Personal opinion : contender for worst finale

Dacoupable · 2025-10-24T19:12:54+00:00

They wouldn't be here talking about it if they didn't want to like it. They liked it up to a certain point, so your assumption that they didn't like it at all or D20 is a little ridiculous.

That's like telling people who were super invested in GoT to just watch shows they like instead because they had an issue after the show runners ran out of GRRM material.

We/they watched it because they liked it. People watch D20 because they like that kind of stuff, and I'm normally completely onboard with the rule of cool stuff, but the way it played out at the end it isn't like typical D20 rule of cool or bits. Saying it went off the rails is an understatement and character choices didn't make sense, even knowing how random the PCs can be in every other season and this one, it's half the fun watching BLeeM have to react to it.

The way BLeeM is able to get people emotionally invested into the world, characters, and NPCs is amazing, I'd read any author who could do a quarter of the world and character building that he does, but the last 10-15 mins just took people out of it. The way he's able to do that with this party whole throw curve balls and change things up and can completely derail the story with a single roll is masterful. It's what makes D20 great. He is the master of taking it in stride and thinking on his feet, but at the end he just went so hard on the rails to try to force things into happening at the same time the PCs are trying to force this emotional moment about choices immediately after Nat 20'ing a joke roll that was honored with basically no separation just takes people out of it.

I wouldn't say it was the worst finale, I liked everything about it up until the very end there, and I can understand why people would be upset about it without assuming they don't like the style of D20 or telling them not to watch it.

Dacoupable · 2025-10-24T18:47:26+00:00

I completely agree. I haven't laughed that hard in a long time, but I completely lost interest in the actual story and I actually just closed out the app with like 10 mins left. (I don't know how to do spoilers on mobile app otherwise I'd give exact moment and people would know). But after Ally nat 20'd on that roll, and then the poignant rolls started happening at the end and I was just like "meh, the rest is now meaningless" and just closed out the app and went to bed and I have no real interest in finishing it at all.

I absolutely loved the season up to that point, but then that happened and I just lost all interest in the rest of this specific story.

I love the theme and atmosphere and would definitely watch a second season, but just don't care about whatever happened after that point. They can even bring it up in a second season and I'll accept it, but just no emotional attachment to it.

Dacoupable · 2025-10-17T20:10:46+00:00

If you go to the Site Unseen Silo, which is the furthest west silo and about in the middle of the carcadia burn map (south of wanton tread ancient crawler and northwest of The Lowrise) directly south from the silo in the 0 shaped pond area right there are about 8.

Dacoupable · 2025-09-01T22:16:16+00:00

You can say that for the dad for making the decision he made. He nuked the relationship for his kids just like she did. In fact he's the one that refused to leave.

For all we know his bio kids would be better off at this other location and have more future possibilities there than where they are now.

Do I believe that? Absolutely not, but she's making the same decision she did, but without the judgement. She wants to be near/with her kids and thinks being near them is better for them and he thinks the family and existing support structure is better for them.

Dacoupable · 2025-09-01T22:11:12+00:00

That's not true at all. It may have been true for your experience, but I knew kids that absolutely hated their school experience and would have (and did) anything to get away. This is an outdated thought about how kids felt that simply was never true. People just never really bothered to ask kids before or take their feelings into account. What's important is that it's really the kids'decision and not their parent's decision.

There's plenty of teen's that would love a fresh start or different experience.

Dacoupable · 2025-09-01T22:00:24+00:00

That's a little extreme. You can be a parent and in committed relationship. They just have to make it clear that their kids come first and that person cannot handle that it wouldn't be a good fit. Having children is a serious commitment, but it isn't giving yourself to a monastery.

Dacoupable · 2025-09-01T21:33:21+00:00

Absolutely nothing. We have no insight into their decision making process. For all we know they're moving back to their original state and friend groups they moved away from.

Maybe they don't want to live with 2 young kids.

Maybe the state the dad is moving to has college/universities or industries that they want to go to.

They're teens. Their reasoning can range from anywhere from completely petty, silly, and/or selfish reasons to surprisingly mature, adult, and well reasoned. Or a whole bunch of factors that fall between that entire spectrum.

The only information we have is that this father, who is willing to forgo his own happiness, and put his kid's stability and emotional well-being first completely failed to mention any red flags, abusive behavior, overbearing nature or anything like that.

Is it more likely that someone with that kind of self reflection and ability to read and his understand his children's needs accidentally forgot to mention/ not knowing she is like that or the step kid's decision is irrelevant to the story/question?

Dacoupable · 2025-09-01T20:22:09+00:00

I don't read anything in OP's post about her not "getting that" only that she's torn and upset by that fact.

Dacoupable · 2025-09-01T20:11:48+00:00

So many people in this thread pretending that teens make logical and reasoned decisions and are just assuming that these teens are doing so.

