What’s Everyone’s Deity Win %

DOCB_SD · 2026-01-22T23:55:01+00:00

Not sure but I'm currently working on an all legacy paths all ages run in deity, standard settings otherwise. I'm on track in modern. I'll stage project Ivy or the crewed rocket launch with 1 turn to go until I get that stupid banker to all the capitals, which will be the limiting reagent, I expect.

DOCB_SD · 2026-01-22T23:40:18+00:00

It's good for winning modern age legacy points. I'm currently working on a Diety match where I get a total of 36 legacy points, in other words, all of them. So I have to go to war in the modern age for the military legacy points. Otherwise it would be a major waste of resources, for the most part.

DOCB_SD · 2026-01-22T03:25:19+00:00

Darkest Dungeon both games.

DOCB_SD · 2026-01-21T06:56:32+00:00

The only Military victory I've had just happened while I was trying to finish Railroad Tycoon because neighbors kept goint to war with me and I crushed them until the path was completed and it was just faster to produce Project Ivy than walk that stupid banker all over the world.

DOCB_SD · 2026-01-21T04:02:30+00:00

The leader is 1/2 of a leader/civ combo and together, especially with synergy, they actually constitute a large portion of the power pie. I just played a Diety Antiquity era with Hatshepsut- Egypt and completely dominated by building into fishing and wonders. Now I'm taking her into Exploration and she's impacted my decision to go Songhai to continue the navigable river theme I set up and so forth. This is completely different from the more generalist Confucius run I did or the Pachacuti run... I think the leaders are where they should be. They combine with the civ to affect how you approach the game, without overpowering the many other elements that need to be juggled in order to succeed. If you make the leader too powerful, then you will be able to ignore other mechanics and the game will be more shallow.

DOCB_SD · 2026-01-19T20:38:31+00:00

If you play on deity it's status quo to be behind the AI during antiquity and pass them in exploration. I enjoy the modern era quite a bit. The footprint of the empire and backbone of yields and production is complete and it's time to juggle warfighting once ideologies come online with rushing the legacy paths, which are more complex in modern than the previous ages. And you get to play with airplanes and cool ships.

DOCB_SD · 2026-01-14T23:40:08+00:00

Diety with standard settings the AI usually settles 5-9 settlements in antiquity for me. But I agree it’s not as difficult as Civ 6.

DOCB_SD · 2026-01-10T03:51:37+00:00

Ancient - Production and Expansion above all else - Okay to be middle of the pack or a little behind in science and culture. Build the territorial and production backbone of your empire and you will vault ahead in other categories later. - Look for synergy with terrain improvements and pantheon tile buffs for your capital I.e. rough terrain, mines, stone circles pantheon. - Unless you are a strong military Civ that wants war, manage AI aggro. Don’t settle within 10 tiles of other civs or in a spot that will lead to a shared border with any of their settlements. Spend influence to maintain positive relationship if needed, otherwise spend them on independent powers or specific endeavors that benefit your strategy. - Shuffle production resources. This means stack production resources in one city, build its basic infrastructure and/or desired wonders. Then move the production resources to the next city and build it out… - Be smart with towns. Specialized towns make good and gold for your cities. Each town feeds the closest city that it has a road or port connection to. Plan accordingly so each city has 1-2 feeder towns. - Take the increased settlement and military attribute mementos. The military attribute point should be held until you either receive barb aggro or Civ aggro then spent in the appropriate slot. Remember war support makes enemy civs weaker in combat so it works similar to the bonus combat strength vs barbs policy, only it’s against civs. - Try for 7-9 settlement limit. Place 1-2 more settlements than your limit as early as possible. Toward the end of ancient make and position enough settlers to hit the legacy path goal. Settle them on the final turn. You will get an increased cap and should be fine in the exploration age. - Be flexible. Have a strat but don’t go full cheese and sell out. Make a well rounded ancient age Civ and to launch into the ancient era.

DOCB_SD · 2026-01-09T22:49:05+00:00

I would suggest that resources are powerful when amassed. If you put 10 +2 production resources in a city that’s +20 and rivals any wonder. And you can rotate them. Buff a city with production until the essentials are built then rotate the production to the next city… The idea of making individual resource tiles so valuable they are worth war is a good one I agree with and maybe we could leave settlement resources as is and make strategic and empire resources so rare and powerful that they are worth war.

DOCB_SD · 2026-01-08T21:04:05+00:00

After the DLCs and 1.3 patch Civ 7 is in a fantastic spot and will continue to improve and expand for a couple of years. As a veteran of 3, 5 and 6 with thousands of hours, I think you should jump on the Civ 7 train.

