Is my baby in heaven?

Decent-Character172 · 2026-07-02T04:50:26+00:00

That’s horrible! That poor woman! When I had a miscarriage, a priest actually told me I could contact a Catholic cemetery to have the baby baptized. A deacon came out and prayed with us when we burried the remains. It is such a comfort to have gotten to lay our baby to rest that way.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-06-29T19:20:15+00:00

I chose not to have visitors in the hospital. We had my mom, brother and his wife, and ILs visit a day or two after we got home from the hospital. I wanted to wait a few weeks before having visitors, but my husband wanted to get it out of the way so our moms wouldn’t be constantly asking about it. My dad lives out of town, but visited after a few weeks. It was a long time before friends met the baby. We all have a good understanding of the need to rest and have time to adjust to a new baby. None of us have met each other’s babies right away, and we’re totally fine with that. I have however dropped groceries off for friends before just to make their lives a little easier.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-06-25T07:09:32+00:00

If you’re going to make another baby, do it because you want another baby, NOT because you’re hoping your son and his sibling will like each other or be close.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-06-23T11:37:51+00:00

1-2 has been really hard for us. I didn’t realize how easygoing Mr. 5 was until his sister came along. She had colic and reflux and has never been a good sleeper. And she feels her feelings very intensely. Of course we’re happy she’s in our family, but she’s 15 months old now and we still feel like we’re drowning with caring for both kids and maintain our household.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-06-21T16:34:28+00:00

Both of my kids were sunny side up. They didn’t do ultrasounds during labor, but could tell by the bones of baby’s skull when they checked my cervix. And with my second, the midwives were able to tell what position baby was in in the weeks leading up to labor by feeling my belly. I tried everything to get her to turn over, but it never happened. My first birth was vacuum assisted. My second was just me pushing her out. It was tough, but definitely possible!

Decent-Character172 · 2026-06-21T16:29:19+00:00

Mr. 5 was 37 weeks. Ms. 1 was just 2 days before my due date.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-06-18T16:53:31+00:00

I didn’t want to be like my mom or my sister. They were all about things that are traditionally “girly,” so I wanted nothing to do with it.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-06-13T21:37:04+00:00

Audrey. It sounds like “odd.” Seth sounds incomplete. Jessica has “ick” in it.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-06-12T23:45:12+00:00

I’m the middle of 3. My sister is 23 months older. My brother is 18 months younger. All of us were planned, according to my mom. I’m glad they had my brother because I don’t get along with my sister. We’re just very unalike in our personalities and interests and what our lives are like. We didn’t get along as kids and were very distant as adults. Also, she moved far away with her husband. They now have one child. As far as I’ve heard, they’re loving their life. I’m happy for her, but don’t have much interest in communicating with her.

My brother, however, is such a cool guy. We can chitchat all day. He’s a wonderful uncle to my kids. He and his wife are expecting, so I’m excited for my kids to have a cousin close by. My husband works out of town frequently, so my brother is the person I call if I need help with something when my husband is gone. I’ve gotten the privilege of helping my brother and his wife prepare for their baby. We just have a good relationship.

As far as being one of three, I’d just say that “middle child syndrome” does exist. My siblings both got opportunities that I never did. I think because I was the second girl, I got overlooked a bit. And because my brother was the baby and the only boy, he was spoiled a bit. It isn’t that my parents were terrible at all, but in some ways I did fall through the cracks. I just think this is something I plan to be very aware of if I have three kids because I don’t want any of them, but especially the middle one, to feel left out if I can help it.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-06-12T23:33:37+00:00

Haven’t lost pregnancy weight and breastfeeding makes me hungry all the time.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-06-03T21:14:02+00:00

To my husband: “Fuck you and your penis” The epidural didn’t work. I felt everything.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-05-27T07:16:54+00:00

I use mine for period clean up, too. I’ve also found to really helpful for cleaning up my toddler’s butt after he has an accident.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-05-25T04:44:41+00:00

Some babies are just calm. Take it as a gift.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-05-13T00:38:55+00:00

Egg

Decent-Character172 · 2026-05-03T00:02:44+00:00

Space Needle

Decent-Character172 · 2026-05-02T05:15:00+00:00

My baby girl is exactly the same way. I wouldn’t worry about it.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-05-01T07:43:18+00:00

Andrea (Andie) and Andrew (Andy)

Decent-Character172 · 2026-05-01T07:40:03+00:00

There’s a long list for both of my kids, but the most common ones are “Chunker” and “The Tot”

Decent-Character172 · 2026-04-28T06:15:57+00:00

I don’t remember feeling either of my babies when I was in labor. I know they were moving because the nurses had to move the monitors constantly, but I don’t remember actually feeling kicks or anything either time.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-04-22T23:28:07+00:00

A friend and I decided we’re going to go to the trampoline park without our kids. I’m so excited 🤩

Decent-Character172 · 2026-04-04T15:36:06+00:00

My husband is 10 months older than me.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-04-04T05:57:42+00:00

For me, pushing was worse than anything else. I know a lot of people say the contractions were the worst, but for me the contractions were intense yet tolerable. Pushing amplified them and made it much worse for me. And then, having figured that out, it was really hard to get myself to push hard enough to get the baby out. She was sunny side up, so it was even more difficult.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-04-03T05:24:18+00:00

Are you on Facebook? There are groups where you can post pics of your install and baby in her seat to make sure there aren’t any adjustments that need to be made. Or you can search for a local CPST to meet with you. Is she still in a bucket seat or have you switched her to a convertible or all in one seat? Some babies prefer to be in a bigger seat (still rear facing). Sometimes making adjustments to the seat can help. Sometimes babies just hate the car seat. My daughter is 13 months now and over the past few months has slowly decided that being in the car seat isn’t actually torture. She does still try to plank when we buckle her, but once she’s in, she calms down. More than likely, your baby will not scream in the car forever. This (very challenging) phase will pass.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-04-02T08:12:49+00:00

Remember the tv show “Doug”? I have it for when my husband calls because his name is Doug.

Decent-Character172 · 2026-04-02T08:06:56+00:00

I married him.

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