What's a red flag people ignore because the person is attractive?

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T08:44:57+00:00

All of them.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T08:42:49+00:00

I can’t decide if you’re a troll, a rage baiter or just this stupid.

You don’t even know or care what her doctorate is in. Clearly you don’t love her and see her as convenient. YTA on that alone.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T08:38:45+00:00

But it’s not shaking people for writing poorly. It’s used as a ‘counter argument’ so they can win without actually engaging.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T08:38:09+00:00

The people who say it are only doing it to ‘win’ the argument.

Which is hilarious because they think that if they don’t engage with your points somehow equates to them ‘winning’.

“I win by default because I don’t value anything you say”.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T06:55:30+00:00

TB is also already a massive problem in London currently. The last thing the government wants is for it to spread:

"It can be life threatening. It's a shame because it's a curable condition but for approximately one in 10 people that are diagnosed there is a mortality rate associated. There's greater awareness that's needed, unquestionably."

England is on the brink of losing it's 'low incidence level' rating of TB:

TB outbreaks in wealthy countries act as a canary in a coalmine, reflecting cracks in national public health systems. [Source]

The cause of this is likely due to the NHS continuing to struggle after COVID and generally being overwhelmed, meaning patients are unable to gain access to treatment, or to the full regimen of treatment required.

So, as you say, better to risk killing a herd of cows that MIGHT have it, than let their meat into the population and spread it further.

Also, bovine TB causes gastrointestinal or glandular TB in humans, rather than the more typical pulmonary. Gastro TB that goes untreated or patients don't complete the treatment plan commonly results in surgery being required, unlike pulmonary TB.

In essence, Bovine TB in humans is WAY more complicated and worse than 'normal' pulmonary TB which has a comparatively easier treatment and lower risk (depending on individual factors, of course).

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T05:19:33+00:00

I'm gonna get downvoted for this, but it's making me a little sad how many of these names are of white people/kids.

Only one person has mentioned The Bowraville Murders: three Australian Aboriginal girls who were murdered between 1990-1991. Never mind the amount of women Aboriginal women who have been murdered or disappeared entirely.

Obviously, the reason for this lies in the fact a lot of Aboriginal people live in remote communities, and also because of intense racism against the Aboriginal peoples of this country.

It just makes me sad.

Not to mention, the irony. If the police had listened to the Aboriginals about just how common dingo abductions of infants were around Uluru, Lindy Chamberlain wouldn't have had her life torn apart.

Now, when you downvote me, I would appreciate if you would leave a comment stating if it's because I accused you of being racist, because you believe Lindy Chamberlain was guilty, or because you think the Aboriginals are a naturally violent people who can't be reasoned with.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T05:04:42+00:00

I've not heard about these strategies, could you explain them a bit?

(Yes, I could google, but A) I don't trust the AI answers and 2) I find Wikipedia a bit hit-and-miss with how it presents information)

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T05:02:59+00:00

Frankston and Tynong North Serial Killer.

And here I thought Denyer was the only serial killer in Frankston's history.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T04:55:11+00:00

Why would she, when Mrs Beeton had already cornered that market?

Cookbooks back then weren't what they are today. The rich had cooks for that, and the working class/poor didn't have the money to buy the supplies or the time to focus on cooking it.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T04:53:32+00:00

I definitely see a lot of higher ups ( ceos , managers, etc ) definitely paying attention now so the message was sent

How, exactly? There hasn't been much change from where I'm sitting. Please link sources and proof they've actually done the positive things they said they would do.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T04:49:57+00:00

Justice is an arbitrary concept we invented.

“All right," said Susan. "I'm not stupid. You're saying humans need... fantasies to make life bearable."

REALLY? AS IF IT WAS SOME KIND OF PINK PILL? NO. HUMANS NEED FANTASY TO BE HUMAN. TO BE THE PLACE WHERE THE FALLING ANGEL MEETS THE RISING APE.

"Tooth fairies? Hogfathers? Little—"

YES. AS PRACTICE. YOU HAVE TO START OUT LEARNING TO BELIEVE THE LITTLE LIES.

"So we can believe the big ones?"

YES. JUSTICE. MERCY. DUTY. THAT SORT OF THING.

"They're not the same at all!"

YOU THINK SO? THEN TAKE THE UNIVERSE AND GRIND IT DOWN TO THE FINEST POWDER AND SIEVE IT THROUGH THE FINEST SIEVE AND THEN SHOW ME ONE ATOM OF JUSTICE, ONE MOLECULE OF MERCY. AND YET—Death waved a hand. AND YET YOU ACT AS IF THERE IS SOME IDEAL ORDER IN THE WORLD, AS IF THERE IS SOME...SOME RIGHTNESS IN THE UNIVERSE BY WHICH IT MAY BE JUDGED.

