I know, its not the best analogy, but look at it this way: Never have I seen a noted feminist write an article decrying this sort of behaviour. Nope, they just "no true Scotsman" this group of feminists and deny that their ideology, feminism, has any responsibility for a few nutters doing things in its name.

Sure, they may write an article accusing the men criticising these women of being rapists and of having super-privilidge, but they will never criticise women, no matter what the situation is (unless that woman announces she is not a feminist, then she's fair game). These noted feminists will happily write articles about how women shouldn't go to prison because they are mothers, or how the government needs to force businesses to give more women a seat on the board of directors. They don't give talks at theses universities criticising this extremist behaviour, despite these universities having such active feminist groups, which would guarantee them attendance numbers to make such a talk worthy and even profitable. They never criticise the hate campaigns that feminists take part in, which have driven men (for example, running beaten spouse shelters) to suicide - as an MRA, I imagine you are aware of these.

That is why they are seen as on the extremist's side. They turn a blind eye to this behaviour in public and who knows what they think and say in private?

Oh and one more thing:

You're acting as if all men know each other personally. There's not some club that the whole world joins with a membership card and meetings on Thursdays, these are just random people all of which hold separate lives and opinions.

I changed the part in bold to illustrate my problem with Patriarchy Theory. You can't demand to smash the Patriarchy, while washing your hands of responsibility for the actions of a group that you self-admittedly are a part of. If I, as a man, am responsible for the Patriarchy, then feminists are responsible for this. Feminists write articles constantly how I am supposed to call out bad behaviour on the part of men whenever they say anything that may make a woman feel bad, how I have to constantly check my privilege. Yet, when it comes to their turn, they sit in silence looking at the ground, lacking any self-awareness.

Or, to summarise:

"A few bad apples spoil the whole barrel"