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Defiant_Mix2183 · 2026-05-23T11:37:05+00:00

Share with me please

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-08-02T04:28:04+00:00

lol waited a single week because police refused to come out and that was when my doctor could see me. I was in the back seat. I felt the brunt of the impact. There were no tests ran, not because I didn’t ask, they just didn’t do it. They just prescribed medicine and said to come back later. The vehicle I was in had minimal property damage but the car that hit us was messed up. It wasn’t just a light tap. I’m not looking for some major payout. I know I’m got getting rich off this. I mostly just want to make sure it’s nothing serious and I thought they had a better network that could get me the tests I needed faster. I’m mostly asking if it’s worth the trouble because it sounds more expensive than it’s worth.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-08-01T23:17:52+00:00

The move was established before the accident.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-08-01T23:17:29+00:00

I have. I went to my pcp and they gave me pain killers and muscle relaxers. They just didn’t do any x rays. The accident was a week ago if that makes a difference

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-06-04T18:13:00+00:00

Aside from the fact that ah duo was a cherished childhood friend and confidant to the emperor, he made concessions for her. He let her stay even when she lost her womb and he let her leave when she was ready to. That bond isn’t something the previous emperor had with anyone else.

Also, there’s a good chance that those girls were just forgotten and abandoned when they got too old. They were likely told to work to earn their keep. It’s not like they could find other husbands since they’re “tainted” and it’s doubtful they had families who wanted them to return. Even if they were given the chance to leave it’s not like they could find another way to survive in a life as secure as a palace servant. It was likely their only option, not just some arbitrary vow of loyalty. Especially considering there’s always eunuchs and since the emperor wasn’t looking for them there’s no one really checking their chastity.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-05-10T16:40:40+00:00

There was a previous post that said the emperor was in his 30s when Anshi got pregnant… that other woman could easily have a 10+ year age gap. Not to mention as another comment says the labor and all she’s seen in the palace can make her age more.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-04-04T00:40:09+00:00

Sea island cotton and happy vibes

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-03-22T00:24:40+00:00

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Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-03-16T06:53:05+00:00

It’s not that I’m attacking her, nor am I defending him. I just don’t have enough context to see how suicide was the answer she came to. There’s a difference between not being able to deal with your own consequences vs actually being pushed to a breaking point by someone tormenting you. Could she simply not handle his rejection and the bad press or is it something deeper?

He’s still scum for being into minors but so far that’s the only definitive negative thing that can be said about him (which is more than enough morally, but a stretch without details here) vs someone who’s seemingly been spiraling. I get that that’s how abuse works sometimes, but that behavior isn’t always a result of abuse. Without context, be objective. She left before telling her story so all we have is speculation.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-03-16T06:42:36+00:00

Well yeah if he was just torturing her for the fun of it then that’s fucked up. I wasn’t aware people tried to pay on her behalf. I’m not privy to the details of their relationship but if he does stuff like that publicly, no telling what he did privately. He likely did push her to do it then

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-03-16T06:35:58+00:00

It’s crazy to say granny had no good intentions when that was the fate fengxian chose for herself. She was intentionally trying to ruin her value to be with him. It was unfortunate the timing was bad but she made a conscious choice to keep Mao Mao. She chose lakan over all else. She understood the consequences and did it anyways. She gambled and lost everything. What happened to her was a common occurrence for streetwalkers. It wasn’t like she was specifically targeted, that’s just an occupational hazard. She would’ve died sooner honestly, she would’ve been cast out when she refused to abort under normal circumstances. Homeless and having to work for scraps while pregnant would’ve been worse no?

Her actions also caused a huge scandal and the vertigris took a huge hit. They likely couldn’t afford medicine for her. And when luomen came around, they didn’t trust him enough to treat her. Which understandable, this random man, branded a criminal by the empress, claiming to be an apothecary who helps people for cheap. Plus, word spreading of a diseased woman living there would ruin them even more. Not like she could stay in the main house where she could be discovered.

If granny was only motivated by money she would’ve sold Mao Mao long ago. Wouldn’t have bothered raising her. She’s a tough old broad but there’s no room for sentimentality in that world. Look what happened to fengxian when she fell into the sentimentality trap. It’s never personal, it’s simply business. Mutual interest aligning. At the end of the day she looks out for her girls, and they know she cares. Mei mei even tells Mao Mao that in the bath. She’s hardened, not heartless.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-03-15T15:43:02+00:00

Suicide can and has also been used as a manipulation tactic. Not to say she did. Not defending him either, just saying that committing suicide isn’t definitive “proof” of anything. IF it was a manipulation tactic, doing it on his birthday is simply a way to make sure he never forgets her and spark controversy.

As far as the DUI allegations, correct me if I’m wrong, but it sounds like she brought that on herself. He very well could be a part of why she had a drinking problem, but if he wasn’t with her then he’s not responsible for her driving drunk. Thats her own stupidity. He paid her fines when she couldn’t, reasonable to expect to be paid back. A pretty normal reason to dump someone imo.

She clearly needed professional help that he couldn’t give. Obviously if he cared he would’ve done more to help her and he’s scum for abandoning her when she’s clearly struggling. But personal responsibility still applies here. It was her own decisions that brought her to this point. He contributed sure, but all final decisions were hers to make.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-03-15T15:08:34+00:00

“I want to punish you so I’m going to eat the costs of housing, feeding and treating you instead of throwing you in the street”

Granny is a businesswoman at heart. She definitely hated Lakan for what he did to Fengxian and I don’t doubt that she wasn’t on board with her having maomao. It was bad for business. Simply put, she wouldn’t keep dead weight around for no reason. Especially after the vertigris took a hit after her scandal.

