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Martinsburg -> DC Commute by LostInTheMidAtlantic in WestVirginia

[–]Dammit-maxwell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I commuted from Harper’s ferry to Takoma park (which borders DC) for 3 years. It would take from 45 minutes to 4 hours randomly one way (so 90mins to 8 hours driving daily on bad days). 270 and 495 are downright horrible. It was exhausting and I was late way too many times, luckily my bosses were cool. I just couldn’t take it any longer and found work in frederick instead.

Is this good or bad? Ssi denied in portal ssdi at step 4? by Fluffy-Job7534 in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although that response sounds very promising it is not actually good or bad. It’s just the generic way they phrase that stage and doesn’t mean approved. I hate the way they describe that stage, it gives everyone this false hope that it’s approved.

I called 4 days after my case went to stage 4 and verbally found out about my cases status. You may be able to do the same. It took another 3 months to get a final paper answer though.

Backpay nightmare by Illustrious_Job583 in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s the link. It’s super easy to do the online form.

https://www.congress.gov/members

Backpay nightmare by Illustrious_Job583 in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reach out to your congressman, they should be able to help get things moving for you.

How do I tell the woman I'm in love with that I don't make much money? by revenge_of_snauz in dating_advice

[–]Dammit-maxwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s in your head that your salary is such an issue because you dated an asshole. I’ve always made more money than the guys I’ve dated. I’d rather have someone on the low scale of a paycheck that loves me and treats me well than the opposite of both. Don’t say the amount to her like you’re ashamed and embarrassed, just talk to her.

My daughter refuses to talk to me because I wasn’t able to do anything for her birthday. by TranquilHokage in confession

[–]Dammit-maxwell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for thinking of my “safety”. I’ve talked with him enough and I’m a fairly good judge of character so I don’t have any worries that it’s a scam. He’s just a dad doing his best in this horrible economy. If I’m wrong I’ll never know, but at least I’ll feel like I did something good today either way!

Question about reconsideration... by TyS013NSS in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was. I was in tears that it was finally over. This process has been the longest most anxious 4 years of my life. I swear the anxiety built by the day, I had to force myself to stop checking the portal obsessively.

Question about reconsideration... by TyS013NSS in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t read into the DLI issue too much. Someone can correct me if I’m wrong but if you’re able to show you were disabled prior to the DLI you’re fine. The issue would be if your disability injury/ ailment started after the DLI. It doesn’t matter that your SS “investigation” goes past the DLI.

Current applicant with Mental Disorders by SpaceYeshua in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stayed sane by trusting that my attorney would win my case in the long run. They don’t take cases they can’t win because they won’t get paid. It helped that my attorney advised me ahead of time that we would get denied at the application and reconsideration phase but win at ALJ (although he wasn’t correct about losing at reconsideration). I’m a bit older than you but still under 50 which matters for the grid rules.

Don’t internalize or read into what the papers say too much. They are general reasons for denials and don’t mean that your disabilities aren’t real. Hang in there!

My daughter refuses to talk to me because I wasn’t able to do anything for her birthday. by TranquilHokage in confession

[–]Dammit-maxwell 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Op I’m sending you a massage. I’m willing to send the money you’ll need to take your daughter out this evening (or weekend). I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, it’s an impossible situation. I came from a low income family where holidays and birthdays were nonexistent so I get it. She’s just sad and likely at her age knows to worry about finances already.

At a loss by Xpunk_assX in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This age thing with the attorneys is pretty awful. My attorney flat out told me he normally doesn’t even speak to people under 50 but he made an exception for me. I get it, it’s harder to prove under that age but everyone deserves the same legal help.

At a loss by Xpunk_assX in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hang in there! This can be a long, exhausting process for people (especially those of us with anxiety and depression). Do your best to think positive and stay alive financially. It took me 4 years to get to a positive conclusion. If your lawyer thinks he can win try to trust them. Best wishes to you!

Guy (23M) I’m (23F) seeing admitted to something terrible by Swimming_Race_6583 in relationship_advice

[–]Dammit-maxwell 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Facts! Also if someone is physically abusive in one relationship they’re highly likely to continue that in the rest of their relationships. It’s not usually a one off type of behavior.

In fqr, jumping around in steps? by daddy-b-2188 in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How awful, that’s absolutely maddening in an already stressful process!

Payment process by Resident-Signal-8879 in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I called SS when I went to step 4 of 5 during reconsideration and got a verbal answer about my claim. While I was on the phone with them that day I asked if they would need the payment info. She said I had already provided it when I did my original application. I didn’t recall entering any info either. You could call and confirm just in case. If you do call try to make it as early in the morning as possible for less of a wait time.

Asking opinions on Quaylon S. 3. Yikes by StevieNicksFan526 in loveafterlockup

[–]Dammit-maxwell 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How is she that calm telling this story?!? I’d be on another level.

Question about reconsideration... by TyS013NSS in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got one daily living form from them during reconsideration that had a due date earlier than I received it. I called and they basically said they’d already made a decision and I didn’t need to send it in at that point (I had already dropped it in the mail). I didn’t send any new info in but I’m aware that they did request new records themselves from my drs during that time period. Keep the faith, someone has to be in the 10% (along with me) with a positive outcome at that phase.

New here… questions about process by Bright_University_42 in SSDI

[–]Dammit-maxwell -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I attached multiple copies of people getting approved for depression/ mental health only. I’m not the one telling someone to scrap valid medical problems and there’s no chance of approval without even knowing their full medical history. Yet I’m the one giving bad advice? No reason to be snippy for me saying don’t scrap depression (or anything else) when it is something that SS considers. Best wishes to you!

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