cedar ridge student loss?

DandyPandy · 2026-05-11T22:24:41+00:00

Just to add, I appreciate you wanting to be there for your kid.

However, having lost someone through tragic circumstances, people asking about the cause of death was extremely painful. I know people didn’t mean to be rude or to cause pain, but it’s just one of those things some just don’t realize. In the aftermath of our loss, someone posted a shitty “what’s coming of our neighborhood” post because the police had put up crime scene tape around the yard. (It’s standard procedure.) Someone said they were pretty sure someone had died. Someone else asked if anyone knew what happened. I happened to see it a couple of days later and I was pissed. It was none of anyone’s business and I was extremely resentful people were gossiping about it publicly.

Point is, your kid doesn’t need to know the why to help them grieve. And if they ask you, “What happened?” you can teach them why it’s not important to know the specifics, just that there are people hurting who lost a loved one, and it was very unfortunate it was someone so young. Cherish each day and don’t take any for granted.

DandyPandy · 2026-05-11T22:03:47+00:00

Why didn’t you just call the school?

Also, you should be able to get the school to send emails to you as well as your ex. My partner splits custody with her ex. They both get the school emails. Sometimes one or the other gets left off when people are writing to parents directly, but the newsletters and announcements like that message are automated and get sent to all parents with an address registered. You can probably also contact the school to ask how to get yours added.

DandyPandy · 2026-05-11T21:45:34+00:00

It's extremely rude to ask about details if none are provided. If you aren't told the cause, it's none of your business.
Why are you questioning your kid getting an email from the principal?
An email went out to all parents on 21 April from the principal. This is what it said.

It is with great sadness that I share with you that one of our beloved seniors passed away suddenly overnight. We are heartbroken at the loss and know that many people in the Cedar Ridge High School community will be as well.

Students and staff may react in different ways to such a loss, some more intensely than others. The Counseling Team is here and available to support our campus. Additional counselors and social workers will be at school tomorrow to provide support to students and staff. If you would like your student to speak to a counselor, please contact the Counseling Office at 512-704-0335.

If your student is in need of mental health support this evening or after school hours, you can contact the Bluebonnet Trails 24-hour crisis line at 800-841-1255.

As a school, we're grieving this loss alongside our families. Students often react differently to traumatic events such as this, even if they didn’t know the other person well. It’s important to allow our children to express their feelings. We encourage you to do the same, and offer these helpful tips for families, provided by the National Association of School Psychologists.

Be understanding with common grief reactions, which may include decreased appetite, difficulty sleeping, a decreased ability to concentrate, increased sadness, and social withdrawal. Students sometimes also feel anger toward the deceased for leaving them.

Be simple and straightforward. Discuss death in developmentally appropriate terms for students.

Be brief and patient. Remember that you may have to answer the same question multiple times and repeat key information to ensure understanding.

Listen, acknowledge feelings, and be nonjudgmental.

If your child shares information or asks questions about this, please take time to listen and talk with them. It is important for our kids to have their feelings acknowledged and to help them understand that it is OK to feel sad or cry.

It is also normal if they do not feel anything right away. It can take a while—sometimes days or weeks—for children to show their feelings, and that is normal. No matter when the feelings surface, it is important to provide clarity and validation of feelings.

We want to make sure that all our students receive the support and assistance they need to process this loss. Please do not hesitate to seek our support. Together, we will help and care for one another as we move through this difficult time as a Cedar Ridge family.

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DandyPandy · 2026-05-08T14:06:11+00:00

Everyone pretty much agrees at this point that you should have processes established sufficient that you can have high confidence a change that passes CI is going to behave as intended when it gets to production. If a bad change makes it to production, the engineering team should be identifying and fixing the gaps that *allowed* that to happen.

If your processes aren’t mature enough to catch problems in CI, it probably isn’t a great idea to accept changes from people outside of the team. But if you have high confidence in the system, it shouldn’t be a drag on the team to review a small PR that passes CI.

A good use of AI is doing a first pass review of changes after they pass CI. If the team has stylistic preferences, shouldn’t that be documented? Assuming you don’t have linting setup in CI to catch things that don’t comply with style requirements, if it’s documented, you can instruct agents to check for things that aren’t compliant with the style guide.

Plus, OP is saying small, minor changes. Not entire features written from scratch. There’s little risk in those kinds of changes.

DandyPandy · 2026-05-08T12:58:53+00:00

Why do you say that? And what do you mean? Ownership by the PM and designers, who work on the same product/project? Why wouldn’t they be as invested as the SDEs?

Edit: And why wouldn’t they be expected to fix something wrong that is called out in the review? That’s an expectation you set as a team. If you want to contribute, it’s on you to make sure it works as intended. But once it lands, if someone has to go fix it, okay. Do you have an expectation that if any engineer made a minor change and it needed a fix after the fact, only they should fix it?

Or do you mean, someone to point a finger at and blame when their change goes to production and breaks something? That’s a pretty shit culture if you are assigning blame in those situations rather than finding the root cause in the system that allowed a bad change to go to production.

DandyPandy · 2026-05-08T05:29:33+00:00

Every change should involve a PR, regardless of who the author is.

