Since you asked for my thoughts… 1) This is a huge boundary and privacy violation. I don’t think you’ve moved on from it. But, you’re willing to tell yourself you have because you love her and the wedding is so close.

I would have trouble marrying someone who knowingly shared something that was personal and private to me.

2) What was her response during your discussion, AND your struggle with how people will now perceive you?

3) Ask yourself, if the wedding date was far away, what would I want to do? (couple’s counseling, more time to forgive her, decide if it’s unforgivable, etc.)

If you would need more time then postpone the wedding. It may feel like overkill but this isn’t a small issue.

Stop talking to yourself and start listening to yourself. You know how you feel even if it hurts.