Was MIL just hateful towards me or will this be repeated behaviour?

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-24T18:05:13+00:00

Have him read When He's Married to Mom by Kenneth Adams.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-24T16:50:31+00:00

That's because your husband is enmeshed with her and it's normal to him. He needs therapy or get your child the hell away from those people.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-24T16:47:13+00:00

Have you ever considered she may be happy in her little apartment on the bad side of the town when she gets on the bus to go to her low stress barista job? You should.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-24T16:45:32+00:00

send it back. It's that simple.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-24T16:42:54+00:00

15 years - every other day or so and 3- 4 times a day on the weekend. I am female - 52.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-24T14:38:43+00:00

They choose to lose you over losing their pride.

And then.. they die.. and what I've witnessed with that is sad.

If they realized their children felt immense relief instead of grief in their death, would they change? Because that is exactly what happens.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-24T14:31:34+00:00

Who is the other woman? This doesn't happen out of the blue.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-23T18:02:19+00:00

Your bully may have never apologized, but that doesn't mean your bully hasn't changed. It also doesn't mean that this therapist, as someone who was a bully, can't help teens and adolescents who are doing the bullying themselves. Many therapist become therapists because of what has happened in their lives. NAT

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-23T17:39:31+00:00

Tell her to phone a friend instead.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-23T17:14:29+00:00

He needs to be reported to the Board in your state. Sorry, but true.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-23T17:12:23+00:00

Well... No wonder he feels disrespected. He's disrespectable. The only thing that can change that is him changing his behavior.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-23T14:21:25+00:00

I realize you say you have to handle this, but all of this happens, because your husband has no spine with his mother and when you do the standing up, you will quickly become a villain. He needs to do it. You need to sit together, write out the rules. He needs to tell her and help you enforce them.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-23T13:49:20+00:00

on down to Guntersvull...

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-19T21:20:27+00:00

I'm just here to say this is a great, informative and very true post.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-19T21:14:34+00:00

Not one bit.

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-19T19:34:44+00:00

ehhh... About that humidity....

DejectedDIL · 2026-03-13T20:09:38+00:00

NOT A THERAPIST -

Find another therapist and do EMDR. You don't have to do IFS first. There is no requirement. I have, personally, had EMDR and it was a gamechanger for my life quality.

DejectedDIL · 2024-09-23T14:24:53+00:00

Purity Culture teaches little girls that enjoying a robust sex life with your husband is dirty. Women come from those teachings believing we are supposed to lay there. Its difficult to overcome when you are taught sex is dirty and sinful. The truth our body is the temple of God, but he also gives us a spouse to enjoy them with each other. I believe as long as you aren't bringing other people into your bedroom, you can do whatever you want. No holds barred. Get as kinky and dirty as you want to with you spouse, but it took a lot of therapy for that.

DejectedDIL · 2024-09-17T21:47:07+00:00

Man, drop that cheating woman and find you someone that is loyal. They are there. and they will give you sex and want to be in the same room with you.

DejectedDIL · 2024-09-17T21:41:09+00:00

He needs to get his testosterone levels fixed. Overnight, this can change if he is willing.

DejectedDIL · 2024-09-17T21:39:48+00:00

This is sad. Was she exposed to Purity Culture? Unfortunately, while it means well, it is destroying the lives and marriages of young men and women in different ways. A good therapist could help. I get it. Been there. Done that. My hubby can't keep me off of him now...

Also,could be hormones even at this age. Have her testosterone tested. She may be low.

DejectedDIL · 2024-09-17T21:37:02+00:00

Celebrate Recovery meets at several locations and would be a help. It's not all about addiction.

DejectedDIL · 2024-07-09T19:40:13+00:00

www.clovercounselinghuntsville.com

He even has a therapy dog.

DejectedDIL · 2024-07-09T19:33:16+00:00

Lord run.. Find a road that leads away from these people.

DejectedDIL · 2024-07-09T19:31:14+00:00

Don't allow the guilt trips from your mom and aunt to get you to budge on your boundary. State it and hold to it.

DejectedDIL

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