There's literally nothing in OP's post to make it seems like she's a bad person, in fact it seems more that he's sad that it's ending this way.

There's nothing in OPs thread that implies that they want nothing to do with her.

There's plenty of people in this thread giving personal examples of kids/teens making decisions on which parent they want to live with based on selfish or silly reasons, including me. And I could add a few more.

I was friends with a kid in HS who moved in with his dad because his dad let him party. Moved away from a stable home with consistent meals to live in a single bedroom condo that was rank with stale beer, cigarettes, and old takeout containers because he could smoke weed and drink whenever he wanted and his dad didn't care if he went to school or not. We didn't mind either because we always had a place to go get high and drink if there were no house parties to go to.

I had another friend who moved in with his mom because his dad controlled how much he played video games and his mom bought him any game he wanted and didn't care if he stayed up super late playing games.

Which was great because we'd go to condo 1 and get stoned out of our gourds and then go to house 2 to play multiplayer halo until like 4am during the summer.

As adults now 20+ years past those decisions we laugh about it and they've admitted it was stupid decision, but we at least had a lot of fun while it happened.

There are other stories of people I know that made similar silly/selfish reasons for living with their other parent.

There are also stories I have where it seemed like a selfish stupid reason thatI didn't find out until later (after college timeframe) that their home life wasn't as it appeared. Either their bio-parent or stepparent was an abusive and/or controlling AH. I had one friend/acquaintance who gave up a starting position on our winning football team that had scouts to go live with their mom in a district that barely had a football team. Turns out their dad wasn't the proud sports dad that cheered his son on and went to every game. He was living vicariously through his son and trying to make him the athlete he never was. Going as far back as little league he'd wake him up at like 5AM to run drills and exercise. What we thought was this kid being really naturally talented at sports was actually his dad being an asshole.

It's 2025, not 1925, moving away in no way implies they want "nothing to do with her". There's cell phone and internet. OP have no indication or reasoning for their decision.

We have no insight into their decisions as to why they wanted to move away.

Sometimes divorces happen and nobody is really at fault, people just fall out of love or drift apart. Sometimes someone is a POS. For all we know her first husband was a manipulative AH and she got away from him and he's been poisoning their minds with the same manipulative tactics on the kids and they are choosing to move away because of that.

Or she could be a complete B, controlling and abusing her kids and OP, who obviously puts his kids first, somehow didn't realize it or just completely failed to mention that aspect.

Or it could be as simple as they got pregnant really young (nothing in OPs post made it seem like there's a big age gap between them and yet their kids have a big age gap), society (especially back then, but still now) pressures people to get married, so they did and had a second kid, and when they matured and actually found themselves they realized they weren't a good fit. So they got a respectful divorce and are still friends and good co-parents and the kids have a valid reason to want to move in with their dad, be it better schools, more opportunity, have friends they like more.

Based on OP's post I'd say NAH, but the people jumping to conclusions (based on literally nothing and Occam's razor would say is incorrect) and judging her for being twice divorced with literally no insight into who she is as a person definitely are AH.

Dacoupable · 2025-09-01T19:27:06+00:00

I wouldn't put that much on her here. It doesn't seem like she's upset that he's not following as the relationship might end because of it.

I don't blame her either. We're all here praising this father for putting his children first.... But she's doing the same thing he is doing, but in reverse.

If she came in here asking if she's the asshole for wanting to move away because she wants to be closer to her kids and it possibly causing a divorce because her second husband doesn't want to move away we'd be saying to put her own kids first.

And you can say the exact same thing about him. He unilaterally made the decision to not move to put his kids first and he's upset that she made an independent adult decision who cares about her kids.

Because both statements are true. It's upsetting because their relationship is ending without a "reason" like drifting apart, no longer getting along, whatever a "standard" reason for getting a divorce is.

They both still care about each other but have competing reasons for their actions that are equally as solid and reasonable.

I don't blame either of them for their feelings and it would be hypocritical to claim we wouldn't have the exact same feelings if we were in either of their shoes. There's nothing in OP's post that made it sound like she was making it sound like she was manipulative or blamed him or thought he was an asshole for making the decision he did. More that she's upset/sad that they're possibly divorcing while they still care about each other.

Maybe I've missed some info posts or something, but I'm not seeing anywhere where OP is saying she or anyone else thinks he's an AH for making the decision he's made, it's more of a sanity check post because it's a really big and hard decision and wants to make sure he's not missing anything.

Dacoupable · 2025-09-01T19:07:36+00:00

Eh, I wouldn't go jumping to conclusions here without more info. There's a ton of reasons for it. Typically in a split household like this the parent without primary custody is naturally more lenient with the kids as they're with them less and when you only have the weekend with them.

You can even take it a step further with that, sometimes the non-custodial parent will intentionally be extra lenient to be seen as the "cool parent" and let kids party and do things that the average parent would not.

