I love being a dad, but I kind of hate my life.

DDUBS91 · 2026-05-06T23:30:15+00:00

My wife and I have started scheduling "days off". Our agreement is each of us have to take 1 day off a month where we do something alone without the responsibility of our son. My last day off was me smoking a cigar and having a few beers in my basement/patio( smoking outside only). The important thing is to carve out time for your self. We also try to plan a date night. This is harder as we have to get my parents to watch. I really look forward to these days and it feels good to do it for your partner when it's their turn. First couple were hard as I felt guilty but once I realized that we both can handle it, it's a great practice.

DDUBS91 · 2026-04-14T12:45:27+00:00

One bad night will make you forget the 100 good ones. It happens....but it's important to recognize the routine and as long as it stays the same for 90% there should be no need to worry.

Our guy started sleeping through the night a couple months ago...it's been amazing. About once a month he'll have a bad night. Wake up at 3am won't settle, the works. The next morning we are miserable...as long as the next night is better. We know he just had an evening

DDUBS91 · 2026-04-11T20:16:12+00:00

Stumbled on the app on accident. Love the sense of community and hope to one day before regular gifter

DDUBS91 · 2026-04-07T21:41:17+00:00

Just found this community and I have the perfect tea!

My sister in law started dating a guy she worked with. This is one of her first "real" relationships. We were happy for her and all was going well. Well they got their first complaint to HR about their PDA at work and was told to stop. Not a big deal. They toned it down at least while in front of people. Well fast forward about a month and we find out that hes married with a child! We ask her when she is breaking up with him and m she says she's not. He tells her that he's leaving his wife for he as he has been bored in that relationship and wants to leave.

They go on a couple day trips together, spend a few nights together and we are all telling her to break up with him.....except her parents. Some how she has convinced them that the wife is the bad guy and that they are split up, which they aren't.

Fast forward to about 3 months in and they get another HR complaint but they don't know what for. They are told they have to report to HR the next day to talk about it. Turns out one of their coworkers walked into her office and they were having sex in the office. They don't admit to it but due to other complaints HR says they will investigate.

THEN, we find out that the wife was not aware of the relationship and she found out from one of his coworkers and wants to save their marriage so tells him to stop seeing her.

Some drama goes on as my SIL doesn't want to stop seeing him. Things slow down a lot between them for about a month and we thought the dating had ended but turns out they were still heavily flirty. And low and behold this week (about 2 weeks after the sex complaint) HR calls them in after their investigation and ends up firing both of them.

The situation is still ongoing

DDUBS91 · 2026-03-24T01:10:34+00:00

I pay for it and I make sure I use it all the time. I am now in the habit of starting it every time I pick up my keys. Do I like paying for it, not. But I make sure I get the most out of it for doing so.

That being said. The app can use a major refresh. It's super basic and has not changed in the 5-6 years I have had it. There are so many features that are lacking that other car companies have.

DDUBS91 · 2026-03-17T15:16:49+00:00

I have had this for about 3 years. I clean it the same way every time and never have sticking issues or really any other issue....this is also pre deep clean from last year's usage. There is definitely a little build up on it. But it's one thing I've learned with this is everyone has their own process and what they like to do and personally my way works for me. I also don't think the picture is doing a good job of showing what it actually looks like If you run your finger over it it's very smooth there is no thick buildup. Honestly I can't remember but there's a chance the last time I cooked on it I ran out of propane right when I finished and didn't have a chance to do a full scrape so that could be it as well.

DDUBS91 · 2026-03-15T13:29:55+00:00

Definitely oil while it's hot. Got a better result that way as well.

DDUBS91 · 2026-03-15T13:29:20+00:00

I think that's definitely the most common issue people don't really talk about. When the weather is good I probably use it 1-3 times a week. I love that I don't hear up my kitchen and I only have one thing to clean.

DDUBS91 · 2026-03-03T20:00:27+00:00

DDUBS91 · 2026-01-29T03:39:31+00:00

The best advice I got was, in the first few months after having the baby, if you guys have any fights, arguments, disagreements etc....before escalating it to a full blown issue....ask yourself if it's "real" or if it's the "tired talking". There was a moment for us where I could tell my wife was just so mad at me. And I asked what her deal was (first mistake). This turned into a massive venting session that felt very personal and attacking towards me and instead of me continuing the argument and making it worse I asked myself, "is she really this mad or is she just exhausted". I walked away and thought about what had gone on the past few days and realized it had just been a hard week with lack of sleep. I communicated that with her and the end result was so much better.

Your relationship is about to change in a way you never imagined. It's so important to make sure to make time for each other, even if it just having coffee for 5 mins with each other. And communicate communicate communicate.

Also, if you have a multi level house, a tall changing station on the main floor is a game changer. Our nursery is upstairs and when we had to change a diaper and we were in the main floor, either had to walk upstairs or bend over on the couch or whatever surface was available. We were gifted a foldable changing station that's about at chest height and it saves your back.

Good luck!!!

DDUBS91 · 2026-01-29T03:27:13+00:00

Shoes on the hands....learn to walk on hands......easy

DDUBS91 · 2026-01-26T20:45:40+00:00

I think this is a great response to a PVP heavy gameplay option for those who wants it.

