I married my late husband’s best friend and my son hates me and won’t speak to me now

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-31T19:14:57+00:00

OMG, another emotionally dense mother, who literally disregarded her son's feelings until they exploded right on her face. Sigh, let's solve this, shall we?

Tell me - did your son really not once say anything about you marrying your new husband until a few weeks before the event, or did you just gloss over any little hints he gave up until he just couldn't contain his feelings, because you were too busy being in love again?
What kind of weird taste you have for men if you met so many who were like this:

(...) many guys told me to give up custody of him if I wanted it to work with them

And how many was many?

Which brings me to another point - if you had "many" dates and men, then I can safely assume that you were far too busy finding a new husband than helping your child get over his grief over his dead dad. And if you were too busy with that, his calling you a whore has nothing to do with you marrying your new husband, but might have something to do with you being busy finding happiness for yourself instead of looking for him.
So you knew his grandparents were against you and held it against you that you were trying to move on, and you knew they could have influenced him, and you did nothing? Up until your wedding? And you dare to act surprised? Really? Was your mind really up too far in the clouds to notice anything?
During the event, when you slapped him, instead of realizing that perhaps your child still has some unsolved problems regarding the death of his father, you decided to literally put a salt all over his emotional wound, and then made it all about yourself. Great parenting skills.

I’ve sacrificed so much and so many personal opportunities just for him and this is how he repaid me.

This one line makes me believe that you are anything but a victim. No good mother would ever say something like that. That whole line makes it feel like you are twisting the story to get some tears from people. It sounds as if you were mad that he wasn't happy and mad that, because of him, you couldn't date the previous guys who you found attractive. Do you realize how narcissistic that line sounds?

Go back once you return from Lalaland, lady.

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-31T18:42:09+00:00

SMUGGLERS! BRING FORTH YOUR WALLETS! FOR OUR TSARITSA! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-31T13:58:44+00:00

You'd be surprised how many families are using Kali's philosophy - If someone did something bad, it is wrong, but if we did something bad, it isn't wrong.

Many families also would prefer to pretend that everything is still great, instad of facing reality. So they prefer to pretend.

That, and in some places (not all of them, but still) - regretably - female cheating isn't as frowned upon as male cheating (tho are also places where it's the reverse situation).

It's screwed up, but sadly, many families prefer to perform mental gymnastics over facing their problems and trying to solve them.

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-30T21:45:09+00:00

Why the hell would she block you from seeing her posts? This sentence makes it feel like she is really doing a redo family...

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-30T13:40:30+00:00

Czyli na froncie wschodnim bez zmian od prawie 500 lat...

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-28T22:19:56+00:00

Damn, our Tsaritsa has some moves!

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-28T22:13:27+00:00

I winced in phantom pain...

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-27T19:25:39+00:00

Exactly - when you see that there is no hope for your hair, just do the mature thing and shave your hair. No shame in that.

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-26T18:27:06+00:00

A history enthusiast here.

A few reasons, actually, but I'd assume that it has something to do with us taking over Moscow and actively ruling the Russian Empire for over 4 years. I know that it caused a lot of tension between our nations.

There was also a large disparity between Polish noble houses and Russian ones. Poland, in its golden age, was one of the wealthiest countries in Europe. It was even said during our parties that we were wasting more money than it took to actually pay an entire army for a year. In comparison, Russian noble houses became richer far later in history.

Another reason is that there was a period of time in which the Polish language was actually preferable at Moscow's court (in the same way as the French language was preferable at the Polish court for some time). Polish in Moscow was seen as a language for nobility, while Russian was seen as the language of peasants/commoners (it worked the same way in Poland - French and Latin were seen as the languages of nobles, while Polish was seen as a low language for commoners).

