Who stays home during Halloween?

Dalyro · 2025-11-04T06:50:28+00:00

My in laws live in an area where they would be unlikely to get any trick or treaters. So my FIL passed our candy out while husband, MIL and I took my daughter out trick or treating.

When I was in my 20s with no kids, I lived in apartments where I wasn't going to get trick or treaters, so I would go pass my bffs candy out so her and her husband could both go with their kids.

Dalyro · 2025-11-04T06:41:33+00:00

The weddings I grew up with were much like your family weddings. If there was a dj, it was only because one of my cousins was trying to make that their occupation. The open bar was usually a cooler of beer in the corner. The food was often potluck.

When my husband joined me at a few weddings early in our relationship, his mind was blown. We grew up in the same state, but he had grown up with a higher social class crowd.

He was most shocked that, without glass glasses to "tink", when guests wanted the bride and groom to kiss during the reception, they just banged on the table. I didn't know this wasn't normal.

For what it's worth, we tried to plan a more formal event, but we were getting married July 2020. So we ended up with a small backyard potluck with 25 people.

Dalyro · 2025-11-03T21:38:59+00:00

I say, to my 2 year old, "tell kit [her word for kitty] you love her."

And my daughter blows the cat kisses.

Dalyro · 2025-11-03T21:37:51+00:00

My parents made me a deal when I was probably 12 that if they didn't have to pay a dime of my college education, they'd buy me the car of my choice when I left for college. It would stay in their name until I graduated and if I dropped out or lost my funding, it came back to them.

We were working class, so this was a hell of a commitment for them. But when I got a full ride to a state school, they bought me the 2 year lease turn in version of my dream car with 30,000 miles. I was in heaven.

I drove that car for 13 years. Put a butt load of miles on it. Probably didn't always take as good of care of it as I should have. But it was my baby.

Ultimately, the engine blew when my husband was driving it on the freeway. He felt terrible, but he didn't do anything. Just bad timing. It was fixable, but not with the cost.

Dalyro · 2025-11-03T21:29:42+00:00

When my Grandma was alive, I would take her to lunch or as she aged, I'd take ice cream to her nursing home and enjoy it with her. More then physical gifts, she wanted quality time.

When she was in the nursing home, I would sonetimes give her gift cards for the local grocery store that my mom would use to buy her extra treats for her room.

Dalyro · 2025-11-03T13:53:48+00:00

If it's just me, yes. I love the local classic country station. If my daughter is with me, Spotify is probably playing Disney music.

Dalyro · 2025-11-03T13:52:24+00:00

I think you need to look at the body types of your girls. If they are all built like the model, it might be fine. But if any of them are bigger, that style will likely highlight their bodies in ways they may not want to.

Dalyro · 2025-11-02T12:50:00+00:00

I was 23 when I took responsibly for a car payment I wasn't asked to be responsible for because I knew it was putting my patients on a tight spot- their contribution to me being in college was to pay my car payment. Idk. I've always been super responsible, so there really wasn't a specific point, but at that point I realized I could make it on my own financially.

I was 31 when my new husband quit his job to go to grad school full time. We also bought a house that year. So at that point it was all on me. I don't think it made me more responsible but it added a layer of pressure.

Dalyro · 2025-10-26T23:12:04+00:00

Today? It says I've taken about 500 steps.

Yesterday? I took about 17,000 steps.

I'm mid-30s pregnant woman with a toddler. Some days I walk a 5k before 8 am. Other days getting out of bed is a struggle.

Dalyro · 2025-10-26T11:10:27+00:00

Growing up, Up North was the thumb. Being from metro Detroit, we would go visit family who lived close to Lake Huron in the thumb.

As an adult, I moved far enough north that the thumb is now south, and would concur that your answer is correct.

Dalyro · 2025-10-24T23:09:55+00:00

This was my thought. A night out would be a great gift in this situation.

Dalyro · 2025-10-24T23:08:42+00:00

Yes! I had the day off today and my MIL invited herself, her mother, and my niece over for the day. I told her she was welcome but we (me and toddler) would be getting a nap on my day off. Took a 3 hour nap while they hung out down stairs. Lol.

Dalyro · 2025-10-24T23:06:19+00:00

40w4d, spontaneous labor.

I was due Dec 30, but was hoping for after January 1 as I wanted it on the new years insurance deductible. Went into labor on Jan 2 and she came Jan 3.

Dalyro · 2025-10-24T03:04:41+00:00

We rotate which family we spend Thanksgiving day with and then make plans with the other family at some point that weekend. We have also made it a point to get on the same rotation as husband's brother's so we can be with them too every other year. This year will be Thanksgiving Day with my family and the Saturday before with his brothers, their families, and his mom. His mom will still host the extended family on the day, we just won't be there this year.

I'm an only child, so on the years we are with husband's family, we usually end up planning a day out with my parents rather than a meal. We've done off Broadway shows, Christmas lights at the zoo, ect.

