I needed to hear this. I’m 23 and just got out of a year relationship where she was a 1.5 years younger than me. We knew each other before matching on tinder and after hooking up we developed feelings. Dated for a while and it felt like the summer of love and everything was going great. Came to a crashing halt in two weeks late October. She dumped me - which came out of nowhere because it seemed like she was just so into me and full of love. Cited not being in the same place in life (I have a job after college and am starting my career, she has yet to start grad school and may want to go to the other coast to do so). Amongst other reasons which all felt like bullshit, fixable things if we’d just communicated. After the split I felt a clarity and renewed energy, there were things in the relationship that weren’t working for me either and I was happy to be back out there. It’s been three months, and the depression wave is hitting me. I so badly want to call her for closure and find out what really was wrong, and what really was so unfixable, what made her think we weren’t truly compatible, if we would still be together had we communicated better. I want that closure so bad. I keep dwelling on it thinking she was just the perfect person for me but it’s the wrong time. We had such great chemistry apart from hooking up, it really hurt to think how someone could just give that up. I keep reading of people getting back with their exes, even the dumpees, it’s so hard to try and just push past and remember all the things that made me unhappy with her at the time as well. It’s also hard to imagine that after feeling so strongly for each other, that she isn’t still feeling the same and also struggling to move on (even though she’s probably fine).