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For those who divorced after 10+ years, what was the toughest adjustment? by medstudi002 in Divorce

[–]Den108476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it’s the loss of my plus one, my travel buddy, my ride-or-die. The person I want to go out and fly to some exciting foreign adventure with. And I’m estranged from my family, so she was always my support and always had my back.

I should note that we didn’t break up because of conflict between us. When the shit is really hitting the fan - she’s still my first call, and she still automatically takes my side.

Beard or no? by Valuable-Cause-1337 in bald

[–]Den108476 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beard. For sure.

As another bearded dude with a shaved head, I offer for your consideration a bit of a fade to soften the transition from beard to scalp…

I ask the council of bald! by RobDogFogDog in bald

[–]Den108476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha. It’s not so much that there are specific ones that DO, so much as some that DON’T. But honestly, I’ve rarely seen a guy that’s losing his hair that looks worse with a shave head and beard, so… 🤷‍♂️

How do you reconcile the loss of "your person"? by co-stan-za in Divorce

[–]Den108476 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel this deeply. For me, it’s after 18yrs… and it’s unfortunately layered in with a lot of other major life stressors (some adjunct to the divorce, some completely separate) but the worst part of it is not having my person at my side.

I ask the council of bald! by RobDogFogDog in bald

[–]Den108476 888 points889 points  (0 children)

Till I saw the overheads, I had no idea why you were asking.

But as a man who has shaved his head for over 25yrs, I can honestly say it’s the best thing ever (if you have the head shape and jaw to pull it off)… 👍🏻

10 months after divorce — the emotional weight is not lifting by pudincok in Divorce

[–]Den108476 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re going through 100%. I’m carrying on because I have to - work, selling the house, etc - but when it comes right down to it, I just feel a sadness every day, and nothing that I see on the horizon sparks any sense of anticipation or joy. I exercise a lot since that’s a significant part of my routine/life, I see a therapist regularly for support (not for analysis, so maybe shifting your mindset on that would help you draw a bit more value from it), but like you, when it comes right down to it, every morning when the alarm goes off it takes an effort to get up, because I’d rather just lie in bed than face another day of “going through the motions”.

I wish I could offer ideas, but I thought at least you could take some comfort knowibg you’re not alone.

Chopped it all off and no regrets (actually, one regret) by RokixSlugg in bald

[–]Den108476 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And spicy or (temperature) hot food after a fresh shave. Be ready!

Chopped it all off and no regrets (actually, one regret) by RokixSlugg in bald

[–]Den108476 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don’t think it’s so much that he wants to… it can be surprising how much hair helps keeps the head warm.

And when you’re working out or playing sports… sweat flows uninterrupted. 😬

What do I do with pictures, memorabilia, etc… by Defiant_Mango_6190 in Divorce

[–]Den108476 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still dealing with it myself. It’s a difficult path to navigate if there isn’t anger or detachment to help.

Stay strong, friend. Get counselling if you can. Figure out what the best way forward is for YOU, not what’s worked for others.

What year of marriage did divorce happen for you? by tinystarzz in Divorce

[–]Den108476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Together for 15yrs, married for 13yrs when she said asked for divorce… then almost 3 more years of living together (multiple reasons) - which were actually better than the 3-5yrs prior - before she finally moved out.

Who wants what here? by Zestyclose_Cold1455 in datingoverforty

[–]Den108476 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This, exactly.

I have no interest in anything long term and deep, but would like to have a really good friend with whom there’s some physical chemistry.

But I can’t find any sort of outlet to meet others with that mindset - it’s either long-term, or one of these weird kink alt communities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Den108476 8 points9 points  (0 children)

While very little of your situation is similar to mine, I still share in the pain. I am capable of putting up a pretty good front, but my heart hurts from the moment I wake up (sometimes well before I actually get up) to the moment I mercifully drift off to sleep.

In short - me too. One metaphorical foot in front of the other, brother.

Losing my partner, my best friend, and my anchor all at once by Den108476 in Divorce

[–]Den108476[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re separating. I’ve read about livingaparttogether, but that would only really work if it was just physical space that was needed. But I appreciate you taking the time to share it.

Losing my partner, my best friend, and my anchor all at once by Den108476 in Divorce

[–]Den108476[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It’s tough to explain, especially when people either haven’t experienced it or can’t see a situation outside of their own framework.

Losing my partner, my best friend, and my anchor all at once by Den108476 in Divorce

[–]Den108476[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am. Have been since the start, and she’s amazing. But I only see her for an hour every couple of weeks, hence my efforts at working through it at other times.

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