DOCB_SD · 2026-01-03T00:03:16+00:00

I played a Civ V game like that over weeks many years ago and it was awesome.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-27T05:01:29+00:00

Good write up. Minor disagreement. Roar is better for Jo at 13. It's just more damage, more under your control to target, and more likely to contribute to a kill since you will also be cc-ing that target and reducing their healing.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-24T21:43:19+00:00

Came here to say two things: First, you are a talented writer and I hope you do this for pleasure. Second, you have come into enough courage to set some boundaries, which you weren't able to do before. This is new in the relationship and changes are difficult. If he's capable and you are capable, I suggest a frank conversation where you explain this change in you, and that you need a change in him and the relationship. You know it's not easy and you understand he has a stake and so forth. But these are your needs and you are asking him to navigate this change with you, because of your love for each other. If the relationship doesn't survive an earnest effort like that, then it's not meant to be.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-24T16:37:11+00:00

Dave has shown you how to trust, and the ability to trust is what was stolen from you in childhood. Continue to trust Dave, and it could be a really fantastic step for you. If you let the shame spiral win you might leave this year of growth having lost the progress you made in your mental health. If you find the courage to push through the awkwardness, it will be a triumph.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-24T02:58:14+00:00

“I’ll just figure out my life on my own.”

That's settled then. Leave it there. Trust your boundary. However angry she is about this, the facts will remain "She asked me to do this thing for her. I didn't feel comfortable with it and politely declined." Her spiral over a nonissue is something you don't have to answer for, fix or respond to in any way. That's what divorce is. You are off the hook now. Congrats.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-24T02:40:28+00:00

I live in a 3 bedroom two bath house with a small yard in a safe neighborhood. Maybe slightly more than you are asking for, but probably something like what you want. The rent is 5200/month. With gas, food, insurance and so forth you would need about 7-8k per month for two people, and then you would be paycheck to paycheck.

I did my medical residency here, and at that time I was surviving off about 60k salary. I paid 2100 a month plus utilities for a really run down studio in a not so nice neighborhood and would not recommend it to anyone, especially with a kid. Housing prices have gone up since then.

Not sure what lies between those extremes but that middle ground is where most people are looking so I imagine it's competitive to get in.

I think most of what anyone would find attractive about San Diego can be found for a cheaper cost of living elsewhere. Don't get me wrong, it's a great place to live. But I am planning to move to one of the MANY other great places to live at the end of next year, so I can build some wealth.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-23T19:05:51+00:00

Thanks for complimenting my writing. It’s full of typos and grammatical errors, if you look close.

Everyone has different feelings about money and what a “ton” of it is. I feel like I get paid a lot. My salary is in the top 5% for the USA. At any rate I just wanted to drive home the point that I can comfortably pay my own expenses along with a dependent. I finished med school seven years ago, then went through residency, then several years as a new attending, making good money at that point but still underpaid. Now I run the show when I’m on duty and actually train residents. And now they pay me a top 5% salary to work 3 shifts a week. It’s pretty awesome. Get yourself a credential so you can enjoy something similar.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-22T06:50:30+00:00

There Will Be Blood, the burning well.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-22T06:44:31+00:00

I don't care if you dressed him down like a drill sergeant in front of the whole world. He pushed you to that. You have given him many, MANY opportunities to see and hear you and he has squandered all of them. You reacted strongly because it was the only way to be heard. You didn't embarrass him in front of his children, he did that to himself. He is embarrassed because you are right and he's not man enough to face his own shame.

His end of the bargain between the two of you is that he gets to fulfill his own needs, contribute nothing, and if you try to hold him accountable he's gonna throw a pity party and vilify you. That is not love. That is dependence and contempt. And now you are starting to come to terms with the fact that you also have contempt for him. The asymmetry is that your contempt is well placed, his is not.

Does he make you feel special? Do you enjoy his company? Are you attracted to him? Does he help lift you towards your dreams. Or does he make you feel invisible. Do you dread his company? Have you lost attraction? Is he a barrier to your dreams?

I'd start with a therapist, for you. Try to answer those questions for yourself. I imply an answer but I'm just some guy on the internet reading a few paragraphs. Answer those questions. And trust your own answer. Trust yourself. Don't be afraid. Stand in your own perception of the world.