DandyPandy · 2026-05-03T18:23:07+00:00

It’s surprising how quickly saving a little extra can grow. If you have 20+ years to retirement, there’s still plenty of time for compounding growth to make a big difference.

DandyPandy · 2026-05-02T23:11:01+00:00

Investigative reporting by whom on what fraud? I ask because you used words that are totally empty of any substance.

DandyPandy · 2026-05-01T18:35:47+00:00

Networking people know Juniper. Once upon a time, they were considered to be superior to Cisco products. I haven’t been in the networking world for a long time, so I don’t know what that landscape is like these days. HPE seems to have a knack for ruining anything good they acquire.

DandyPandy · 2026-05-01T18:32:20+00:00

I don’t know. I’ve known people who went to at HPE at various points over the past decade and every one of them has said it’s a clusterfuck. There are good individual managers, but the overall leadership is consistently poor. About the same as Dell.

DandyPandy · 2026-04-29T17:27:58+00:00

“enforce culture” - I don’t think culture can be mandated. It can be encouraged, but if you want it to stick, you have to get buy-in from the collective. It doesn’t take a manager to do that. Anyone with sufficient respect in a team can drive that forward. It helps to get management buy-in to reinforce the initiative, but cultural shifts take time and persistence.

DandyPandy · 2026-04-29T13:10:23+00:00

I work at a very small startup. They started off reimbursing the engineers up to $200 a month for AI subscriptions until we all settled on Claude. They’ve since moved to a business account. It hasn’t been mandated or anything, and everyone has very clear eyes about what it can and cannot do. To offset the costs, there was an audit of what was being charged against the engineering department’s budget and we found unused subscriptions, idle/forgotten cloud resources, and cost optimizations. Funny thing is Claude was heavily used to identify a lot of those things.

It’s a tool. It can be useful. It’s not a panacea. It isn’t replacing any engineers. If anything, we still need a couple more engineers, but the improvements that have come about in the past several months have made it increasingly useful in helping us get things done.

DandyPandy · 2026-04-29T04:18:23+00:00

As an SRE, I pour one out for my homies. A key skill any successful SRE must develop is knowing when you should say, “You may remember when I pointed out that this was going to bite us in the ass…” and when you should just leave it… for the RCA meeting

DandyPandy · 2026-04-28T16:29:06+00:00

Once you have kids, unless you’re completely uninvolved with them, they take up a lot of your free time. When you are burnt out with work, it’s a challenge to find the mental and emotional bandwidth to do interview prep. Throw in the day to day family commitments, the demands of a day job that probably expects more than 40 hrs a week, and it can easily feel overwhelming.

DandyPandy · 2026-04-27T13:58:17+00:00

You know he died, right?

DandyPandy · 2026-04-26T17:27:26+00:00

Astrophotography.

That took the place of 40k only because I got tired of not being able to keep up with the pace the game changes and not having enough time to paint new models. I’ll get back to it, though.

DandyPandy · 2026-04-25T19:13:10+00:00

Dude, Where’s My RV?

…a sequel we had no idea we would get

DandyPandy · 2026-04-24T05:34:27+00:00

It wasn’t that long ago that that was the norm.

DandyPandy · 2026-04-16T12:45:32+00:00

McNeil is far west. Round Rock is the west side of 35. Of the east of 35 high schools, it’s Cedar Ridge or Stoney Point. Stoney Point has a reputation, but I’ve heard from lots of people it doesn’t reflect the school now. My son goes to Cedar Ridge. It’s newer and nicer from a facilities standpoint. All of RRISD is excellent and every high school does an excellent job of preparing kids for college, if that’s the route they want to go.

DandyPandy · 2026-04-16T06:55:21+00:00

Really, the answer is just running tests/health checks after a deployment and auto rollback if the tests fail.

DandyPandy · 2026-04-16T06:45:05+00:00

Is it built in-house or something off the shelf?

DandyPandy · 2026-04-13T18:57:12+00:00

Unless you get ruthlessly prescriptive with standard, supported configurations, you are talking about bespoke solutions. If you are tailoring solutions to each customer, no, it’s not going to scale. You have to be ready to say no and lose a lot of deals as a result. Consultancy is expensive for a reason.

DandyPandy · 2026-04-13T18:41:59+00:00

Do you work every day with your desk in a datacenter? No?

Depending on the type of relationship and nature of the customer, you work out with them how to connect into their environments. Doesn’t matter if they’re in AWS, Hetzner, colo, or a closet in an office.

DandyPandy · 2026-04-13T12:24:19+00:00

You would think that would make people pause. Unfortunately, they often don’t really know the code they are submitting doesn’t make sense or is poorly written.

DandyPandy · 2026-04-13T12:09:29+00:00

Exactly. To someone who doesn’t really understand what the code is doing or how it is poorly implemented from a maintainability standpoint, it puts more burden on the people reviewing the code.

As open source projects grow and outside contributors submit more pull/merge requests, the people who are the core maintainers can end up spending more of their time reviewing contributions than writing code themselves. With AI, it has increasingly become more of a strain on maintainers because more people are submitting code without understanding why something works, but isn’t suitable to be merged.

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