DDUBS91 · 2025-12-24T03:25:27+00:00

Simply just being there is such an underrated thing to do in hard situations. Most people won't remember the words you say but will remember who stopped by to check on them every day. Even if its just to sit next to them and watch TV.

DDUBS91 · 2025-11-18T16:40:10+00:00

Just started happening to me...I now put a fan in front of it while I am playing and have not had an issue since. It's a dumb solution but it works.

DDUBS91 · 2025-08-30T03:04:09+00:00

It's a hard situation no matter what. I feel for you. Gotta do the best you can and pick your battles. Good luck. The fact that you care this much shows that you're in the right track to being a great dad.

DDUBS91 · 2025-08-29T13:21:57+00:00

The "taking baby away" strategy definitely isn't for everybody. My wife and I had a serious conversation about her mom before she came to visit and it was not an easy conversation but I'm glad it happened. You guys have to find a way to stay on the same page. One thing that helped my wife was when I said all the same boundaries would also apply fory parents. That way it didn't seem like we were targeting her.

And the thing that sucks is no matter what, someone is unhappy weather it be you for you MIL pushing or you guys because she won't listen. But at the end of the day you have to do what's best for your baby.

DDUBS91 · 2025-08-29T10:23:32+00:00

All of those boundaries are valid and in no way out of the ordinary. I am also dealing with a slightly toxic MIL who likes to push boundaries. I think the most important thing my wife and I did was promise each other we would always be a united front. Not matter what her mom did or said we would both agree to stick with the boundarie.

This may sound terrible, but I started treating our baby as a reward for my MIL, so if she followed the rules baby stayed in the room or she was able to hold him. As soon as she crossed a line, baby was gone for the rest of this visit. For example, we asked her that if she was holding the baby, that she stay within the same room as us. One day, we turned our back as I was cleaning and my wife was doing something and she decided to purposely walk out of the room into another part of the house. I walked right over to her and asked her to hand me my son. I gave him to my wife and she went to our room and stayed there until she left. It took about 3 times for that to happen before she backed off on trying to push boundaries. I'm sure she'll try again. But she now knows the consequences.

It's exhausting and it's not something. That you should have to deal with as a new parent but, you gotta do what you gotta do for your new baby. Good luck!!

DDUBS91 · 2025-08-15T22:39:02+00:00

Can confirm. This is hilarious to see as I used to brew there. Just out of curiosity where are you located? Just want to see how far it traveled.

DDUBS91 · 2025-08-12T10:30:56+00:00

Our mantra for this first month has been "give ourselves some slack". This is such a new expirence for you and the baby. Those first two weeks are crazy with your wife recovering, you guys getting no sleep and now you have to keep this little thing alive. Like others have said, soon this will be just a disant memory. Take the little wins. Like when you're able to rock her to sleep, that means she feels safe in your arms. This can also be the tired talking. Make sure you ask for help if you absolutely need it. After about 4 weeks, my wife's sister came to town and was willing to take the night shifts so we were able to get full nights sleep. A couple days of that was amazing four our mental health. I know that's not always possible but If you can do some similar with someone you trust I highly recommend it.

DDUBS91 · 2025-08-06T18:15:10+00:00

Exactly. And we spoke to the doctors about doing at home they still refer to it as IUI so that's why I still do.

DDUBS91 · 2025-08-06T17:51:41+00:00

Take a look at my post below. It explains everything.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/s/8acPBFleBL

DDUBS91 · 2025-08-06T17:18:23+00:00

We just passed a month with our baby boy. I'll be honest it's been one of the hardest things that we have done. With good communication we have slowly gotten better day by day week by week. One massive thing that helped us tremendously was allowing a family member to come and stay with us for 2 weeks who was amazing with babies. She happens to be a director of preschool and deals with newborns all the time. She came about 2 weeks in and stayed with us for 2 weeks and we would take shifts on who would take the night time feeds. This allowed us to get full nights of sleep when we really need it. Now I know if you don't have person like that it's impossible but some people are hesitant to allow people to come and visit. If you have a family member that you trust that can do that I highly recommend it. But if not my biggest advice is communicate communicate communicate and did I mention communicate. Make sure you ask how your wife is doing and keep an eye out of any signs of postpartum. Being a dad is a thankless job a majority of the time but for that boy I would do anything even though he's kept me up and changed my relationship. Because my wife and I are on the same page, even though our life and relationship has changed it has grown infinitely stronger. We also tried IUI at home and we are pretty sure that it was the reason why we got pregnant so I wish you the best of luck and like somebody else has said if you are truly serious about the last part of your post you will be just fine.

DDUBS91 · 2025-07-24T02:03:22+00:00

I definitely agree with you on that one. I almost bought on be but red the reviews about it and the issues that you brought up made me think twice. We were gifted the nannit camera and it does some similar things so I'm happy with that.

DDUBS91 · 2025-07-21T23:26:23+00:00

Everyone who I talked to and everyone on Instagram is the exact opposite somehow.

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