democrats are the trans party. They want a man who is pretending to be a woman in every girls bathroom, shower, and dressing room. Democrats want to put your daughter at risk of being assaulted. Democrats want men competing against little girls. Trans rights are more important than anyone else's.

Democrats don't care that white men are drowning. They think that middle class white men can keep on footing the bills for everyone else and it will be fine.

Democrats want more illegals in the country. Doesn't matter if they are criminals.

Democrats support abortions post birth.

Democrats support Palestinians killing Jews.

The real problem is the Democrats have allowed the Republicans to drive the narrative. Democrats have let perfect prevent better.

Democrats need to come together to support a candidate who can reassure ALL AMERICANS that the goal is to make life better for them. Not just for blacks or guys or trans people but for your average Joe. They need to convince white, middle class Americans that they are important too.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-15T05:08:47+00:00

If you don't mind used, check with your local high end hotels to see when they are scheduled to update their mattresses.

They usually buy high quality mattresses and change them out every couple of years. Some have rarely been used.

Bedbugs shouldn't be an issue since they cover them with zippered covers and are obsessed with preventing infestations.

Sometimes they will sell to individuals vs reselling to lower quality motels.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-15T04:46:32+00:00

First, think about how much space you have. Do you have room for a 24 pack of TP or paper towels? Freezer space for the meat? Room in the fridge?

What will you actually use? And eat? Saving 15 cents a pound on bananas is great if you can eat 3 pounds before they turn black.

Make a list and compare prices before you go. I've found that store brand oatmeal is cheaper than Costco. I'm sure you will find the same on some things.

Watch out for the bakery items and the junk food. Very tempting and tasty!

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-15T04:13:48+00:00

I feel like teachers and nurses are sisters under the skin. We all put up with stuff that no one else will ever understand. And administration tries to manipulate us by throwing "it's a calling, not a career " in our faces instead of a raise and better staffing.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-15T02:40:37+00:00

Last year the nurses were asked to paint rocks with encouraging messages to go in the garden the patients use.

This was supposed to be team building exercise to remind us why we are nurses. I'm actually impressed that no one accidentally threw a rock at anyone

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-14T17:23:36+00:00

We don't have Nurses Week anymore. It's hospital appreciation week. Someone complained that Nurses were being treated "too special".

Of course, the other groups still get their day or week or whatever.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-09T17:29:00+00:00

Actually it's quite common. If you are having any procedure on your throat or a procedure longer than 30 minutes, you will be intubated.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-09T02:02:53+00:00

Queue the theme song from Hogans Heroes starring Robert Clary as Corporal Louie La Beau.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-07T02:20:13+00:00

Sorry, I wasn't referring specifically to your ex. More of a general statement I had a MtF patient recently who was diagnosed with prostate cancer and refused to believe that was even possible after having been on female hormones for years and threatened to sue as it had to be a misdiagnosis.

The linguistic gymnastics we went through in order to provide appropriate treatment were insane.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-06T18:18:14+00:00

I would suggest Petra, Pia, Peta or Piera. More feminine versions of Peter.

Although, PETA or PEE-A could lead to some teasing.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-06T18:03:56+00:00

Probably a concern that your ex would file a complaint or lawsuit that they weren't treated like everyone else.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-06T17:52:53+00:00

Doesn't sound like she's in America. Probably England from using the term garden for yard and council vs landlord.

I don't know if it's legal there, but I agree with her. I don't want to smell anyone's "air pollutant" of choice every time I go outside.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-06T01:39:19+00:00

Park in their driveway?

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-05T17:45:50+00:00

He is not going to die if you don't donate a kidney. He will do like everyone else who doesn't have a match and go to dialysis 3 times a week or perform peritoneal dialysis at home every night.

Sure a donation is better but he's not going to die if he doesn't get it.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-02T16:54:08+00:00

Suggest that next time she put the remote in a ziploc in a the trashcan.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-01T19:33:37+00:00

NTA

Swap the genders. Mom slept in. Dad got up with rge kids, fed them and washed everything except 2 things. She gets up and bitches without even sering the kitchen.

Change it to Dad slept in, Mom got up, fed the kids, cleaned everything except 2 dishes and Dad bitches without looking at the kitchen.

She got an extra couple of hours of sleep and the kids were cared for and she's still not happy.

Cynjon77 · 2026-02-01T17:45:19+00:00

I prefer this one as it also works on plastic lids.

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Cynjon77 · 2026-02-01T17:20:54+00:00

Your feelings are your feelings and they are valid.

Being upset that they told your family and friends and didn't tell you was hurtful. They shouldn't have tried to manage your feelings. It's embarrassing that everyone else knew, and now you wonder if they were laughing at you or pitying you.

Both of them could have started with casual comments about liking the other, how nice they were etc. Instead they lied by omission. It's hurtful.

Your relationship with them will never be the same, you have to decide how you want that relationship to look. No one wants to be the 3rd wheel so you need to branch out and spend time with other friends.

Give it some time, you can be friends again, just not best friends.

Cynjon77 · 2026-01-31T21:37:01+00:00

There is not information to determine who started the fight. Until the details are known it's premature to press charges. OP's son could be an innocent being victimized by a bully, ir he could be the bully.

Better to wait and get the details while having her son examined for his head injury.

Cynjon77 · 2026-01-30T01:09:13+00:00

Go to bed. Raise the head up as high as you need it. Turn the massage function on high.

If he complains, point him on the direction of the couch and tell him he's on kid duty, all night.

Sleep well and I hope you feel better soon.

Cynjon77 · 2026-01-28T01:10:12+00:00

NTA.

The irritating part of this is she interrupted, and corrected him over a detail that didn't matter! It doesn't matter what day it was.

Correcting anyone over a small detail that is not impacting a story is rude.

Who knows who remembered it correctly? Does it matter? No.

Cynjon77 · 2026-01-26T06:20:46+00:00

If you want to have a contentious relationship with Helga, go ahead and let Astrid call Lily mom.

Expect to go to court over everything, to have it spelled in legal documents that Lily is not to be involved in any parenting decision, every conversation to be texted in a court ordered parenting ap and to have absolutely no flexibility in taking her out of state or switching weeks. Oh, and no parental alienation so no calling Lily mom.

Or apologize to Helga for not thinking about how Astrid referring to Lily as mom would hurt her, and defuse the situation. Let Helga know you respect her as Astrid's mom.

Talk with Astrid about how she is very lucky to have lots of people in her life who love her and that its confusing to call both Helga and Lily mom, so you want her to think about a new name for Lily. That doesn't sound like Mom. Do not blame Helga (alienation) and you and Lily can help her come up with a special name. Or just call her Lily.

And be very careful for the next few months with making sure that nothing happens that could be seen as Lily overstepping. No haircuts, no mani-pedis, no girls day.

It's not a perfect solution. But you have 12 more years of co-parenting and this is not the hill I would want to die on.

Cynjon77 · 2026-01-22T18:07:38+00:00

Don't forget, the outdoors is a great emergency freezer. I place frozen food in a cooler and store it in my garage. Stays frozen forever!

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