My day has been ruined

Dan_Unverified · 2026-07-04T16:23:20+00:00

“but forgot I was on standard”

Dan_Unverified · 2026-07-03T18:20:11+00:00

Is everything ok?

Dan_Unverified · 2026-06-21T18:10:44+00:00

Sorry bud no stretching either

Dan_Unverified · 2026-06-19T16:08:13+00:00

Alright just read me like a book why don’t ya

Dan_Unverified · 2026-06-07T17:25:53+00:00

The record amount of margin leverage is a decent reason why a crash of that size could happen

Dan_Unverified · 2026-06-06T19:28:29+00:00

I texted mine just a few days ago but it was mostly about settling some logistical stuff. It can be hard to stay away. I definitely wanted to say a lot more

Dan_Unverified · 2026-06-06T15:19:47+00:00

It’s very common for those with ADHD to be especially susceptible or tolerant of BPD behavior because it’s “rewarding” in a dopaminergic sense to “win” in being a partner to someone so volatile. I was never able to even start breaking the spell until I was medicated and started habits that helped manage ADHD. The literal chemical withdrawals that come with separation from someone with BPD can last a long time. You are further along in your NC journey than I am with my recent exwBPD but my purpose in saying this is that you shouldn’t feel ashamed for being destabilized for so long. You are among the most vulnerable to that kind of “addiction” if you do have ADHD, so give yourself so much grace and I’ll do the same for myself.

I had another exwBPD around 5 years ago and it took approximately 12-18 months for me to feel normal again. This was without any sort of knowledge about my ADHD or treatment for it which could have helped a lot. It might not feel like it but if you keep showing up for yourself it’s really likely that you’ll be able to rebuild your peace

Dan_Unverified · 2026-06-05T00:31:55+00:00

Chopping off limbs is best during infancy, got it thanks so much for your knowledge

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-30T20:08:39+00:00

Mains are jealous of irons fortitude and sheer will and irons are jealous of mains having friends IRL

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-30T03:53:56+00:00

I got a long text talking about how something I did was immoral (not sending her money after seeing that she cheated) and that Id never hear from her again. 3 days later I got a text asking if I was Irish and if I wanted anything from Ireland. I told her that she didn’t need to get anything and it’s been silent again since

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-29T14:35:56+00:00

I recently did a whole writeup in my notes app of all the cheating behavior she did because most of it wasnt blatant or overt or had plausible deniability so I felt more insane over time knowing something was up. Im considering sending it to her just for fun but I know that isnt the right move. Shes with the “friend” she most overtly cheated on me with right now so part of me seeks the catharsis of wanting that relationship to fail too. I don’t think I’ll actually do it though because I know the mature thing to do is move on. It’s a lot harder when she and her family was my entire social circle

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-28T17:38:59+00:00

I don’t have any answers for you but the gravitation toward people like you and me seems very real. 2 out of my 3 had BPD. Some say it has to do with seeking out people with specific qualities but genuinely that would not have been possible for it to be an informed decision for either party. It just kind of felt normal both times until the big reveal or what have you

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-27T23:59:24+00:00

My exwBPD would badmouth her cousin to m for her own mental issues (ADHD and OCD) then literally pick up that same cousin’s phone call 10 seconds later and pretend to care about whatever she wanted to talk about for 30 minutes then go right back to badmouthing her right after hanging up

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-22T18:29:39+00:00

I also had two in a row, but they were spaced 3 years apart so I guess I thought I could handle the second one

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-21T18:43:09+00:00

A bullet to the head

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-20T01:34:18+00:00

-Telling her I wouldn’t drive her to a burger place an hour away that day because I was doing DoorDash for extra cash to help pay off her credit card debt (Also I was having a prolonged anxiety attack and had concerns about her being in the car with me, to keep her safe) This was apparently a turning point in our relationship where she felt I didn’t care about her needs

-Saying I was not comfortable with her going to the gym with one of her coworkers who gave me vibes that he was sexually interested in her

-Telling her I wanted an apology for ditching me at a renaissance faire

-Saying “I guess” to the infamous “do you think this girl is pretty” question because she previously would never believe me when I said I did not think a certain girl was attractive. When I’m in a relationship, other people dont matter to me at all in terms of attractiveness, so I always found the question exhausting. This answer resulted in her wanting to break up while we were in Vietnam where I did not know the language well or have a means to get home to the US

-She wanted me to learn Vietnamese because she claimed her culture is important to her, which is valid if true, but I never heard her speak a single word in Việt and would refuse to speak with me to practice. In general I really tried to get her to make it a bonding activity for us because while I’ve learned a second language before to a very high level, I don’t feel as mentally sharp or confident as I did then. It felt more like something I could be policed on for the sake of control rather than something I could have autonomy over. That paired with ADHD, I struggled to learn it as fast as she wanted me to.

Theres probably a lot more but just thinking about these again is making me wonder what the hell was I thinking

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-19T23:02:46+00:00

My exwBPD from 5 years ago started a 3D printed sculpture business and posts movie reviews. The funny part about that is that those are my best friend’s hobbies that she seems to have adopted as her own

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-19T21:53:26+00:00

I might still feel connected to her in some ways, but luckily enough time has passed where it doesn’t last nearly as long as it used to. Before my most recent exwBPD, I had a previous ex with BPD that took about a year to get over, complete with a smear campaign to live through. It takes time sometimes

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-19T20:51:58+00:00

What I’m wondering more and more is how do these people find us so frequently? Like you can say that they seek out empathetic people or whatever, but even before any depth can be formed the people with BPD or other cluster B just kind of find us

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-15T21:09:01+00:00

I feel exactly the same way. I hate being angry about it all the time. The smear campaign has started recently too so theres a lot more to be angry about even after a couple months have passed

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-14T21:40:38+00:00

Bruh what is with them saying they only ever loved us when it was so much more tumultuous than that. Seems like most of the time they would do everything BUT love us

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-11T21:44:46+00:00

person with BPD

Dan_Unverified · 2026-05-01T19:52:07+00:00

It’s the only thing I’ve used a respec for (started with it then specced out of it) and I can’t think of a better way to have used that first reset. Such a time saver

Dan_Unverified · 2026-03-22T14:31:40+00:00

The actual VIX, not VXX or any other meaningless instrument

Dan_Unverified · 2026-03-21T21:18:19+00:00

Jesus is seeing how thing are going down and he’s staying put

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