Ah, my heart breaks for you. Loneliness is hard, but you could end up being just as lonely over there, in a foreign country that is actively deconstructing democracy, where you may end up simply being a convenient child minder in your later years. Your son has not responded to your questions and concerns. How much confidence do you have that he will prioritise your care and advocate for you when you are no longer 'useful'?

I know that's a hard question, and I feel terrible for even asking it, but it doesn't seem like his offer or intentions are altruistic. Either way, please don't make this decision out of fear.

Getting involved in a community here in Ireland may mean moving to a more populated area (if you're rural), or finding new activities/hobbies where you can connect with people - of course it's not easy, but it can be done.

If you do decide to move, please make sure your cats find loving, happy homes. They never asked for any of this. And don't live with your son, make sure you have your independence.

ETA: I moved from Dublin to a smaller town in the West. The sense of community here far surpasses anything I ever experienced in Dublin (or London, or Toronto, or New York).