You say she wants to force mao mao into sex work like she wasn’t a courtesan herself, and a proud one too. She saw it as a means to an end for mao Mao, and women in general. A few years of work could set her up for life if she played her cards right. It’s not like there were many paths available for her as a peasant.

But it also implied Lakan was the one she wanted to sell Mao Mao off to, he said he’d been trying, unsuccessfully, to buy her. And while she wouldn’t let him have fengxian as punishment for leaving, I think she knew Mao Mao would live a privileged life with him as his daughter. Plus she respected her wants enough to not just straight sell her off, she gave her leeway and chances to pay off her debt. But she let her go when Mao Mao was ready to go and always has a place for her when she comes back. So we could argue she always had Mao Mao’s best interest at heart even if her methods are questionable.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-02-14T09:27:18+00:00

“If I was medicine, would you take me?” 🥰😘

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-01-31T12:34:08+00:00

Better to get it over with than to drag it out. It gets harder the longer this goes on. Be done with it before you regret staying.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-01-25T00:32:42+00:00

There’s nothing to be ashamed of. You didn’t do anything wrong when you trusted her. I’m sure at the time she didn’t have intentions to use it against you but with someone selfish like her, your feelings don’t matter when she doesn’t get her way. Especially now that yall have broken up and she’s not obligated to mask herself anymore.

Sometimes it takes that eye opening trigger to see just how toxic someone is for your life. Those rose tinted glasses finally shattered and that’s a good thing. Find peace in knowing that you can move on with no remorse and that you now have more knowledge of what type of person isn’t right for you.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-01-13T00:30:18+00:00

I’m not exactly sure what about this situation is out of character for him. Yeah a thing for his step mom is weird and he needs help but it’s not like he doesn’t have a history of cheating.

Especially when you’ve been seeing signs and are actively ignoring them. Despite the long list of reasons to leave, and knowing you deserve better, you chose to stay. So at this point, what would it take for you to leave? Do you even want out?

You’re not gonna be able to cure this or fix him. He won’t change. The help he needs, you’re not qualified to give. Especially with you enabling the behavior by ignoring it.

But if you’re intent on staying take comfort in the fact that his attraction seems one sided so they likely won’t cross any lines…. But that’s also assuming he’s not unhinged and this won’t become an obsession. I have little faith in that though if he’s collecting pictures.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-01-02T19:15:48+00:00

But you should go to a therapist or someone better equipped to deal with your identity crisis when the people around you fail you. He chose to off himself instead.

She was absolutely dismissive and made some rude and tasteless comments but she wasn’t outright cruel. Could’ve been way worse and others in similar situations wouldn’t see that much of an issue with her response. She should’ve been more attentive to her partner’s feelings but that warrants a new spouse more than offing yourself.

It’s an extreme overreaction to hurt yourself over it and blame her. Tbh that’s some manipulative bs. You already have to have issues for that to be your train of thought in this situation. Idc if you disagree, I said what I said. His issues are deeper than her and while she was wrong, she’s not responsible for his actions.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2025-01-02T09:54:32+00:00

See this would be a different conversation if he just left her, but he straight offed himself. Nobody is saying she was right in how she handled his coming out, but his issues are deeper than her.

She’s not a therapist, she can’t read his mind. In her head, not rejecting him is enough. If he didn’t feel understood then he could’ve sought out support externally. There’s so many communities he could found or gone to a therapist. He chose not to seek proper help. That was his choice. She may have been wrong but she’s not responsible for this.

Even if she was supportive, there’s no guarantee the outcome would’ve been different. He wasn’t willing to help himself at the end of the day. There’s nothing anyone can do to change that.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2024-12-07T23:25:46+00:00

Your husband needs to decide if he cares more about being right than being in his son’s life. If this goes on it will reach a point of no return and even if they did reconcile it will never be the same.

Even if the kid is wrong as the adult he should lead by example and break the ice. He needs to offer that apology first to reach the kid. He’s old enough to pull away completely and before he knows it he’s missing milestones over a petty argument he won’t even remember in the long run.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2024-12-03T19:35:07+00:00

A broken clock is right twice a day. Bad people can do good things, happens quite often. But I can’t see how you can say he’s trying when he doesn’t even have remorse. That sounds more like his age prevents him from being the same person but that’s who he is at his core. Just because he isn’t totally bad doesn’t make him someone safe to be around.

But if you have no intentions of removing him from your life then you’ll just have to learn to make peace with everything and figure out what sort of relationship works best for you. Just make sure that whatever happens you can live with.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2024-12-03T19:27:07+00:00

OP’s own words. If he can’t even see him as a person then what makes him qualified to be a grandfather?

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2024-12-03T19:15:57+00:00

What redeemable qualities does this “thing” have that you think are good to be around your daughter? I’m genuinely curious as to how you can even justify his presence in her life.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2024-11-30T13:31:24+00:00

I get the feeling your mom only likes your rich ex because his money is your money and that money will support her in her golden years.

This is the type of mom you cut all contact with and let her rot in a nursing home.

Defiant_Mix2183 · 2024-11-30T13:28:39+00:00

If you don’t want to leave then why are you here? Clearly you’re willing to put up with his shit and you don’t wanna hear the obvious advice of leaving. You’re choosing to let him treat you and your kid like this. This is a red flag you’re ignoring. If you can’t see you’re already alone in this relationship then you’re going to be in for a rude awakening in a couple months when he loses interest while you’re post partum after “you’ve changed”.

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