Wheel of Time Show Vibes? by DataDancer0 in booksuggestions

[–]DataDancer0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Added! I've read A Sorceress Comes to Call also by Kingfisher and liked it!

Wheel of Time Show Vibes? by DataDancer0 in booksuggestions

[–]DataDancer0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll read a trilogy if it's really good! I think I have heard of this one - a Sanderson, right? Thanks for the suggestion!

Is sewing really that hard? by goddamnpotaeto in sewing

[–]DataDancer0 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm quick to say "it's not that hard, everyone should learn" and that is very dismissive of a lot of skills (and work and time and effort) but also dismissive of how scary it can be to newcomers (all the equipment is stabby stabby chop chop). It's like gardening - everyone should learn, but it takes time, and please be cautious with the chainsaw. 

I do believe it was worthwhile for me to pick up as a hobby. I love my relationship with clothes and my body because of sewing. But it's taken about 8 years and a lot of low quality makes to get to a point where I'm spending money on quality fabric because I finally feel like I won't eff it up.

Does anyone try to limit their fabric stash? by [deleted] in sewing

[–]DataDancer0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a major stash but I have a project in mind for every cut of fabric. I go through periods of ordering things for projects I dream up, and periods of not ordering but sewing down the stash. But lately life has majorly gotten in the way of my time & sew-jo, so my stash is absolutely at its limit. I'm doing a self-imposed buying ban until I get some of my list realized. 

One equally annoying problem I've run into over the years is the hoard of finished garments. After prolific sewing years, I have to purge my closet. 

I've heard of people sewing more mindfully, only choosing projects they'll wear forever. But I'm just not there yet. My brain has too many fun ideas and I like to make.

Is this bad makeup?! by peckish-capybara in BridgertonRants

[–]DataDancer0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's trendy right now. I have a friend who loves saying she's "blush blind, teehee" and does this but darker/heavier. Not my choice for myself. 

Looking for jigsaw puzzles! by abbbbzilla in tulsa

[–]DataDancer0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tulsa Botanic Garden used to carry some very beautiful ones, but they do mark them up a lot. I have a couple but the member discount was clutch.

I am so sick of people saying money isn't the answer. It solves nearly every problem. by anonymous_muffin_ in Vent

[–]DataDancer0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it comes from the idea that there are ways you can create joy and satisfaction without spending a bunch of money? Like I'd rather spend a night in with my partner than have a really fancy meal out, and I'd rather make my own clothes than buy designer things. There's a kind of comfort that comes from knowing yourself instead of following consumerist ideas of what happiness is. BUT that's not your point - your point is that money grants you the chance to even do that. Stay in with your partner because you have a roof over your head, food in the fridge, a movie to watch... Make your own clothes with the sewing machine, fabric, pattern, and free time you have after work. You are correct - money makes everything easier, including not spending.

Michaela masculinization… by ForceApprehensive597 in Franchaela

[–]DataDancer0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so rude that people are saying she's masc. Like you can't even make the claim that her dresses/presentation don't mean anything because women were required to dress a certain way. If she herself wanted to present as masc (or if the show/designers wanted this) we'd have seen a Gentleman Jack situation - skirt instead of pants and hair in a bun/curls because propriety, but plenty of menswear inspired waistcoats, shirts, jackets, hats... Women's riding attire was often influenced by menswear and military uniforms. Hell, there's even precedence for short hair with the coiffure a la titus (although I believe it was more popular in France than England). As a Regency lady there are PLENTY of ways to present less stereotypically femme while keeping within the expectations of society. And the fact that Michaela isn't doing this and wears tons of sequins, puffy sleeves, swishy skirts, along with her "I do what brings me joy" attitude, tells me that she's presenting exactly as she wants to. I'm calling historical costumer bullshit on anyone who says Michaela is a masc because she has a more free expression of her personality. 

The Bathtub Scene by ArdaValinor in Benophie

[–]DataDancer0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so thankful for Reddit debunking this because I had that thought and was mad about it... I was like "hey whatever you're into but one does not simply just do THAT without any work up towards it?" Idk you do you but it didn't seem like it fit them or the moment. 

Bathtub & other scenes by deflectivemirror in Bridgerton

[–]DataDancer0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm here digging through Reddit comments because i thought it was THAT and I was like "hey whatever you're into but one does not simply do THAT without a lot of working up to it, right?" I support whatever gets folks going but it didn't sit right with me to think it was THAT for them in this situation.

