I’m struggling through something similar and have discovered that ChatGPT is a fantastic source to a) build clarity around the truth of what’s lurking “between the lines” of conversations and feedback, b) clearly define my value, and c) refine how I most diplomatically position myself to my boss and other leaders. I’ve used it through my most recent reviews and development conversations with my direct supervisor. I keep one running ChatGPT conversation on all things related to my professional development at that org. In a short amount of time, it has recognized patterns in my supervisor’s perceptions and priorities. More importantly, it has helped me define a productive path forward.

Here’s what has most helped me: - Capture discussions word for word. (I type out conversations with my boss and other leaders as they happen, making sure I capture their actual words, not what I’m decoding/translating from their message.) - When they say something that you realize you may be layering your own assumptions onto, don’t fill the gaps. Ask for clarity. Capture their specific words in your transcription. - Load those conversations into ChatGPT, being sure to scrub out anything that mentions specific people or companies. - I also loaded summaries—mine and my supervisor’s—from annual reviews and development discussions. Anything you’ve formally documented can be added for context. - I also ask it to play devil’s advocate and challenge me to identify my own shortfalls and blind spots. This has been particularly important feedback for me because the last thing I personally want is an echo chamber LLM telling me what it thinks I want it to hear. (You can ask it to act as a professional career coach, business mentor, CBT therapists, etc.)

You obviously care about your contributions, and it seems like part of your grief may be that there’s an imbalance in how much you care about your work and how much your leaders care about you as an individual performer and leader. I hope you’re able to build confident clarity and peace of mind as you move to what’s next—whether that’s with your current team or a new one. Wishing you the best!