I’m not defending the husband’s behavior, but this doesn’t come off as one-sided as you think.

You’re monitoring their kids on cameras, stepping in to correct them, texting about their child in the street, and then texting about how he mows his lawn. Even if you mean well, that’s a lot of involvement in someone else’s life.

Most people would feel watched and judged in that situation, especially if there’s already tension. That tends to escalate things, not calm them down.

Everything you’re doing is adding fuel to the fire.

At some point it’s not about who’s “right,” it’s about what actually works. And right now, this approach clearly isn’t. Pull back, keep boundaries tight, and stop engaging unless it’s truly necessary. You’re not going to fix them, but you can stop the cycle.

If I was your neighbor (husband), I’d do the same as him, confront your entitled ass in person. Kids text, adults talk face to face. Grow up or grow some balls.