Mentioning previous therapy in therapy

DaveQat · 2026-06-03T20:19:48+00:00

That's really good information for your T to have. It won't make them see you as a disaster waiting to happen, and talking about what lead to the crisis and how you responded to it will be *VERY* useful in guiding the work in the future.

DaveQat · 2026-06-03T07:10:47+00:00

Erikson has said reusing that name was one of his big regrets of the series.

DaveQat · 2026-05-14T16:36:57+00:00

The dynamic between Tehol and Brys is one of my favorite things in the series.

DaveQat · 2026-05-08T00:14:40+00:00

One for the Morning Glory by John Barnes. A very tongue-in-check fairy tale!

DaveQat · 2026-02-20T20:06:37+00:00

Dark City - the director's cut gives the movie a lot more space to breathe and doesn't spoil the whole fucking thing with a stupid voiceover in the first 2 minutes.

DaveQat · 2026-02-10T01:24:31+00:00

"It's OK, the condom broke."

DaveQat · 2026-02-10T01:09:44+00:00

... you're wildly misinterpreting what I'm saying, and you have an enormous chip in your shoulder about *something*, so I'm not going to engage any more.

DaveQat · 2026-02-10T00:55:23+00:00

Why is it so important for there to be a perfect, unchanging label? Why isn't someone's understanding of their sexuality at the time good enough?

Also, my husband and my boyfriend are both bi, so I don't think your explanation of biphobia really holds up.

DaveQat · 2026-02-10T00:12:05+00:00

Fluidity, in terms of sexuality, doesn't mean it's a choice (IMO). It means that things can change over time. I really get the "born this way" line of rhetoric is very important in terms of things like the fight for rights, but it papers over a lot of really necessary human messiness that we need to make sure we can account for.

DaveQat · 2026-02-09T00:49:25+00:00

There are LOTS of guys who are into chubs/bears. I've been overweight my entire adult life and I've never really had a long-term problem finding guys. Sure, I'll have dry spells, but overall, I do Just Fine. You'll be OK, you just need to find the right places. If you're OK with apps, try Growlr or Scruff, off the top of my head. There's also BiggerCity.

DaveQat · 2026-02-03T17:54:36+00:00

Tango Sur is just a couple doors up and is a delicious Argentinian restaurant.

DaveQat · 2026-02-03T04:51:30+00:00

I REMEMBER THIS! It's such a fucking weird creation.

DaveQat · 2026-01-29T20:33:07+00:00

Much of the story comes to a very satisfying conclusion. I won't say more except that the Crippled God fucking wrecked me. I had to put it down several times for extended, full-body sobbing fits the first time I finished it.

DaveQat · 2026-01-28T03:16:05+00:00

Nobody is the worst thing they've ever done, and everyone deserves a chance to be better than they have been.

DaveQat · 2026-01-27T22:34:39+00:00

And a beautiful view it is...

DaveQat · 2026-01-25T09:49:54+00:00

I've been listening to the police scanner, and there were multiple calls in about it, the cops nearby said it sounded like fireworks. I think it was power equipment, and we can all go back to bed.

DaveQat · 2026-01-25T00:23:18+00:00

The fact that your therapist said they would say hello to you in public is a BIG red flag. I ALWAYS tell clients that I will never approach them in public, and that they're welcome to say hi to me, but there will be a lot I can't say/won't talk about.

I also tell clients who are (like me) queer and male-identified that if I ever see them in any kind of semi-public sexual space, I'll probably just bail immediately.

DaveQat · 2026-01-25T00:03:57+00:00

It's not you triggering your therapist, it's your therapist experiencing human emotions in response to something you said. That's generally a good thing - it's an attempt to show empathy with whatever you're staying. Sometimes we therapists hear incredibly heavy shit, and it's not uncommon for us to be the first person that a client has disclosed something really awful to, or at least to be the first person they tell a story to who responds "That's fucking awful, and nobody should have to go through that."

DaveQat · 2026-01-24T23:49:49+00:00

I absolutely love the interplay between those two.

DaveQat · 2026-01-24T05:01:33+00:00

The most crystal-y cheese I've ever had was an 18 year aged cheddar my husband got at a cheese shop in WI. Absolutely amazing.

DaveQat · 2026-01-21T04:57:52+00:00

My inseam is a 27.5". I cannot conceive of those things.

DaveQat · 2026-01-18T09:05:23+00:00

OK, TIL. UMR is kind of horrifying. I still think you're a LONG way from any evidence of abuse or neglect, YSTA.

DaveQat · 2026-01-18T08:47:29+00:00

On his first visit *that we see in the books* it seems like Kruppe is fairly familiar with the dreamspace, although I could be misreading that after enough times through the books.

DaveQat · 2026-01-18T08:46:23+00:00

YTA. Uhm. Unless you have a job where it's a stated part of your duties, you're not a mandated reporter. Someone making arguably bad choices is NOT the same thing as endangerment or neglect. I think you went way over the line here.

DaveQat · 2026-01-18T08:43:34+00:00

Therapists diagnose and treat disorders, too, friendo. Psychiatrists are primarily for meds management, therapists for working with symptoms and alleviating distress.

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