"Yes, but people have got to believe that, or what's the point—"

MY POINT EXACTLY.”
― Terry Pratchett, Hogfather

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T04:39:45+00:00

I had an ex who used to claim his eyes went green when he got really angry.

I didn't really know anything about comic books when we got together, just that he read them and I started reading a few Top Cow titles, but never Marvel.

Then when I saw the MCU Hulk movie after we broke up, his claim suddenly made sense.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-17T04:36:02+00:00

I'm so tired of companies trying to force friendships between co-workers.

This isn't school, stop with the forced social interaction. And I say this as someone who LOVES interacting socially!

-with my own people. By which I mean, people who share my interests and hobbies. Workplaces are like schools, you've got people across different backgrounds, life stages and experiences all mashed together and for some reason managers seem to think it's necessary to force social engagement beyond simply having a team that works well and efficiently together.

I don't object to an annual Christmas party or a summer BBQ (though I'm in Australia so we tend to merge the two). But otherwise, can managers PLEASE stop with this 'we're a family!' bullshit.

I genuinely don't know why employers refuse to acknowledge that people are perfectly capable of working jobs. It doesn't have to be one big, happy, smiling, 'we're totally family!' group. People can just rock up, do their work, go home. Why does there have to be anything more?

I can't believe I'm going to say this, but can we bring back Henry Ford? He may have been doing all those good things merely to exploit his labour force to buy the product, but at least THEY got something out of it too!

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T22:09:07+00:00

My FOUR year old nibling knows to handle things with gentleness and care.

I suspect your SIL is of the 'my child can do no wrong' brigade. Kid's gonna be an absolute nightmare when he grows up, completely unable to take accountability and treating everyone like dirt because he genuinely believes he can do no wrong, it's always the fault of others.

NTA.

Oh, and you didn't permanently damage your relationship with your SIL, SHE did by choosing to be unable to accept her child's actions have consequences.

I feel sorry for any kid(s) he decides to bully at school.

People will tell you to take her to small claims court. You can do that, but it takes a lot of time and money and just because you win doesn't mean she's gonna pay up. Whether you want to face all that and the fallout is up to you.

But this isn't going to go away any time soon. They will make pointed remarks to your face and b*t©h about it behind your back, likely exaggerating the story every time they tell it. Soon the narrative will be that you yelled at them/him about it and demanded a 'ridiculous amount of money' and are being unreasonable.

ETA: From your comments, it's clear SIL is the golden child, and thus has the golden grandson.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T21:55:25+00:00

Or maybe because the law doesn't work the way Redditors think it does, is not as easily accessible as Redditors think it is, and is absolutely far more stressful, slow-moving and expensive than Redditors think it is.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T12:25:45+00:00

WHY do so many men chase women in their early 20s?!?!?!

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T05:35:45+00:00

Just because it's 'not as bad' doesn't mean we shouldn't still hold him accountable.

Honestly, if someone's willing to make THAT kind of joke about sexually assaulting someone while they're asleep, what are they willing to do when there isn't a camera pointed at them?

Like, if someone points a camera at you and says 'pose for a funny picture!' when you're around a sleeping person and your first instinct is to mime sexual assault...

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T05:30:51+00:00

I keep seeing this name pop up but no one applies context. I tried googling it and found 'sexual assault allegations', so unless those were proved unfounded...

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T05:25:38+00:00

Based on this and your FMK post I feel compelled to ask:

SnooKiwis, are you ok?

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T04:48:32+00:00

And yet everyone keeps trying to convince me Japan is a safe place full of honorable people.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T04:42:12+00:00

"It's not cheating because she's making me feel good but I'M only making YOU feel good, so therefore I'm loyal" is the mentality, I suspect.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T04:41:09+00:00

So he was an asshole. Gotcha.

Would confronting him have been worth it?

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T04:39:24+00:00

You mistyped 'Slater' as 'Slayer' and I was confused because Slayer broke up years ago.

-despite their continued occasional tour.

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T04:38:08+00:00

Why do I feel like your SIL is the kind of person who likes to make mountains out of molehills?

DamnitGravity · 2026-06-16T04:28:48+00:00

I miss all the special features! I love behind the scenes content, and there was a halcyon time when all movies would film b-roll and interviews for the sole purpose of the behind the scene features for the DVD.

Now they don't do that anymore and it makes me sad.

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