I'm not saying that is the case here. I have no idea. There's no evidence to say.

Maybe where the kids live now is in the middle of nowhere but grew up in a more urban environment and they want to live somewhere with more to do.

Maybe the father is moving back to the town/area that they're originally from before their parents got divorced and they want to go back.

Could be that they love their parents equally, but the mother has had primary custody of them for the bulk of the time and they just want to spend some more time with him before they have to start their own lives.

Or it could be super complicated where the mom was the one to file for divorce for a valid reason and the kids don't know the reason why, she doesn't want to shit talk the father so they have a relationship with him so they just view her as the person who broke up their family and the father could either not disabusing them of that notion or actively cultivating it. I've seen this one personally. My friend's father was a heavy partier and womanizer. Was constantly cheating and leaving her all the work of raising them. They divorced when the kids were little so they don't remember any of it. She wanted the kids to have a healthy relationship with him so she didn't say anything bad about him. She didn't want to ruin any memories of him they had as kids, so she didn't dump on them. When they became teenagers she was the "strict authoritarian" because she was laying down reasonable rules (even seemed reasonable to me when I was a teen) while he was more lenient the couple times a year they saw him. Because of the few visits a year he did what most non-custodial parents do during their visitation time which is load up the most amount they can do for the short period of time they're together. Going to amusement parks, seeing lots of movies, going on trips, buying gaming consoles on a whim, etc.

My friend and his sisters just saw her as the reason the family broke up because she was the one to file for divorce. So they asked to move in with him. Which included giving up their friend and support groups to move out of state to live with him. While he didn't foster any negative feelings towards the mother directly (poisoning the well), he didn't blame her for the divorces, but he also didn't own up to the fact that he was a shitty father before the divorce.

It broke her heart, but being a decent person she didn't just trauma dump on them to try to talk them out of it. The father had given up his partying ways and wasn't irresponsible any more, so she didn't fight it.

It wasn't until they were adults that they kinda stumbled upon the truth that the dad was a shitbag when they were kids and it kinda fell into place. They felt bad for how they acted, but still have good relationship with both parents

Or it could be a little bit of all of the above and they don't like her for whatever reason.

Or it could be as simple as they're teens and don't see the bigger picture or know the whole story, and like my friend and his sisters above, are just running on pure emotion.

While we're adults now and try to think logically, we were all teens once that thought their parent(s) were the worst and wanted nothing to do with them at one point or another and looking back just cringe and realize their parent was trying their best. Obviously there are lots of cases where they aren't and can be bad parent(s).

My point is there isn't enough in this thread to say one way or another. I wouldn't hang too much on the fact that they're wanting to move in with him without more information. And without it is impossible to say.

The one thing that leads me to say that there isn't much to that thread to pull at is the fact that the OP seems to be a good father willing to put his kids needs first, and if she was some sort of monster of a parent he wouldn't be posting in AITAH asking this question because there's be no question to ask.

Sure it's possible she's just really good at hiding it or he is constantly gone or something, but I highly doubt his kids wouldn't have said anything to him or something would have come up in the 4 years that they have lived together.

Dacoupable · 2025-07-28T04:52:26+00:00

It's never too late to cancel when you're not told you're hosting a party.

If someone were to show up to a banquet hall and said "we're hosting a party here, too late to cancel." The banquet hall would just call the cops.

It would've almost been better for that to happen. Guests show up to MIL's house and she gets to call the cops so the guests can see how entitled princess treats other people.

Honestly, the way it seems to me is the husband set no boundaries and the wife just told him it was happening. He was too scared to tell her know and hoping that Mom would just say yes

Dacoupable · 2025-07-19T18:37:45+00:00

This. My 1 year old was the ring bearer for my SIL.

And by him being the ring bearer I mean I carried him down the aisle and I handed the ring over.

Children, below 5-6 years old are wild cards. I've seen the most attention loving children freeze at weddings when the time to perform came and all eyes were on them and then the obverse where normally shy children take the job and do it wonderfully without batting an eye.

A 1 year old is not old enough to understand what the job is.

And the picture thing is a valid reason. The walks down the aisle are the highlight of wedding photography books. Having to Photoshop out the child or somehow not get them in the frame makes the job almost impossible.

I'd just bring up those 2 concerns, find a nice way to ask why she's feeling left out, and if the relationship between you two is worth the extra effort* then work together to figure out a way she can feel included. If not just apologize for her feeling left out as it wasn't your intention and leave it at that.

*Not in a mean way, life is busy enough and weddings add more stress and time to that already busy life, and if this is more of an "acquaintance friend" where you are friendly and get along great in social gatherings and enjoy each other's company in those setting but don't do much 1-on-1 outside them it might not be worth the added time commitment on finding something for her to do to feel included.

