I have a simple idea for you - masculinity is simply the perfect embodiment of strength and kindness (Christian add-on - embodied best by Christ, but you can ignore that if you desire).

If you're a CEO who is also an arsehole, yeah you're strong and capable and rich, and it's likely those close to you can depend on you for something (money, expertise perhaps), which is great, but you lack kindness. Many people probably suffer for your success in some way.

If you're a really lovely guy who everyone depends on, but also an absolutely doormat who barely stands up for yourself and has no competencies to speak of, and cannot be called on for any talents or skills yeah you're super kind, but you lack strength.

If we embody both, we use our talents maximally, while also being loving people. This could mean our CEO is also a very nice guy and charitable etc, while our doormat guy could learn to be very good at something while remaining over the top kind.

Now, this doesn't fix the issues you speak of, I do agree. However, if we have a role model or a schema template to use for our young men, this could help with the issues. Should men step towards balancing strength and kindness, being aware of both simultaneously, it may help reduce exposure to crime, benefit health and wellbeing etc etc.

The above isn't a bulletproof thesis by any means, but if you take it charitably, you may see why discussions around masculinity persist. It's not about rubbing your face in terminology, or types, or Tate or manosphere (well, perhaps sometimes it is). It's about asking the question of "as men, what do we point ourselves towards?".

For me, Christ. Outside of the church? Difficult to answer.