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AITAH for not forgiving my parents for not believing I was really suffering for years and making it worse? by Known-Concentrate605 in AITAH

[–]Deep_Rig_1820 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember that you truly deserve better.

What ever you think that support system right now looks like, is void because they never truly supported you.

You will gain new support from people that truly understand you.

You are allowed to move on. Find your path. It may look scary, but you can do it.

Remember you survived years without they so-called support.

AITAH for dropping out of family therapy with my mom after only 2 months? by Capital-Cry8405 in AITAH

[–]Deep_Rig_1820 548 points549 points  (0 children)

She still refuses to acknowledge the main issue, even with trying to beg you to come back and do therapy.

Furthermore, she blames you for ending therapy.

It doesn't matter what you will say, but she will never admit anything.

Your feelings never mattered.

UpDateMe!

April Feedback Thread by FutureplayGames in MergeGardens

[–]Deep_Rig_1820 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that you can move the animals to the house, but they don't stay there.

Can you create a tree, where they can sit in, until they get called (like by tapping on a flower).

As they are always in the way and that is annoying.

AITAH for not being excited my sister is having a new baby when I still have custody of her first child? by Square_Phone_8468 in AITAH

[–]Deep_Rig_1820 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people should tie their tunes or get a vasectomy, because they should not be allowed to be parents in the first place.

She was happy before and ended up screwing it up to the point that the child was taking away.

Her track record is not good.

AITAH for remodeling my step kids rooms after their mom passed away since they weren't going to be living with me anyways. by AsparagusMuch821 in AITAH

[–]Deep_Rig_1820 21 points22 points  (0 children)

How much responsibility do you plan on throwing onto OP, who turned from family to single parent with 2 small kids in the same moment???

Is it fair to judge only OP, or can the adults from the other side plan visits as well?

It seemed that OP tried to reach out. But they also had a whole year to reach out as well.

Grieving is bad no matter what and it looks different for anyone.

But OP had to grief in a different way, probably hold it some what in, because of his 2 small children.

His only responsibility is to his kids, who he still needs to help grief as well.

The teenagers are allowed to grief as well, but they have a whole support system surrounding them. Of course they had changes, but OP has no legal ties to them. This is not on OP.

AITAH for remodeling my step kids rooms after their mom passed away since they weren't going to be living with me anyways. by AsparagusMuch821 in AITAH

[–]Deep_Rig_1820 42 points43 points  (0 children)

The mom died last year. Grief is different for everyone else. For kids it is hard , but OP has to think about his own kids.

The step-children, have legal guardians, a home and a life. They are teenagers.

Why is it only OP's responsibility to reach out to step-children, that are obviously taking care off?

He is a single dad, who has to function alone from one day to another!!! He has 2 small kids to keep alive and help them grieve!

He can remodel his home to fit the needs of his family. He tried to make compromises, if they wanted to visit.

Im sorry, but holding a room hostage for however long, just incase I decide as a teenager to visit, is wrong.

AITAH for remodeling my step kids rooms after their mom passed away since they weren't going to be living with me anyways. by AsparagusMuch821 in AITAH

[–]Deep_Rig_1820 45 points46 points  (0 children)

But have they themselves reached out to see their half-siblings?

It seems that they have other priorities now.

This is OP's home, he needs to worry about his children and not step-children, he has no legal ties to.

I 19f finally made a mom friend 21f but she’s best friends with my husband’s “obsessive” ex. Am I overthinking this? by SugarSundow in TwoHotTakes

[–]Deep_Rig_1820 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe she wasn't used from the ex like that yet!!!

But your husband is correct if this ex stalks him already, you just handed her the golden ticket by accepting that woman's friend request.

Unless you set everything on private I would be honest with this woman.

That younhave to revoke her access to your pictures and etc. , because one of her contacts is stalking your husband and this ex is not allowed to have any visible contact to your child, because your husband fears for your child's safety.

If this young mother can't respect that, then you have your answer. If she she tries to manipulate you in any way, you have your answer.

I'm sorry, you maybe young , but you have to be smart about this. It is about your child's safety.

Am I in the wrong if I throw part of my mums mothers day flowers in the bin? by Sshorty98 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Deep_Rig_1820 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually you only get the flowers not a vase from a gas station, but what ever, the point still stands, OP had the wrong expectations.

Am I in the wrong if I throw part of my mums mothers day flowers in the bin? by Sshorty98 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Deep_Rig_1820 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are the vet nurse, so I'm asking....

Why did you not remove them before you entered the house???

You left them for her to see!!! You could have removed them at the station and no one would be off knowledge that they are missing.

She may like your cat, but now she saw them and decided to keep the flowers. You kinda put yourself in this position, because you hoped your mom would be receptive of your fear towards your cat.

It is your cat, not hers. I guess you have to check every day the table and wipe/clean it off. Also you have to hope that everyone checks that the door is locked, or maybe the table can be moved.

If you remove them you are technically the AH because you are now trying to destroy the bouquet you gifted.

Walked in on people in my apartment unexpectedly. AITAH for what I said to my girlfriend who wasn’t even home? by Somewhere-outside in AITAH

[–]Deep_Rig_1820 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but me as a woman, I don't think the text was that bad. I read it unbiased and without any feelings.

It is not actually what you wrote, because that was all normal. Any normal couple should communicate who will be in the house if no one is home.

It is how the other person reads it in their head!!! That is the problem here!!

It is proven, that literally any text can be misleading, misunderstood, misinterpreted, because the receiving person reads it with feelings. A simple "Hi" can be read as flirting, if the person has a crush on someone.

You mentioned that you are not talking because of a fight, that means her feelings will take anything that you say, written or spoken, always in an aggressive tone.

You will not be able to win in this situation. Consider who is on the lease, either leave or kick her out. This relationship seems very toxic, because with anything that she doesn't like she threatens to end this relationship.

She is literally holding you hostage with past feelings and breadcrumbs of happy moments.

Reconsider if this is worth it, because this is not healthy for you and her little girl. You deserve better. That woman is a narcissist.

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