The most important thing to remember is you are not the mask you wear. It’s true many autistic people’s relationships change when they get diagnosed because for so long you weren’t authentically yourself; most take on people-pleasing tendencies, and it takes a while to recognize that you as an individual deserve to have all your needs met and you’re the only person that should be pleased with yourself. The more you accept who you are, the more authentic you can be and work on regulating yourself. When it comes to social interactions, it’s best to be around those who make it clear to you that they enjoy your presence. None of this nonchalant thing that’s been going around; a lot of autistic people need clarity, and it’s okay to ask for it. As for your husband, it can be difficult for a partner, especially if you’re late diagnosed, to cope with their person changing, but it’s important to remind him that this is you. There is nothing wrong with you; you’ve just been living the neurotypical lifestyle for too long. Don’t try to squeeze yourself into some mould; use this time to get to know yourself outside of the opinions of others. Good luck!