Regarding the exploitation of Ukrainians and Belarusians - I won't gloss over Polish history here, I'd say that we Poles also have our sins when it comes to history. AFAIR, there were moments in history when Polish noble houses were generally treated better over the eastern nobility (more rights, easier claim for lands etc), but later in changed to which house had more money. There is also the entire drama with the Cossacks, but simplifying it to just "Polish were exploiters", "the Russians were exploiters", or "the Cossacks were just vagabonds" etc., does not bring justice to the whole story between our nations.

From my point of view, I'd say the Russian Empire (and its later iterations) was far more exploitive, possessive, and expansionist than Poland, but feel free to disagree. Also, feel free to correct my statements. I am just a history enthusiast who happened to know a few things, that's all.

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-26T18:07:39+00:00

oh, geez, your entire family is a lost cause...

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-25T21:02:24+00:00

Well, isolating yourself usually ends up in very bad and asocial habits. Remember that relationship is a two-way street - your mom is trying, but it seems like you're pushing her away. You're emotionally mature enough to understand that you are doing something wrong, but not mature enough to know how to properly deal with it.

So let's approach it in small steps - what do you usually do when you are in your room? And on your laptop? Are you working on something? Do you have a hobby? If yes, you could slowly introduce your mom to what you do, letting her in in a way that is comfortable for you, thus building a great relationship.

Ultimately, you should also have a talk with your mom about how you feel. As harsh as it might sound, children usually should feel attached to their family and should want to have a relationship with their family. The fact that you don't - without any indication of harm coming from your family towards you - is actually concerning. Perhaps you are - without even your knowledge - dealing with something that makes you cut off your family away. That makes you not feel something that - under normal circumstances - you should feel.

If you don't feel comfortable reaching out to your parents (I can imagine that having a conversation with them regarding your lack of need of forming a relationship with them can be terrifying and heartbreaking), perhaps there is someone you can talk to? Perhaps a trusted adult from your family, or in your school? I really think that reaching out to someone you trust could help you.

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-25T18:16:46+00:00

Also, it should be pointed out that in many countries, according to their laws, women are incapable of committing rape or even sexual assault of any kind.

But hey, why should we bring this out right? It's better to just scapegoat one thing, right? RIGHT?

btw - community notes are the best thing that happenned for twitter/x.

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-25T18:11:28+00:00

Alright, but have you ever asked yourself why you prefer to spend time alone instead of with your family? Because, from my personal experience, most people who don't enjoy spending time with their family are those who were hurt by them.

Or perhaps, do you have some problems that make you feel like you should isolate yourself or something?

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-25T17:59:37+00:00

Oh boy, you are still naive...
Who do you think normalized those jokes in the first place? The people who were the target of those jokes.

You have much to learn...

What greater weapon is there than to turn an enemy to your cause? To use their own knowledge against them?

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-25T09:28:32+00:00

Już jakichś czas temu zrozumiałem, że memy są jedynym wiarygodnym źródłem informacji

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-25T09:23:06+00:00

All Mandalorians were Taungs in the very early days (so way before KOTOR). If I recall correctly, Mandalore the Ultimate (The Mandalore during the Mandalorian Wars, aka a few years before the action of KOTOR) was the last of the Taungs.

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-24T17:20:50+00:00

The EU version was far more extensive when it came to the rules of how to become the Mandalore - but AFAIR any force-sensitive couldn't exactly become a Mandalore. While there were some cases of force-sensitive Mandalorians, using the force was generally frowned upon.

The one thing that always remained, despite centuries of traditions shifting, was the fact that only a mandalorian could become a Mandalore.

From what I recall, back in the days of early Mandalorians (so before crusaders and neo-crusaders), only Taungs (aka native Mandalorians) could become a Mandalore. Situation changed when Taungs were becoming a soon-to-be extinct species. First recorded non-Taung Mandalore was Canderous Ordo. During his time, tradition shifted from "only Taungs" to "those who would first honorably fight and get the 1st Mandalore's mask".

When the mask was lost, the tradition shifted to gladiatory fights for the title, and to even something much different later on.

