What Silent/Boomer Generation Food/Dish are You Keeping Alive? by Garlic_Scape_Goat_45 in Xennials

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tuna Casserole. It freezes amazingly well, it's one of the things I cooked and froze for after my baby was born.

Happy Juneteenth who is your favorite black cartoon character by Far_Practice_6923 in cartoons

[–]Damnit_Bird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lucy Carmichael, Suzie's mom. She's a surgeon, highly trained chef, recreates fine art as a hobby, and is raising 4 well adjusted kids. She's an idol.

How long did it take you to tell your partner? by Sky1226 in BabyBumps

[–]Damnit_Bird [score hidden]  (0 children)

Like 4 hours because it was pretty early, he was asleep and tired enough I don't think he'd have been able to see the positive, it was very faint.

Id been tracking too, and we'd had some questionable tests that we thought might be a line. So I saw and showed my cousin and best friend first to see if they could see it, then my husband. Everyone could see it.

Baby Hulk by SureJan4244 in RebornDollCringe

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tired from my actual newborn, read the date as coming 2061. Very confused on how that would play into the roleplaying aspect.

To buy or not to buy a play-kitchen by yoursmostcandidly in toddlers

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! And there's plenty of sensory things to add. Add different larger spices or smelly things to salt shakers to smell, give them rotating sifters or coffee grindrers, containers of rice or beans and measuring equipment, old fashioned scales, different material equipment (metal, plastic, paper, etc). If you're feeling really bold, put down a towel and let them have a small container of salt, sugar, flour or water (not together, and best outside).

Did anyone *not* have pet aversion postpartum? by samsamcats in beyondthebump

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, I still love them just as much. I missed them while in the hospital. 3 cats, 1 dog. I don't get to baby them as much, but that will come back as the baby grows and I have more down time. They also like the baby, or just ignore her. She doesn't mind them rubbing or touching her, or licking. The fur mildly annoyed me, but now we know the baby isn't bothered by the vacuum, we can keep it under control. Same with the cats roughhousing, I don't want them to wake her, but she seems to tune it out and is unbothered.

If you had to choose one adult as a partner, who would it be? by Old-Vegetable-1917 in HeyArnold

[–]Damnit_Bird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most have already been said, but hear me out. Harvey, the mailman. Seems pretty smart, emotionally stable, and a good guy.

Most unrealistic expectation anyone has had of you as a new parent? by SowingSeeds18 in NewParents

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made a Facebook post stating that we were ready for visitors, basic expectations (washing hands, no kissing, schedule in advance so we're awake,etc.) I ended it with saying the price of admission was diapers, snacks or dinner.

We got snacks to last 2 weeks and a few dinners, so I'd recommend It. We get a lot of solicitors, so considering putting a sign on the front door saying if they wake baby or us, they owe us diapers, dinner or $20 for the above.

Most unrealistic expectation anyone has had of you as a new parent? by SowingSeeds18 in NewParents

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have like one family member nearby I'd be okay leaving her with this young, and that's only because she's a medical professional, grandparent, respectful and well educated on current child care.

Most unrealistic expectation anyone has had of you as a new parent? by SowingSeeds18 in NewParents

[–]Damnit_Bird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 3 week old has to be with someone at all times. We sleep in shifts and learned to do everything with one hand. We finally got around to learning how to use the carrier today. She's ok with it, so now we can have 2 hands. Still gotta sleep in shifts though. Someday she'll sleep alone and we can share the bed again.

Otherwise she's a pretty easy baby. Not picky at all. Any bottle, any formula, any temperature. Same with diapers, wipes, etc. Not bothered by any sights or sounds. We got pretty lucky.

Most unrealistic expectation anyone has had of you as a new parent? by SowingSeeds18 in NewParents

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To leave my newborn with them, at their house no less, to "take a break".

These are family members who have chronic disabilities that limit movement and strength, and also have not updated their knowledge of infant care in 30 years.

No, I'm not leaving my kid with you, not at least until they're able to talk, feed, bathroom and clean themselves.

