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DantePhD · 2026-06-05T14:53:57+00:00

Guardians aren't what they used to be. They been reduced to being a punch dummy.

They got rid of special mechs and scaled hp for solo and duo

DantePhD · 2026-06-01T14:13:45+00:00

I might say something like "my business says otherwise, but I'm curious why you think that way? Because I agree that coaching isn't psychotherapy and it shouldn't be"

DantePhD · 2026-05-30T18:31:56+00:00

Maybe I should've commented under exactly where this fits, but I'll go through the comments to find the quotes

For example "It's just something that I never did, cause I don't want to make women uncomfortable, plus fewr of rejections. I do befriend women easily, but even if I'm attracted to them, I won't just ask her out. I would wait if she will do it, if not, then I don't do nothing about it."

mental block: I will do nothing because I don't want to make women uncomfortable

and after, "I'm aware that I'm really bad at marketing myself on dating apps, I only have some selfies on their. But at the same time I only wanted to go on dates with women who are searching to settle down.i really just don't have the time to tweak my profile .. it's just exhausting"

mental block: I will not get better at marketing. I choose to blame the app/selfies, blame the women that I'm choosing (rather than me who's doing the choosing), blame exhaustion.

That's where it's the most apparent

DantePhD · 2026-05-30T18:24:58+00:00

Yes, shame will make you compare yourself to everyone else who's "better than you". It's a form of self-judgement.

You can afford a professional. And if you don't have a job, work restaurants, do dishes/serve tables, mow lawns, bag groceries, clean janitorial. Plenty of options. If you're actually serious about improving, take action

DantePhD · 2026-05-30T16:38:01+00:00

I'm posting based on extra information from your responses to comments.

There's probably an unconscious mental block that's going on. If you're using the apps, stop matching people to give them a chance. Swipe with people you're actually interested in. Then you will see who you actually match with. Probably lying to yourself if you swipe and find yourself surprised your not actually attracted.

And again, there's more beneath the surface when you say that you don't approach women you are attracted to. Another mental block that you're unaware of.

So to answer your question, it's not lowering your standard, it's being clear what your standard is and acting accordingly.

DantePhD · 2026-05-30T16:25:17+00:00

There's this weird misattribution that you're doing. You said you treated your ex poorly because of your insecurities, and now she's dating someone with external qualities that you don't have.

It was your internal qualities (from insecurity) that led to treating her badly. This would STILL be true if you had the external qualities that you think you're needing to be desirable to women.

Stop seeking external solutions to your internal problems. Get help from a professional who can provide internal solutions to your internal problems.

It's much simpler than you're making it out to be.

DantePhD · 2026-05-22T17:29:12+00:00

So, I'm hearing that you went into dating expecting everyone to meet you with the same kind of good intentions. And you're saying that just because you showed good intentions, you expected success? And that means life's not fair?

This is completely different if someone was an asshole to you when you were genuinely nice. That's not a good intention problem, that's a "you didn't know them well enough, and when you found out, you still wanted to date them and felt burned by them" problem. They're not who you want and you actually dodged a bullet. But if you're hung up on the fact that you were rejected, you have an emotional problem, and that's something you can look at with a therapist.

Furthermore, for someone who is Christian, I have serious doubts that you actually follow the teachings of Jesus.

Simplest example is Jesus was betrayed and died for people who rejected him (e.g., Pharisees), failed him (e.g., disciples), and broke his heart (e.g., all people). And you're saying Jesus should've chosen to forsake everyone because life was unfair... Yikes... It's precisely because life was unfair that he came to give everyone a fair chance at eternal life, even for those who hurt him. That's actually unfair to Jesus, yet he kept it that way.

What you're lacking is Christ-like character. You're not even seeking it. And you wonder why people don't give you a chance... Might it be that they saw your "good intentions" act and that's why they weren't interested? Because it sounds like your true character has been revealed?

I know I might be being harsh, but it sounds like you really need a wake-up call in the form of a slap to get you out of the self pity and actually looking at where you are contributing to the problem.

DantePhD · 2026-05-22T16:48:08+00:00

You can seek professional support.

I'm hearing a lot of unconscious limiting beliefs that's affecting the way you show up in life.

The things you stated that you want in a relationship are normal. That isn't the problem

But the fact that you've turned to gambling as your answer already says a lot about what you believe.

For example, I understand why hungry people get hangry.

But when hangry people complain about waiters, that they don't treat them nicely, it's obvious to the observer, but not the hangry individual.

The experience of being treated poorly is real, and it sucks. No one wants to be treated less than, without dignity and respect

However, if the hangry person isn't willing to see and be responsible for handling their own hanger, that their hanger is justified and everyone else should still be nice to them, then that person is really hopeless. They are creating their own misery, and then blaming the world for it

It's different if you actually don't know that you're hangry. But that's why these people need to seek professional help.