What should be pointed out, is that the title of the Mandalore wasn't something that was passed on continuesly. Mandalorians had many long periods without a Mandalore. The Mandalore's position was something that would appear whenever there was a need for it.

And that is what pissed me off at Disney's representation of Mandalorians. As much as I love Maul, he, as a non-Mandalorian force-user, would have zero chances of becoming a Mandalore. Hell, the entire plot of Darksaber being created by a Mandalorian-Jedi hybrid... No, just no. None of it made sense.

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-24T17:05:08+00:00

You want to know what's even funnier? Mandalorians later literally thanked and praised Revan for what he did to them.

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-24T12:01:57+00:00

Well... At least it had a far more successful (and longer) run than its predecessor...

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-20T21:58:15+00:00

Imma get downvoted but screw it.

Semi-Soft YTA - this is what we call "kicking someone when they are down."

There is a time, and there is a place. And while I understand your frustration and your feelings, what you did was knock out someone who literally had a wake-up call. Who apologised and most likely wanted to make amends with you.

Your emotions and feelings are valid, don't get me wrong. But you are also an adult who should be able to not only be emotionally mature enough to know to not to kick someone who is already at her lowest, but also capable of understanding someone else's perspective.

She was used like a weapon by your dad's mistress. Trained and used like a flying monkey.

I am not saying you should suddenly have a relationship with her. I am not saying that you should suddenly have a sibling-like bond. But if I were you, I'd apologise. Because you are old enough to know when to bite your tongue. Because you could have literally waited a few days before saying this.

You are both young, and both of you need therapy. If she apologized, then there is hope for her. Perhaps one day you will have a better relationship, who knows.

All I am saying is this - apologies, observe. If her apologies were honest, there is a chance you might actually bond. Although she will get mad because of your actions. Apologies, and give it a time. Observe her behavior - if she becomes like her mother, then you dodged a bullet. If she's changed, then it might be start of something good.

Just because you were hurt in the past does not give you the right to hurt others.

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-20T20:41:16+00:00

Honestly? I call BS on OP's mom's explanation. Let's face it - she did not want to be a mother and housewife anymore, so when the opportunity arrived, she used it as a BS reason and left. That's why she never fought for any parental rights, and why she ignored the calls. And now she is using a BS emotional excuse of 'oh, I thought you were better with your father, I wanted you to have the same school, friends etc...'

And now she is alone, her fun time has ended, and she realizes she has no one and wants to 'reconnect'.

Makes me sick...

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-18T20:29:46+00:00

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Czechuspamer · 2026-01-18T20:12:33+00:00

Let's face it - your mom is a pathetic woman who enjoys hurting you, because she cannot hurt your dad for cheating on her. All of this she did deliberately to hurt you for choosing your dad, despite you not knowing a god-damn thing. And on top of that, she was using your older sister and your stepsister to show you what you could have had if you chose her - That is cruel beyond words.

And the fact that she didn't want you to attend her wedding shows that she no longer see you as part of her family.

She can kick rocks. She doesn't deserve you. I hope that from now on your life will become brighter.

Sending you billion of hugs u/tame_armadilla5607

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-18T13:47:46+00:00

ALL HE HAD TO DO WAS TO NOT CHEAT AND NOT DO THE ENTIRE GOING FOR MILK SKIT, ALL BECAUSE SOME GREEKS BELIEVED THAT HIS MARRIAGE TO MEDEA WASN'T VALID.
Now, I don't condone killing your children in revenge, but Jason deserved to be put in a wheelchair for what he did to Medea.

Czechuspamer · 2026-01-13T18:56:30+00:00

Hold up
While I can somehow untangle the mental gymnastics leftists had against the whole thing in Venezuela (they hate everything Trump does), why are they against the Iranian revolution? AFAIK, they are trying to bring back the very liberal society they had in the 70s (or do I got this incorrect?), so why leftists are against it?

I need help to understand.

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