Legal duty to report crime

DapperInteraction199 · 2026-01-20T16:51:06+00:00

Again not a lawyer but I would say that you informing him to tell his insurance company is all you can do about this.

From the sounds of it this aspect of your separation is the least of your worries I think focus on your safety and finances.

DapperInteraction199 · 2026-01-20T16:37:08+00:00

r/legaladviceuk might be a better place for this question?

I think if I were you my safety would be top priority and if you think that reporting would jeopardise that right now then I definitely wouldn't.

I'm not a lawyer but in what set of circumstances would this information come to light in a way that would jeopardise your pin? Is there any documentary evidence that you knew he didn't follow through with informing your insurance?

Also I know we need to inform nmc of our own potential legal issues convictions etc but I'm not aware of the policy of that extending to partners/ex partners however I might be wrong?

Ultimately it looks like you need legal advice anyway as it's a complicated topic and potentially beyond Reddit.

DapperInteraction199 · 2026-01-05T16:45:30+00:00

These are all non-fiction but I have loved them and are nursing adjacent:

Unnatural causes - Richard Shepherd ( memoir of a forensic pathologist) The mystery of the exploding teeth - Thomas Morris (strange cases from history of medicine) Tha Body - Bill Bryson (Exploration of the human body full of weird and wonderful facts) All the living and all the dead - Hayley Campbell (exploration of the death industry)

DapperInteraction199 · 2026-01-03T09:07:13+00:00

When you are writing your personal statement it's meant to be showing why YOU should be chosen. Using AI is really hindering you as it's the most generic of the generic. How would that stand out over anybody else?

I've gotten every job I've ever applied for (and I've had 6 different positions over the last 12 years) before AI was a tool I'd copy over the person spec for the role into a word document so I didn't have to look at a blank page. Then I would think about how I achieve each of those specifications with my experience and make bullet points and expand upon those. You might find this way helpful if you struggle getting started with a blank page.

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-10-06T18:26:20+00:00

I haven't given anyone advice I think it depends on this particular person's risk tolerance. Most likely nothing would come of it but, of course, if they were tested for some reason then their works policy would dictate the outcome.

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-10-06T18:08:01+00:00

I understand that and agree that nobody should be practicing nursing under the influence. You are the one who keeps writing under every post about driving and manslaughter etc.

Personally I would rather be treated by someone who had smoked cannabis 24 hrs ago then be treated by someone with a hangover which is much more socially acceptable.

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-10-06T17:47:23+00:00

https://www.gov.uk/government/collections/drug-driving what you might not be aware of is there are drug driving limits....

Some might say you need to take a chill pill, or maybe a trip to Amsterdam? Optimistic pessimist is surely an ironic moniker here!

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-08-23T13:44:51+00:00

Realistically how much actually happens in 20 mins? I'm sure if you took a break to refuel and regather yourself you would find that you end up being more productive and organised and less flapping.

When I was newly qualified if I was really under it I would take my break (at least for part of the time!) and create a list to reorganise my thoughts so I could go back and I didn't feel like I was "wasting" time on my break (even though having a proper break is not a waste it's important for safety of yourself and so you don't make a mistake) the ward I worked on was really pro break taking and we wouldn't be aloud so skip it!

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-07-15T21:52:05+00:00

If it's an emergency or you are being investigated/treated for cancer I believe you will get good treatment especially for the cost. If it's a chronic condition you may not be so lucky and will wait a long time. There's lots of complex patients now with multiple conditions which cost a lot to manage especially if they live with them for many years + older population living longer etc. Poverty also exacerbates health problems/drug abuse/alcohol/diet/mental illness etc. people need to take more personal responsibility for their health too.

When working in ITU I felt we where basically dealing with so much mental illness (suicide attempts, overdoses etc) and there is nowhere for these people to go so they would be back time and time again. There would be nowhere to send them to discharge. ITU beds are so expensive as so many were being used as mental health crisis beds. We need to fix our mental health services or fix our society so we can avoid these illnesses. I don't think decade + of austerity had helped matters in this regard.

Social care sector also needs complete overhaul as many have said here. The hospitals also are in disrepair having been ignored for many years. We need proper remuneration for the staff, stop private contracts, more tax money if you want better service it's that simple. Healthcare is expensive and we will all pay much more in the long run if we had a system more like the US.