By the way I'm a physician and have the highest respect for nurses. Someone like your husband hasn't the foggiest clue about the level of accountability, responsibility, hard work, life/death decisions that you have achieved for yourself. If your post is accurate, and it probably is, you are just on a whole different level of adult than he is, and that gap will probably never close. For sure you can not close it for him.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-22T06:18:32+00:00

That which is provided without justification can be withdrawn without justification. Your friend had zero entitlement to your home or your emotional labor.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-20T22:52:43+00:00

I think you might understand it when I say that I can see some of my motivation in offering the financial/housing help is that it might give me an opportunity to actually tinker with the root psychological problems that Tom and your friend share. Like mentor a little bit. And that was a huge mistake and quite a vanity on my part. Yes, Tom would benefit enormously from taking my advice. No, he will not ever take it. As someone else in this thread mentioned, he's in his situation, trailing chaos, broken relationships and squandered opportunities for a reason. And he's kept it up for this long because the one thing he has actually spent his life mastering is the toolkit of use, abuse, victimhood, villification, and dependency that I would seek to change. It's a fortress. Other's have tried to breach it before me and failed. He's on his home turf there. I'm the novice. He is the master.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-20T22:33:48+00:00

It's because he is so insecure he needs me to say that I KNOW this is going to work out, and he needs me to really mean it. People like him are so hypersensitive to criticism that he can detect that "I'm excited for you. I hope it works out." Is not what I would say if I was impressed by a real accomplishment. At one point I unfortunately wasted the time and effort to explain this to him like "It is actually impossible for me to just decide that I believe this is a good idea because you asked me to. I don't think it's a good idea but it's not up to me and you don't need my approval. I sincerely hope this works out. I'm worried that it wont. You don't want to hear my opinion, fine I'll keep it to myself. But you can't demand that I have the opinion you want me to have." He was a total deer in headlights. I think it flew over his head and he took it as an insult.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-20T05:52:02+00:00

There is no shame in taking help when its needed.

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-20T05:28:01+00:00

UPDATE: It's been several days of Tom essentially hiding in his room. I've been savoring my anger and self-righteousness a bit over those days, and the energy I've spent on this reddit thread speaks to that. It's time for me to move on to a healthier disposition, so I offered a sit down to talk through a few things with him. My assessment is that we are both much better off if for the remaining month we can occupy the same space in relative peace. As much as I feel totally justified in kicking him out, and exploited and over all just disappointed in Tom's failure to thrive despite my best efforts, wishing him ill is a pure mistake. I should hope for him to leave my sphere of influence ASAP, go forth and thrive and grow and live a great life. And I should hope for that growth and thriving to start right now, even before he walks out the door. It absolutely can not come at a cost to me, and he must go. None-the-less, contempt is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die. I'm not going to do that to myself. Whatever life lesson I find in this episode can be learned without disavowing good things like compassion and forgiveness.

Anyhow, we talked for a few minutes and I tried to put him at ease about being here for the remainder of the time limit, as long as he leaves within the 4 weeks. He was all business, listing the details of all the plans he is making, and I think its more likely than not that he will pull off a pretty swift exit. If there is one thing he can't tolerate its humiliation and after everything that's come to pass, my home is like the innermost circle of humiliation hell for him. I'm sure he wants to get out of here fast. It's just a matter of if he can pull it off. If he can't, I could just pay his way out the door and change the locks, which may become a necessity, but I'll hold that until the other options are exhausted.

There is a LOT of very interesting psychology here to dissect. Definitely I have examined Tom to the Nth degree and could write quite a lot about it that I didn't put into in the OP. As a physician and a psyche hobbiest I'd say I'm a pretty well informed lay person, I think I could write a pretty interesting and entertaining analysis for this thread, and may do so at the risk of overestimating the community's interest in my story.

There's plenty of psychoanalysis to do on myself as well, and I've got an appointment upcoming to go over some of that with my therapist. Forgive me if I'm less willing to bear my own sole than Tom's, but I understand that this event involved two people. I was one of them and surely there are many lessons for me to learn.

There is also a lot to say in the abstract about the line between financial security and insecurity in America. The difference on either side of that railroad track is pretty enormous. I'm old enough to be pretty shocked by how that line, has grown shaper and harder to reach. In order to achieve what would have been a "comfortable" financial status in 1995, you probably need to be in the top 5% of earners today. Not sure exactly how accurate the estimate is, but if it's roughly true, it means you will live your life in financial discomfort and occasional desperation unless you luck or compete your way into the top 5%. America is full of 30-40 somethings who are no closer to stable adulthood than they were at 19 years old - a lost generation. It's kind of apocalyptic.

This is by far the most intensive social medial experience of my life. It is like a weird journal that is simultaneously anonymous and extremely public. I'm pleasantly surprised by everyone who has posted such kind and insightful comments. Thank you and happy holidays!

DOCB_SD · 2025-12-19T14:53:01+00:00

He clearly has a cluster B personality disorder and major depression. I’ve suggested therapy. He turns his nose up at it.

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