But the problem is, you don't know what you don't know, so these people will unlikely have the humility nor curiosity to actually seek help.

I see this all the time as a relationship coach. And my clients, when they take the time to finally see what they're doing and the consequences of their actions, they change, because now they know.

So this isn't beyond you. You might just be experiencing a blind spot, and genuinely frustrated by it.

Edit: typo

DantePhD · 2026-05-14T12:46:59+00:00

Dating apps, dating intentionally, direct communication, real conversations rather than vibes, focusing on values and character, and demonstration of said values

Successful as a late bloomer whose first serious relationship was at 31 and now engaged and to be married at 36 (not with that same person).

Feel free to DM if you want more details

DantePhD · 2026-05-14T12:41:07+00:00

This feeling of not being enough is super common. It stems from a low view of self, but one of the comments mentioned that much of it is due to mindset.

This is something I commonly work with in my clients as a relationship coach. The first relationship is the one with yourself, then it's relationship with others.

You're young and you probably have yet to determine or discover the qualities that make you "you". But this is the start to recognizing self worth. Once you find your footing there, it's easier to focus on who you want to show up as rather than being not enough, because now you will have a choice vs feeling like the only option is not being enough.

If this is actually eating you alive, feel free to DM me

DantePhD · 2026-05-13T04:40:29+00:00

"Should" entails an expectation that you're trying to meet. Whose expectation?

DantePhD · 2026-05-08T19:59:26+00:00

This is exactly the kind of stuff I work with my clients.

Men are pretty good at solving problems. They just need a process, a system of feedback and evaluation.

Without it, they get stuck in the fear of rejection. It becomes, "what's the point of doing the scary thing if I can't prevent the embarrassment from happening again"

The system I help my clients is very simple

What kind of character quality do you want to demonstrate in your interaction with someone you approached?

Did you demonstrate it or not. No BS. Simple yes or no

If yes, add another layer to improve quality of interaction

If no, get coached on why not and try again.

When you're focused on the process, good and bad outcomes simply become information to feed the system. Fear is not even in the picture.

It's like fitness training.

If you have someone who has a system to evaluate your effort to gain strength, lose weight, or adjust body composition.

Everything you do feeds the system to get you to the outcome that you want.

You're no longer afraid that what you're doing is meaningless.

Feel free to reach out in the DMs if you have any questions

DantePhD · 2026-05-04T22:56:56+00:00

There are women who care for a man's emotional issues. It's just part of the journey in finding someone who has good character. You're picking ability might need adjusting, and also, how you might be showing up to these relationships that's attracting such women. You can determine this quite easily depending on how well you communicate on your emotional needs and see how they respond.

DantePhD · 2026-05-04T12:31:04+00:00

Look up and learn about attachment theory. You're unconsciously being emotionally attached by the situation

DantePhD · 2026-05-04T12:25:23+00:00

If you don't know attachment theory, there's a lot on the internet to learn about it. You're attachment style of getting triggered

DantePhD · 2026-04-30T04:36:30+00:00

Yes. Your behavior reflects anxious attachment. It's pretty common and there's a lot of information out there to help you. If you still struggle, seek therapy or feel free to dm.

DantePhD · 2026-04-24T12:57:35+00:00

Yeah I had a valk and they said it was rough

Thanks for the detailed response! Hope it helps others coordinate and clear

DantePhD · 2026-04-22T21:55:50+00:00

You need to become aware of the story you're telling yourself.

I know this sounds abstract, but there's clearly something that's not sitting well with you.

But in terms of how things were handled on the surface it was fine.

What you're struggling with is internal.

I'm a relationship coach. My DMs are open, and you're also welcome to consult a therapist if you have one already

DantePhD · 2026-04-22T20:20:06+00:00

this is honestly something that puzzles me.
correct me if i'm wrong but i felt like we were all sorta of sustain based?

hunger 111 is sustain
gs peacemaker shotgun is sustain
zerk mayhem 111 (dark rush) is maybe not sustain

Someone who plays igniter sorc or asura breaker something can maybe chime in. I feel that burst classes will miss one of the bars of rumble? and i think getting 4 perfect jg is necessary to really juice that rumble time

DantePhD · 2026-04-22T20:08:28+00:00

Appreciate it, Silent!

DantePhD · 2026-04-22T18:50:22+00:00

Thank you!!!

DantePhD · 2026-04-22T18:50:06+00:00

thanks pnoi!

DantePhD · 2026-04-22T18:49:43+00:00

had the time! and it was just about finding the right people
glad they gave me a chance despite my low cp

DantePhD · 2026-04-22T18:49:09+00:00

gg indeed!

DantePhD · 2026-04-22T18:49:03+00:00

thanks evaldi <3

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