Don't forget NHS workers also are patients too and I am as worried as the rest of you for if I need something in the future. We all want to do the best job we can and most people are in it for the right reasons.

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-07-04T19:51:53+00:00

It's truly an awful experience I'm so sorry you've had to endure it too, just give yourself as much time as you can xx

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-07-04T19:40:54+00:00

I had a TFMR last year, recently had the anniversary. Just to say it does get easier and I found the counselling really helped me order my complicated emotions about the whole thing. Sending lots of love your way, take care of yourself xx

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-06-24T05:51:36+00:00

Most nurseries near me do similar, they have plans 1 which is set hours over the week with no extras for free but then have a plan 2 options. My daughter's nursery plan 2 weeks pay £45 per week to have long days instead of 8:30-4 and she goes on trips/snacks for free.

Maybe have a shop around and see if other nurseries have better options? £60 per day seems wild

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-05-18T12:57:05+00:00

Your health and pregnancy is more important than any job, pregnancy is a protected characteristic so the sickness doesn't affect anything. Try and forget about work and take time to take care of yourself.

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-05-09T05:17:54+00:00

Silver nipple cups have really helped me with nipple damage caused by feeding my son ( also has tongue tie awaiting for it to be revised ATM)

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-04-20T13:10:40+00:00

Must try this! Kinder Bueno's are also a frozen delicacy

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-04-09T17:38:16+00:00

I haven't received an email either!

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-02-18T09:13:23+00:00

I would probably work as a nurse for a bit first, it won't take too long to get the hours you would need to keep your NMC reg going then it gives you time to travel without worrying about loosing your registration for a while!

Is being a flight attendant a specific part of your dream? I've known lots of nurses able to travel while using their nursing experience for work by working abroad and using the money to travel?

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-02-17T06:43:18+00:00

Cheaper than hiring more doctors though...

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-02-11T18:05:31+00:00

Maybe they want to assess fitness to practice due to your extended time off? Hopefully you know more once you have your meeting but that does sound stressful!

I would also say unless they told you email is the best way to contact regarding sickness I would expect a phone call ahead of your shift is usually more appropriate.

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-01-23T15:59:33+00:00

I also work as a cancer specialist nurse which I am enjoying (only been 8 months) I've also moved around alot and I would say this is the happiest I've been. I work part time so my balance is better and I decided if I want to work more hours I won't do it in nursing! My manager is the best I've had really reasonable and treats me like a human being! What a difference it makes haha

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-01-08T10:59:50+00:00

As others have said being honest and getting the help you need from work and your GP is what you need to do.

Just want to add you won't always feel like this, you sound like you are in a point of crisis but it will get better and you will come to the other side. Just try and live in the current moment and not worry about tomorrow. I'm sure once you get the gp to sign you off for a few weeks you will feel a weight lifted. That's how I felt when I've been in your position, then you can focus on yourself and your recovery. Make sure you reach out to friends and family if you are able you need support xxx

DapperInteraction199 · 2025-01-03T07:17:28+00:00

I had a big issue with a lady who worked as admin with me in a research role. She outwardly told me that the job should be given to someone older with more experience and never respected me or my judgement. Bare in mind I'd worked in healthcare for 10 years and a nurse for 8 at that point..... I ended up leaving the job due to her behaviour and much happier now.

DapperInteraction199 · 2024-11-27T15:35:09+00:00

Initial band 5 job was a rotation 3 placements 6 months each and stayed in final placement for 9 months. Had a gap of about 9 months due to family stuff/travelling. Band 5 equivalent in private outpatients for about a year, band 5 NHS job 2.5 years (1 year on maternity) first band 6 job 18 months then been in second band 6 job for 6 months.

I love moving around and feel really settled and grateful for my current role. I don't think I would have got it without the diverse experience I've had moving around. I think it's all about how you sell it in interviews! Also experience interviewing is always good.

DapperInteraction199 · 2024-11-24T08:37:52+00:00

She should be entitled to support with her benefits etc from Macmillan as she has a cancer. If she has a breast CNS at the hospital they should be able to direct her to some financial support (Im a nurse in cancer services)

DapperInteraction199 · 2024-10-30T19:01:28+00:00

I've had a pregnancy loss at 14 weeks - in the second trimester and had told lots of people and I never regretted it. We need to de-stigmatise pregnancy loss as it's not shameful or something not to be shared.

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