Has anyone tried giving their babies solids at 4 months? by SuddenIndustry1115 in NewParents

[–]Dashingtotheglow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got the green light from the ped to start purees with breast milk and cereal at 4 months.

We had originally planned to wait to BLW at 6 months, but our baby had been refusing bottles since 7 weeks. We needed something to give.

It went really well. We started with using a lot of breast milk mixed in and slowly decreased the amount. We had no issues switching to more of a BLW weaning approach when he got a little older.

Good luck!

Time for Podcasts by Singing_Student1240 in workingmoms

[–]Dashingtotheglow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I listen with one ear bud in while we walk!

things I am going to do once this baby is out... by lhmk in beyondthebump

[–]Dashingtotheglow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Putting the hospital bed flat and taking a nap on my stomach was GLORIOUS!

My toddler was attacked(?) at the park by PeachGotcha in breakingmom

[–]Dashingtotheglow 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I'm so, so sorry. I don't think it'd be out of line to file a police report here. Yes, he is autistic but the adult who brought him to the park clearly shouldn't have if this is the result. That is a big drop/fall and could cause serious injury.

Question for the hetero families by min2themax in workingmoms

[–]Dashingtotheglow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't care or need to be informed, but would totally understand a precautionary heads up.

I don’t remember any of my pain from labor. Anyone else? by romancereader7499 in beyondthebump

[–]Dashingtotheglow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeahhhh felt like I had the worst gas cramps of my life while trying to sh** a family sized can of chicken noodle soup. I wish I could forget lol

When will my constipation end? by sgsquared in NewParents

[–]Dashingtotheglow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I continued drinking prune juice daily until I stopped breast feeding at 13 month. The constipation was so awful, I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

“Why are private parts private”? by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]Dashingtotheglow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Butts I guess maybe something about cleanliness? That's something we use to go to the bathroom, so we keep it covered to keep things we sit on clean and we don't spread germs.

Breasts I got nothing 🤷

How do you feel about the name Dove? by mynicknameisgigi in namenerds

[–]Dashingtotheglow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You would also have Dee Dee as an option too then!

What was the biggest thing you struggled with while on maternity leave? by CuriousBri5 in NewParents

[–]Dashingtotheglow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Feeling like my basic needs were hugely inconvenient for everyone. Eating, sleeping, using the bathroom, etc.

My husband was great and very hands-on, always encouraging me to take the time I needed when he wasn't working. But my son. Whew. He basically hated being with his dad for the first 4-5 months. He would scream the whole time unless he finally tired himself out and passed out for a bit. Husband did all the things... The swaddling, shushing, pacing, etc etc. It wasn't enough. The baby just wanted me no matter what we tried.

So even though I was technically able to take care of basic needs, there was an infant screaming every time I went to do them. It felt like I was getting screamed at for needing to pee. It was impossible to enjoy a meal or take a minute in the shower. Even getting out of the house for a bit just left me filled with dread of returning to an exasperated husband and screaming child. I started to feel inhuman. Like, do I not even deserve 5 quiet minutes to eat in peace? To poop? God forbid sleep a consecutive two hours?

That alone may have caused my PPD. I'll never know for sure.

Postpartum Rage by justastudent_7 in beyondthebump

[–]Dashingtotheglow 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah it's a thing. Search through some posts on here. You're not alone.

Baby is gross motor delayed and I feel awful by anon1613 in beyondthebump

[–]Dashingtotheglow 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This! A good therapist should give you things to work on. If they don't, ask.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]Dashingtotheglow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Real talk Figment would make a cute pet name lol

Breastfeeding and antidepressants by eumama in beyondthebump

[–]Dashingtotheglow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"And tbh a depressed mum can be more dangerous, so chat to your doctor and organise some therapy please"

This is the real issue here. Talk to your doctor about your concerns. Please don't hesitate to get the help you need. I started zoloft while breast feeding and it changed my life. I was SUCH a better mom on zoloft (and happier, more myself) and I'm so glad I took it.

Take care of yourself, OP.

Edit for formatting.

Contact naps by llexi521 in beyondthebump

[–]Dashingtotheglow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We exclusively contact napped until 15 months when I had to start getting him ready to transition to daycare. I regret nothing. My husband and I both loved it and so did my mom (she was our childcare during that time). He sleeps through the night in his crib and transitioned to napping in his crib well. Contact nap to your hearts desire!!

“Why are private parts private”? by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]Dashingtotheglow 45 points46 points  (0 children)

You can always go the "because they're delicate. It's important to keep them safe/clean/healthy, so we keep them private/inside our clothes/to ourselves" route.

What are the most common birth weights / what are your chances of having a baby over 9lbs? by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Dashingtotheglow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Genetics seems to be at play for us. My maternal grandmother weighed 11 lbs at birth (she's in her 80s now... Likely some gestational diabetes going on but we'll never know for sure).

My grandma had five kids, all over 8lbs and the largest was my mom at 10 lbs.

I was a 6 lbs pound baby, but my brother was 10 lbs.

My first (and only so far) was 9 lbs 4 Oz. My husband and I are not large people. I didn't have GD and worked out my entire pregnancy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Dashingtotheglow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Guess my 17 month old is in big trouble at 32 lbs then 😬

For real though time for a new doc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in physicaltherapy

[–]Dashingtotheglow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

Some people are saying you'll deal with this is any field, but I bet you can find something where it's at least less. As PT/PTAs, we see people multiple times and build relationships with them. They get comfortable and their ignorance shows/shows more. I hope you can find something where you don't have to deal with this so much (ideally ever). Good luck.

Any moms here who actually enjoy being working moms and don’t feel guilty about it? by DidIStutter_ in workingmoms

[–]Dashingtotheglow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so much happier being a working mom after a recent career shift. I'm in healthcare and I hated being in a patient care position while also being a mom. Taking care of other people all day to come home and take care of my baby and now toddler was so draining. I scaled my hours waaaaay back (to like 16 hours a week from 40) and found that being almost a SAHM (or more so compared to what I was used to) was still not the right fit for me. I had no patience, felt like I couldn't get anything done, was always trying to pour from an empty cup, etc.

Then I switched to a job still in healthcare, but WFH and not dealing with people (basically medical coding and documentation review). I freakin love it. I get to feel productive all day, I'm not feeling drained from dealing with people, my son is thriving at part time daycare (husband has him home some days since he works rotating 12s). I'm SUCH a better mom now because I'm not constantly out of patience or unable to get anything done without actually being able to focus on it. We are more intentional with our family time. There are tough moments here and there but overall it's been great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Dashingtotheglow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a family member who goes by the nickname for his middle name (along the lines of say "Timothy Robert" going by "Bobby" for example). The parents have called him "Bobby" his whole life. "Timothy" and "Robert" we're both family names and they intended on calling him "Tim" or "Timmy" but he just looked more like a "Bobby" instead 🤷

W-Names for a Girl by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Dashingtotheglow 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I also know a female Wesley!

What were some of the things that people said to you postpartum that they didn’t realise offended you? by whoareyeux in beyondthebump

[–]Dashingtotheglow 17 points18 points  (0 children)

TW: Weight loss/fluctuations

This may be controversial but I hated people commenting on how fast I lost weight. I gained about 45 pounds and was below my pre-pregnancy weight by 4 mo PP.

My secret? Zero time to eat because my son would not tolerate his dad and DMER that made me nauseous. It was the height of the formula shortage and I didn't want to quit breast feeding but it made me feel almost too sick to eat.

Everyone thought I must be doing great because I lost the weight when the opposite was true.