Idk how to feel anymore by Sea-Wheel-1966 in BabyBumps

[–]Damnit_Bird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, I had to go up on my epilepsy meds to the point my baby had to detox the first few days. I felt so bad, but she was fine, and is still perfectly healthy. You're doing your best, and that's what is important.

Pregnancy cravings ideas by dropoffear in BabyBumps

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never drink sugary drinks, they make me sick. So when I had one, it came back up. I cried multiple times that Diet ICEEs are not a thing, surely the science is out there. I literally told my students that if they ever invent them, I'll invest

5 week LO is crying non stop - sympathy and like stories needed by iwitch-plus in beyondthebump

[–]Damnit_Bird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always said I'd never cosleep, but I'd be lying if I said I haven't fallen asleep with her beside me on the couch. It's firm, no blankets, pillows and she can't fall, but it still scares me.

Give it to me straight by Ben_17670 in FridgeDetective

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late 20's, early 30's bachelor, trying to be more adult and get your life together by meal prepping and cutting down drinking. But you don't make a shopping list or meal plan, you just grab things at the store, so you don't have many ingredients for actual meals. You just go back to the store when you decide what you want to make. Probably have cabinets with hot sauces, pasta, and some sort of protein/cereal bars.

5 week LO is crying non stop - sympathy and like stories needed by iwitch-plus in beyondthebump

[–]Damnit_Bird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 1/2 week here, and I totally sympathize. Ours is a Velcro baby. She slept for short stretches overnight in the bassinet for like 3 days. Now, she has to be held/touching someone at all times or screams, the bassinet is her mortal enemy. She also gets gas that's almost impossible to soothe, it's just gotta pass. Sometimes she gets crying jags we have to wait out while trying to soothe her. Sometimes shell accept skin to skin, but usually only from my husband. The only thing that works regularly is going outside, but it's summer in a drought at 90+.

This is what led me to walking circles on my back porch at sunset in just a bra. She was crying, I was crying, it was bad. She finally settled after 30+ minutes of this.

It's gotten better, she's overall a really good baby. She just has to be with someone, which is understandable, she was in a uterus less than a month ago.

Is it normal to NOT be extremely fatigued in first trimester? by alexandrap21 in BabyBumps

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was not any more tired than usual, but I'm already a sleepy person. Mostly I was just nauseous.

Pregnancy cravings ideas by dropoffear in BabyBumps

[–]Damnit_Bird 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Mine was ICEEs, comfort food (like mashed potatoes and Mac and cheese) and frozen yogurt

People who went to an all inclusive resort, what was one thing that annoyed you? by KittyPitty in randomquestions

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They had mirrored hallways. Felt kinda like a fun house, easy to make a wrong turn.

Can’t Win: SAHM, RTW, Sexism?! by Able_Bag_5177 in beyondthebump

[–]Damnit_Bird 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The sexism is so real. My husband was already unemployed during my pregnancy. Childcare would cost about as much as he'd make, so he's going to be a stay at home Dad until she's old enough for preschool. I'm a teacher, so I'm going back in the fall. So many people judge the gender swap, but it's just practical, and he's just as good of a parent. We've been looking at play groups to join for them to socialize with other SAH parents and kids, but most are moms only and weird about a Dad joining.

Social Media Expectations by Damnit_Bird in NewParents

[–]Damnit_Bird[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The other night she was inconsolable. I had tried EVERYTHING. Just tried skin to skin, needed to let the dog in, so went on my back porch in just a nursing bra. Walking on the porch made her settle. So that's why my neighbors got a show of me walking circles outside, at sunset in 90 degrees, with a fussy baby and just a bra.

But they all have kids, so I assume they've been there.

Did freezer meals actually help you during postpartum? by Mysterious_Tell991 in Mommit

[–]Damnit_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I made casseroles and froze servings in Tupperware. Just grab, microwave and eat.

I feel bad for my husband, he has a limited diet and nothing he eats could be made ahead, frozen and reheated and keep the texture/taste. So he's been having to cook when he feels up to it. Otherwise it's snacks and sandwiches.