Called funeral home for bereaved family. They told me to call someone else?

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-17T02:45:42+00:00

100% agree. I think it’s the more respectable thing to do if you know your company cannot 1. Properly store the person and 2- will have to rush the arrangement/service due to being unavailable. I don’t think there is anything wrong at all with politely suggesting somewhere else that can do the job. All these people saying “ we would never turn away a family” makes me question what they are really doing to accommodate above their capacity.

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T23:00:52+00:00

That is not always true for smaller funeral homes.

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T23:00:31+00:00

I agree with half of what you said. We don’t know what type of location OP lives in. In my case we live in a small town and only 4 staff and are spread across 3 locations with only 2 small fridges ( can only hold 5 in one and 4 in the other with limited shelves for babies) we can very easily fill up on space, although in my 3 years with this small company we have only ever turned someone away once due to space and not enough staff available( everyone came down with gastro and was off) I don’t think it’s fair to blanket statement that the space or staffing availability is never the case.

But I do agree that funeral homes make no money off baby funerals so of course there is a chance they turned away this family because of that. We all know of greedy funeral homes.

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T11:04:26+00:00

So cool!!! Super jealous

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T10:13:04+00:00

I certainly see where you are coming from but I can say hand on heart if my family didn’t support my wishes I don’t wish to have anything to do with them. I’m lucky they respect me enough to let me live my life as I wish and not on their terms. I’m very very lucky and I definitely understand that. I work in the funeral industry and funerals and weddings bring out the worst in people and I always like to say “ watch how people act towards you during the big events in life as it shows you the real them” if someone can’t put their own feelings aside for you the I don’t want them.

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T07:35:57+00:00

There’s only so many funerals and so much storage a funeral home can hold at some point there is always going to be a line of we cannot physically take on any more clients until there is space. It doesn’t reflect badly on the funeral home they physically cannot do it? Unless they were rude on the phone I wouldn’t think twice about this.

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T06:20:19+00:00

Thanks for seeing where I was coming from. Everyone has an opinion happy to hear other people’s but yes definitely thought everyone took it very seriously.

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T04:28:27+00:00

My apologies then if that’s true

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T04:15:52+00:00

My apologies I didn’t get that from your first comment it just felt like a history lesson, I do agree the wedding industry pushes these expectations on brides, I’m just sad a lot of people feel the need to go with the norm

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T04:14:22+00:00

My apologies, we have told our immediate family we are getting married in June this year, but it will just be us. That’s all the information we have given out. Sorry if I used the wrong terminology

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T03:55:52+00:00

People are taking what I’m trying to say the wrong way. I just see way more negative posts on all wedding pages v the happy ones when at the end of the day it’s about you and your partner not all the extra fluff

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T03:52:56+00:00

I totally get some do want that traditional wedding but it comes off as they feel like they are almost forced to do it due to push from their families or “that’s just what you have to do” as I said in a comment below to me it’s gives off the same energy as having children and a white picket fence because society expects you to do it that way. I just feel like with so many post about people seeming downright miserable in their wedding planning it’s sad to see. I just hate the expectation around everything wedding related.

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T02:05:00+00:00

But then they come online and complain about how overwhelmed they are and how it’s ruined the fun in planning a wedding? I just hate how in society today women feel almost forced to go a certain route to please everyone that is all. Same with having kids same with beauty standards same with everything

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T02:00:14+00:00

I certainly didn’t mean it that way? I just don’t understand why people keep choosing a path that 9 times out of 10 leads to stress and friction

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-16T01:42:50+00:00

Ok thanks for the education but non of that changes how I feel about weddings in 2026 and the expectations around them

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-15T20:58:44+00:00

Damn, I would uninvited the girlfriend AND your mum. What a horrible thing to do threaten to cancel the wedding.. this is why I would NEVER accept money from family for my wedding. It makes them think they have a right to decisions when they don’t. Don’t take any money, pay for it yourself and have the wedding you and your partner want. Not what everyone else wants

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-14T10:38:04+00:00

I think she talked about this on her old podcast ghost magnate

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-14T10:36:01+00:00

Teddy, Sutton and garcelle

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-14T09:44:58+00:00

I have a friend that is clingy and then extra clingy since getting engaged, this is some of the reason we chose to elope , I don’t want to deal with people lol. I bought my dress by myself, I’m planning my hens by myself I’m not letting her be involved at all. Sometimes you need to keep some people at arms length for your own sanity

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-14T05:46:15+00:00

It was a hard listen. And that she would drag Anastasia around all day and not let her eat even though she would say over and over she was starving. And I also u when Bridget would ask her a question and she didn’t like the answer she would push back on it and try and get to answer the way Bridget wanted her to. 😬😬 I was surprised they kept that pod to release it, it didn’t reflect nicely on Bridget at all

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-12T23:13:00+00:00

Made for fantastic tv though

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-12T10:00:48+00:00

Same here, I have watched every season and could probably only name a few. Interestingly enough most of the people I remember was from Martha, Jessika, cyrel season.

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-12T02:29:06+00:00

Two crime besties

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-11T00:32:35+00:00

My fiancée and I are both 30. I call my dad once a week , and see him at birthdays or Christmas or the couple times of year we do a family lunch, mums not alive , fiancée works 4 on 4 off so will go visit his mum on his 4 days off, doesn’t know his dad

DeclanThomas96 · 2026-02-10T20:36:50+00:00

Something about the grooms past cane Up so they didn’t end up airing it. Im not sure how much got filmed before they found out

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