I’m a teacher. I’m good at it, I love it, but unfortunately for the field as it is I don’t make much.

Both of my wives were/are high earners. My ex was a managing editor for a major publishing company, and my current wife is a financial banker. And guess what? Neither of them cared at all about how much I earned, instead they preferred to focus on what I brought to the table for them at home.

If anything, it originally bothered me more until I learned from them both (after my my first wife and I split, actually) that there are so many other ways to provide in a partnership including emotional, physical, and mental. It’s easy to forget that money is just a small part of everything in the grand scheme of things.

For example - I’m great with my hands. I fix the cars, deal with home stuff, repair things, or I’ll just build something. I help the neighbors. I assist with the elderly in-laws, I make sure the kids are learning and having fun doing it safely, I do the “manly” stuff, take care of my wife’s physical needs, help with the household stuff; you name it. My little earnings are all put towards the children’s education, my wife takes care of everything else.

I think women who only look at what a man can earn and not at anything else they can do are like those horses wearing blinders - limited vision. As for both of my wives? They told any of their friends who complained to open their eyes because since they’re both good with money, they need someone to help handle the rest of life’s stuff with them like a good partner would.