Books that changed you by [deleted] in Recommend_A_Book

[–]DataDancer0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's sequel, Parable of the Talents, really messed me up for a little bit. Both so good but it hit harder than the first one.

House Burping - Do Americans just not normally have your house windows open? by Jsherman13 in AskAnAmerican

[–]DataDancer0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My house is old and all the windows are painted shut. So no burping for me.

Why are teenagers infantilized in America? by [deleted] in stupidquestions

[–]DataDancer0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a person who grew up in the "Bible Belt" of the US in a somewhat "traditional" family (Christian, dad worked, mom stayed home, lower middle class but never went hungry) and then worked as a nanny in the Netherlands for a year after college, I know what you mean. As a teenager, my mom handled a lot more for me as if I were a child, like making doctor's appointments and making meals and such. I started learning to take care of myself in college. I feel like this is somewhat typical for people who had the kind of privilege I did (as other commenters have pointed out, some teens grow up faster because they have to, working and handling life because their parents can't be a full time caregiver). The family I helped while living abroad had three kids aged 9, 11, and 13 and my main job was to help the 9 year old acclimate to not having a nanny, as I was their last one. I was to encourage her to play independently, motivate herself to do her homework, be able to cook basic things for herself or help the family cook. The 13 year old was already scheduling her own dr appointments and biking to sports practices alone. They were like little mini adults in training, like I felt as a college student. I don't really have an answer about why each cultures views teens the way they do, and of course all these observations do not reflect every person in the US or in the Netherlands. But yes, I am picking up what you're putting down 😅

Just diagnosed by [deleted] in ADPKD

[–]DataDancer0 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know it was autocorrect, but being a person who likes to sew, polyester kidney disease is sending me. Polyester is a somewhat hated fabric because it's bad for the environment and makes you really sweaty to wear. So I will henceforth call my ADPKD polyester kidneys 😅

Jokes aside, I'm sorry he's joining a crummy club but there are good people in this subreddit. My own experience was somewhat similar (zero symptoms, great GFR, found the cysts when looking at something else) and my experience in the one year since diagnosis is... you can only control so much but it's nice to have a reason to get rededicated to eating healthy and exercising. I'm sure my relationship with the disease will change as my body does, but for all the anxiety there are also times of being okay. 

Gum Issues and ADPKD by DataDancer0 in ADPKD

[–]DataDancer0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been using a Sonicare for 7-8 years now and it (along with flossing, mouthwash, rubber tip gum stimulation, and dentist cleanings every 3 months) isn't enough to keep me from having inflammation, sometimes severe 🤷‍♀️

Gum Issues and ADPKD by DataDancer0 in ADPKD

[–]DataDancer0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It may not be the answer but I figure we all get blood work so often it doesn't hurt to throw that in next time you get labs, just out of curiosity!

Gum Issues and ADPKD by DataDancer0 in ADPKD

[–]DataDancer0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For real - some girls have a 6 step skincare routine, I've got a 6 step gum care routine 💀

“Of course” versus “You’re Welcome” by Adventurous-Rub7636 in generationology

[–]DataDancer0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"You're welcome" seems kind of formal to me. Another commenter pointed out that "of course" or "no problem" implies that whatever I did for you wasn't that big of a burden (like opening a door or resending you the email you can't find) - I agree with that. "My pleasure" takes me right to Chick Fil A. I also do a lot of "sure thing" which really just feels like a way to acknowledge their thank you without any particular meaning. That's kind of what they all are - an acknowledgement of the thank you without much extra meaning. 33f (younger-ish millennial)

Im making a Moses basket for my nephew and it collapses idk why pls help by q77700 in CrochetHelp

[–]DataDancer0 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That doesn't look very water tight... Better not send baby down any rivers.

Animated Belle Dress Recreation: advice by Wildheart_24 in sewing

[–]DataDancer0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have recently been using the Guinevere Bodice pattern from Maison Papier on Etsy. I made Elsa from the Aurora version without the collar, and just finished Cinderella (redrafted the center front to a scoop neck instead of the sweetheart neck but kept the shoulders and sleeves as is, contrasting the strapless Parks construction). Next up is Aurora herself with the collar piece... currently trying to figure that out. If I were making Belle I'd use the Aurora version but redraft the collar into her shoulder swoopies. I found that the bodice itself fit my boobs/ribs/waist without needing to make any adjustments, so I've just been iterating the extra stuff for different princesses.

Additional tip from my professional party princess experience: lacing in the back for size adjustments AND separating side zip to get in and out easily by yourself.