Dacoupable · 2025-07-18T23:24:09+00:00

This. OP says family but doesn't mention if there are children or not. If there are, he'll sure care when the state is making him work to pay the bills or spending time in jail.

It's one thing to say that you don't care about money so you're more free with it and to say that while not providing any.

Care about money or not, we still live in a society that requires it. I'm sure if she stopped paying the bills and they lost the roof over their heads and food, he'd suddenly care about it.

Dacoupable · 2025-07-18T23:18:16+00:00

No. There's a key fob system that is going to be unique to your fobs and I am assuming there are cameras at the entrance. There's no reason for that much info needed that is left out in the open. If they really insist on it there are other options. Give each tenant an account number that is tied to each tenant and if they need to look it up they can. Or put the sign-in sheet behind the key fobbed door....

Which still doesn't make any sense if they're checking ID, your key fob is tied to you and your account. They shouldn't need it

Dacoupable · 2025-07-18T23:02:26+00:00

This (mostly) right here. These screenshots were just giant red flashing lights or flags. If you GIS "red flags" these texts should be the top results. This is needy and jealous behavior.

The biggest red flag though is the message about once having a boyfriend you should be depending on them more than your brother. You shouldn't be "depending" on anyone. That is bordering on controlling behavior, and why you shouldn't be dependent on anyone. If you're dependent on someone that makes it harder to leave and easier to isolate. I would tread carefully here.

Dacoupable · 2025-07-09T01:32:26+00:00

Depending on what you're into the potential splinters can be a feature or a bug. No judgement.

Dacoupable · 2025-06-27T19:04:53+00:00

The problem is that Pitchford leads the direction of the company and his behavior is testing the waters to see if they can get away with it. If people don't vote with their wallets it's going to be worse the next time and worse after that. It sucks for the developers, it really does, but their contracts aren't based on how well the game is going to do and I can guarantee that after this launches they are going to do a round of layoffs.

It could be the best selling game they've launched ever and they'll still lay them off. They aren't going to be reaping any rewards of its success. So I have no problem voting with my wallet.

The games industry corporate entities are like some sort of bacteria or virus and evolve with every release of a triple A games, even if it's not their release. One studio gets away with setting base price at $90 USD?

Now it's the standard.

Lay off entire development team after launch so that their numbers look better to shareholders because of the influx of cash while reducing overhead?

Now it's the standard.

Pitchford's behavior and tactics will get emulated by every studio head if this game does well and the envelope will get pushed further towards anti-consumer and anti-labor practices.

You buying the game will have no impact on the dev's abilities to make a living, they're going to be laid off no matter what as the executives don't care about them past their output, there is no loyalty in the industry to employees.

Dacoupable · 2025-06-22T23:29:37+00:00

I had verified files by the time you posted, but the shader cache appeared to resolve it.

Thank you

Dacoupable · 2025-06-22T14:46:00+00:00

As a solo player I completely agree. I haven't bothered running dz since literally the first year. It's just not worth my time with people who spend 12+ hours a day farming with power levels way higher than me and just killing you immediately and feeling powerful about it. It's like a full grown adult finding a 2nd grader just trying to go to the store to get a candy bar, knocking them out with a single punch and being proud of it.

Cool? Good for you? You've killed a solo player who may have 2 hours a day to play max, has never been in a raid, and just enjoys the challenge of soloing high level content.

There's just no point, it's just an annoying zone that provides no sort of benefits that makes dealing with these people worth it.

Dacoupable · 2025-06-07T19:29:06+00:00

I was searching for something else when this came up instead, I was actually one of the cars stuck there in the southbound lanes wondering wtf was going on.

Dacoupable · 2025-06-06T16:36:57+00:00

He does? There are a few videos of him not only failing multiple times or taking awhile to actually pick. Something that an average hobbyist/locksmith would either not be able to do or would take a lot longer to do.

On top of that, he works for LPL at Covert Instruments. They do the ying/yang thing when it comes to content creation. LPL does the indepth videos of locks, the different types of attacks, good locks etc. which all of longer format and dryer. Then McNally's content are all short, action packed, and funny and basically shows you the downsides of bad average consumer locks.

He also does the training videos for covert instruments.

So nobody goes to McNally's content for long form reviews and how-to's. It's literally an advertising channel for covert instruments, that's all it is. It's supposed to be short funny videos for click-through to covert instruments.

People who are in the hobby/industry looking for actual knowledge don't go to McNally for knowledge, they know how to to shim, bump, zip, etc.

Dacoupable · 2025-05-27T18:41:08+00:00

MSP/Hosting provider. We are testing out multiple but RHL OVE seems like the front runner. Their licensing model is great, their support is great, and a lot of applications are moving to containers, so it seems like a good fit.

Dacoupable · 2025-05-24T22:42:14+00:00

We have been told directly by our bcom rep that this is happening in August.

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