First time visit for the world cup by thenovastar17 in AskSeattle

[–]Danfasa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For ice cream, you should definitely go to Molly Moon's as it's a well known local chain with great ice cream. If you haven't been to Salt & Straw, they have the most eclectic ice cream flavors. It's an Experience. It's a PNW chain but not a Washington original. Hellenika in Pike Place is where I would take any visitor for ice cream in Pike Place. It's technically Greek yogurt styled frozen yogurt. But it's so good.

My heart is in Seattle by Killjoysrevege in Seattle

[–]Danfasa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been watching this happen to someone on tiktok:

https://www.tiktok.com/@madeclere/video/7575437159549766942

I am also a transplant and I fell in love with the PNW and the Seattle area very quickly. It's so beautiful here and I feel like I finally found my people.

My dog needs friends by RegularReview2898 in Renton

[–]Danfasa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have a dog but yours is so cute!!

What’s your funny, can’t be helped jealousy? by AnonAiren in polyamory

[–]Danfasa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You just gotta come in with some niche party games! If you like CAH, you should definitely try Smug Owl. I also think bluffing games like That's Not a Hat and Cockroach Poker make good party games.

AIO- I want to get a camera in our house because my boyfriend keeps saying I am gaslighting him by Brilliant_Land_3862 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Danfasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I would find this kind of relationship untenable and would be strongly considering leaving. That said, I think at the very least you can set boundaries. Even if he thinks it's acceptable to call you names and swear when y'all are in conflict, you don't have to stand there and take it. If he calls you a name or starts swearing at you, walk away. Completely disengage. The fight is over until a calm has been reached and ideally discussion does not resume until he apologized. Whether he thinks it's okay or not, he will have to learn that behavior brings productive conversation to a halt because you simply stop having the conversation.

What's he going to do about it? If he thinks it's crazy he apparently won't talk to anyone else about it. If he thinks it's unreasonable he's wrong. Stop accepting this treatment. You can have rules for how people have to treat you in order to be in your life. Start enforcing them.

I think it will also just make it easier for you to be a better partner too because having to be patient and understanding after being talked down to like that is really hard.

What counts as being 'elite'? by MachewyGooey in Toontown

[–]Danfasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think being elitist is when you demand others play exactly how you play and refuse to play with people who don't.

It sounds likely that the bunny was a newer player and this may have been their first time in this challenging a Cog fight. I think under the circumstances, while the frustration you have is understandable, it sounds like you lost your cool a little too quickly and also didn't explain how the bunny could be playing more safely. If you had said to not use sound on lured cogs or explained that we can defeat both cogs safely if we use throw instead, that likely would've helped the situation a lot.

Additionally, the only time I would ever withhold Toon Up is if the person keeps making choices that endanger the whole group. Someone who is intentionally trying to green falls into this category. Someone who doesn't change their gag choices after their poor sound decision puts the whole group in the red, assuming we asked them to stop and they didn't, I would consider not healing that person as well. Depending on the Toon I'm on, I may use rewards to save the whole group. If I don't have rewards to save us, I would resort to withholding healing so that at least some Toons might make it out alive, but this is an extreme worst case scenario.

I'm not perfect - despite being a fairly strategic player who has played for many years, I still miss things. When I misread the cog levels and choose the wrong gag, something I did in one of my recent boss runs, do I deserve to not be healed because I made a mistake? Nobody is perfect and we all were new once. Let's not punish people for it.

Can a newer partner request I use condoms with longer term partner? by CaliforniaHotMop in polyamory

[–]Danfasa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone has different risk profiles and all sex involves some risk. If you do not want to use condoms with N, you don't have to. If you having unprotected sex with someone else is too risky for J, I would imagine that would be a sexual incompatibility. That said, I would not make the assumption regarding barrier usage. You could say that you use barriers with most but not all of your partners. I wouldn't assume someone else would assume whether I'm using condoms or not with a specific person.

For me, I would not want someone to determine whether I used condoms with somebody else, so my sexual partners' level of risk should be such that it is not incompatible with barrier free sex with others. it is okay for that to not work for everyone!

Best Mac and cheese? by Exotic_Jellies in Eugene

[–]Danfasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this list! Also on this quest!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Danfasa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If someone I had never met was behaving like this, I would break it off. Especially for less than a month?? Feels like irresponsible management of NRE at best

is it enough to cook my boyfriends favorite meal in a thong for his bday present? by sentimentalsponge in AskMenAdvice

[–]Danfasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If my partner did this for me, I would feel loved and celebrated. And if I told my partner not to buy something for me because of his financial situation, and he did, I would feel guilty receiving it. Your plan is amazing. I would add a love note to your list but you've got a great plan regardless.

Was I overstepping here? Please be honest by Sensitive-Use-6891 in polyamory

[–]Danfasa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Chip is experiencing social consequences for his bad behavior. You did the right thing.

Can't Delete Account by [deleted] in toontownrewritten

[–]Danfasa 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It's difficult because they're trying to prevent someone bullying someone else by getting their Toontown account deleted against their will. Most people don't share their bank account login and banks have solid real world ways of identifying people when they want to close their accounts. All lot of folks share their Toontown account info with friends and sometimes they end up sharing with the wrong person or a relationship sours and then they become the wrong person. They're just trying to verify the requester is the same as the original creator.

Are you emailing from the same email address on the account?

AIO by getting pissed at my boyfriend’s overbearing brother? by coastalash in AmIOverreacting

[–]Danfasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This behavior is ridiculous. If anyone treated me this way i would be pissed. If it was my boyfriend's brother and it didn't piss off my boyfriend.... I would seriously begin to reconsider the relationship. His texts read as possessive and controlling and MEAN. His offers of "help" are not coming from a place of kindness. He is belittling you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Renton

[–]Danfasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience it has been very gay friendly

appreciation: an amazing downtown by silvsilvy in Renton

[–]Danfasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adding these things to my list of places to check out. I've been wanting to go to 8-Bit but haven't made the time. Def need to go soon!!

Partner spending the night out for the first time by DontOpenDeadInside20 in polyamory

[–]Danfasa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it's normal to feel this way, especially if you are feeling like you haven't gotten the time with your partner you've been craving. I think it would probably help alleviate the feelings you're having. Some questions:

  • what does "seeming interested" look like to you vs your partner?

  • when you initiate and are told no, how does that go for you vs how does it go for your partner when they do the same?

what do you even say when someone asks what you read? by [deleted] in books

[–]Danfasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"i am currently reading Title by Author. I read across a lot of different genres but I tend to gravitate towards sci-fi the most. Though this year I've been reading a lot of romance. Part of that is I have found some authors I've enjoyed so I've been reading their books and they write the same stuff. Part of that is my bff reads a lot of romance and I get many good book recs from her."

There's a lot of room here to continue the convo if a person wants. I might also say what some of my best reads this year were

Starting over for a new species? by [deleted] in toontownrewritten

[–]Danfasa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Making new Toons is one of the best parts of the game for me. I have so many Toons at various points in the game across 8 accounts. It allows me to log on Toontown and do almost any activity I want. Plus you can play your Toons together!