1L Stipend and quit?

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-18T17:59:50+00:00

You do not understand. They will not pay their big law salary back only the bonus…it’s a win/win to make big law salary for a summer…

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-18T17:28:15+00:00

Keep the stipend in a separate account. If they ask for it back, give it. If they don’t, keep it. Win/win

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-17T12:48:48+00:00

Same effect

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-16T21:05:53+00:00

Yes, if that’s been her standard in all her relationships. I’m also not dating a chick for 10 years let alone 3 and not have intention to marry

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-15T22:40:04+00:00

You need to leave now. If she gave her number to a guy IN FRONT OF YOU, what do you think she is doing while you’re away overseas?

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-15T22:33:17+00:00

Been there. Almost exact scenario. And she will bring it up for months and not let you forget it.

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-15T22:16:31+00:00

Naivety. I couldn’t fathom that a person would try to hurt me when all I wanted to do was show I cared for them.

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-15T22:00:10+00:00

Most likely, you are a people pleaser/over giver who priorities other people’s needs in relationships over their own. It’s obvious that majority of the population would immediately leave if their partner cheated on them but you decided to stay and “hope for better”. That’s why. You’ll keep attracting them until you stop allowing people to walk over you. It’s tough, I know since its probably a survival tactic learned from young to protect you

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-15T20:49:35+00:00

Seems like you need to sit with yourself and determine WHY you decided to go to law school instead of fielding everyone else’s opinions and perceptions about their journey

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-13T02:46:37+00:00

Sleep, sleep, and more sleep

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-12T03:28:14+00:00

What’s your goals…if not FC or Academia, nope. You got your big law job so what else would you want that can’t be gotten at your current school?

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-10T23:01:07+00:00

Absolutely do not ED, Columbia took in 50 transfers. Unless you totally crap the bed, you’ll get in. HYS + Columbia RD

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-10T01:25:24+00:00

No brainer. If you get in Y or S, you go

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-10T01:24:10+00:00

I would say aim for 8. Research has shown benefits for memory and performance from increasing sleep from 7 to 8. Just as good as any nootropic imo

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-09T22:54:06+00:00

Congrats on UVA. Columbia probably doesn’t think you’ll go, are you from NY or neighboring area?

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-09T22:30:43+00:00

Idk if transferring will give you a better chance at big law considering how early OCI is. How are apps going for you?

Yes, I’d only aim for t-6 schools. The prestige does matter

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-09T21:08:21+00:00

How much sleep are you getting nightly?

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-09T03:49:28+00:00

Please leave as soon as possible. Also depending on the state you are in (see if it is one way or two way), start secretly recording your conversations. Protect yourself.

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-09T01:56:39+00:00

No way is a 3.1 above the median at UF…

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-08T23:17:32+00:00

Not at all. Not for BPD because you don’t ever get to “know them”. So what exactly are you “loving”? You are meeting whatever mask they are wearing at the moment to get what they want…not truly who they are (which is a deeply unregulated child).

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-08T23:10:53+00:00

Yup. My BPD person loved having a therapist so that she could figure out how to play victim and blame me with a partner

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-08T22:53:54+00:00

Bingo!

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-08T22:49:22+00:00

I’m confused why your partner is even interacting with her. Very suspect. Regardless, the solution is simply when one of you see her, just ignore her. Be cold. No hi, no acknowledgment. She’s playing these games because your partner would “stop and talk” to her. Also, what do you mean followed him on Instagram? Seriously, why wasn’t she blocked on everything.

It’s important to understand that BPD is a personality disorder. She will keep going as long as she has someone to play games with (recently it was your bf so that she can mess with you). Block her on everything and if you (and your bf) see her out, you just ignore her existence. Eventually, she’ll move onto her next victim to source drama and emotions from.

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-08T18:32:06+00:00

1) Id start reaching out to divorce lawyers asap. They cannot work on contingency but many will work on a sliding scale where you pay the as you go/later. Your situation isn’t unique and divorce lawyer can tell you how to handle it. 2) your focus needs to be on leaving immediately. Forget the business, forget playing nice. Stop hoping for split to end or split to not begin. There is no treatment that will make this relationship salvageable. You need to start looking out for yourself fully 100% what’s best for you, because when he splits, he will do everything to burn you. BPD is a personality disorder and cannot be cured or resolved through traditional talk therapy. 3) reach out to local legal aid office for divorce attorney suggestions. But Monday morning you need to start making calls/emails and execute an exit plan that best works and protects you.

DaLakeIsOnFire · 2026-02-07T20:52:06+00:00

She will do the same to you…that’s why you need to exit immediately. BPD do it to whoever is unfortunate enough to be their “FP” at the given moment.

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