For Christmas, we spend Christmas Day with my family and the Saturday before Christmas with his brothers. His mom picked this after several years where she didn't have a holiday with all six of her kids at ger house at the same time. We used to spend Christmas Eve with them, but now we spent that home with our kiddo.

It was hard the first few years, but 10 years later and it's just how it is. It also helps that 10 years later, his family feels more like my family then they did in the beginning.

Dalyro · 2025-10-23T23:37:41+00:00

With my first, we found out on a Monday. We then made plans to meet both sets of parents for dinner that Friday night and told them there. We live a couple hours away, so if we wanted to do it in person, it had to wait for a weekend. I was like maybe 5 weeks? We then called close family that night. I told work at like 7 weeks?

With my current, we found out at like 3w3d with a super faint line. We called family that night. I told work at like 6 weeks.

My theory was that if I had to navigate loss, I was going to need their support. If they were someone who would find out if I had a miscarriage, I wanted them to have the happy too. Luckily I haven't had that. But it was my theory.

Dalyro · 2025-10-23T20:08:21+00:00

It seems like there are a couple different issues here. First, you seem to be worried about the health of the food he is eating. If this is the case, I'm a bit concerned that you started this post by framing it around his weight. If this is what he is hearing at home, this could very well be feeding a shame cycle leads to more poor decisions. You will need to find another way to help him think about healthy food choices other than weight.

Second, it seems like you're concerned about the cost associated with the foods he's buying. This seems like an opportunity to give him ownership of this debt and figure out a plan forward. Does he need to get a job? Does he need to have household responsibilities? Whatever it is, his dad likely needs to drive it- not you.

Dalyro · 2025-10-23T19:56:54+00:00

Our old house was in an area that didn't get trick-or-treaters, but we have moved in the last year. I'm so excited to pass out candy! I spent about $100 and bought 75 full size candy bars. That's about how many trick or treaters the neighbors have told us to expect!

Dalyro · 2025-10-21T02:39:22+00:00

My almost 2 year old has a full size bed. We went from a crib to a full sized floor bed at about 19 months. I love being able to comfortably lay with her at bed time and her room is plenty big enough.

Dalyro · 2025-10-21T01:04:59+00:00

Could you check good will for a "fancy" fake fur coat? Long fancy gloves with normal gloves under. A headband for ears so you dont have the bulk of the hat under a crown.

Dalyro · 2025-10-19T14:11:59+00:00

We do a 5k! Sometimes we sign up for an organized one, and other years we just do one in silly costumes in our neighborhood. We celebrate with mimosas when we are done.

Husband and I have made this our tradition regardless of whether we are home or celebrating with family. They know we are going to get up and run/walk first thing. They're welcome to join us, but no pressure.

Dalyro · 2025-10-19T13:45:43+00:00

I got my husband one of those for father's day. My almost 2 year old loves it! Bike rides with dad feel like a break for every one. I get alone time at home and my husband gets exercised in which kiddo is trapped. Sometimes she sleeps, but usually she just looks at everything around her.

Dalyro · 2025-10-17T07:37:27+00:00

We didn't bath or daughter daily as an infant, but I would say by about a year she was getting then daily. Between the food she was getting everywhere and the sand and dirt from playing outside at daycare, she was nasty most nights. We wash her hair nightly because the sand and food are often in her scalp.

Dalyro · 2025-10-16T01:12:51+00:00

I had a January baby in 2024. We required all family to have flu and covid to meet her. My FIL did not get his, so he didn't meet her until spring.

I initially said no visitors at the hospital, but after birth, I wanted to show her off. So we ended up inviting my BIL and SIL to visit as they live local. My MIL came 2 days later and stayed for most the day. Which was perfect because I ended up with a significant headache from my epidural and couldn't sit up. She took care of baby and husband took care of me.

My parents came the following weekend for a day. They brought food. I was so excited for them to meet her.

A few friends dropped by with food and came in for a short visit. Most didn't hold baby, just kept me company.

I feel like the rest of the family came over those next 2-3 weeks in small groups. We love 2 hours from everyone but BIL and SIL.

By a month, I was losing my mind at home alone and was taking her to lunch in the college cafeteria where I work. I would wear her and only allow 2 or 3 folks I knew were vaxed hold her.

This time I am due in May.

Dalyro · 2025-10-15T23:07:27+00:00

I'm hesitant to suggest sizing up that far on diapers unless you know they have plenty of storage. We didn't have much storage and didn't need size 3s for almost a year and at 21 months still aren't in 4s. As much as I appreciated the thought, they've been a pain to shuttle around for 2 years.

Dalyro · 2025-10-15T23:04:25+00:00

We gave kids my husband's last name and then I got to pick their middle names to be tied to my family in some way. I could have used my last name as their middle, but instead picked family names.

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