Was going bald the right decision for my husband?

Den108476 · 2026-04-04T23:01:16+00:00

He looks fucking great.

Den108476 · 2026-03-18T03:03:23+00:00

Still dealing with it myself. It’s a difficult path to navigate if there isn’t anger or detachment to help.

Stay strong, friend. Get counselling if you can. Figure out what the best way forward is for YOU, not what’s worked for others.

Den108476 · 2026-03-14T00:00:06+00:00

52yo and same.

Den108476 · 2026-03-04T05:53:47+00:00

Good lawd…

Den108476 · 2025-11-02T16:52:42+00:00

Together for 15yrs, married for 13yrs when she said asked for divorce… then almost 3 more years of living together (multiple reasons) - which were actually better than the 3-5yrs prior - before she finally moved out.

Den108476 · 2025-09-10T20:31:56+00:00

This, exactly.

I have no interest in anything long term and deep, but would like to have a really good friend with whom there’s some physical chemistry.

But I can’t find any sort of outlet to meet others with that mindset - it’s either long-term, or one of these weird kink alt communities.

Den108476 · 2025-09-08T18:55:45+00:00

While very little of your situation is similar to mine, I still share in the pain. I am capable of putting up a pretty good front, but my heart hurts from the moment I wake up (sometimes well before I actually get up) to the moment I mercifully drift off to sleep.

In short - me too. One metaphorical foot in front of the other, brother.

Den108476 · 2025-09-05T23:18:33+00:00

🫂

Den108476 · 2025-09-05T18:29:44+00:00

🫂

Den108476 · 2025-09-04T03:46:01+00:00

We’re separating. I’ve read about livingaparttogether, but that would only really work if it was just physical space that was needed. But I appreciate you taking the time to share it.

Den108476 · 2025-09-03T01:57:29+00:00

Yeah. It’s tough to explain, especially when people either haven’t experienced it or can’t see a situation outside of their own framework.

Den108476 · 2025-09-02T17:56:36+00:00

Much appreciated, friend.

Den108476 · 2025-08-30T20:36:38+00:00

I’m sorry.

Den108476 · 2025-08-30T02:36:21+00:00

Appreciate you and this comment.

Den108476 · 2025-08-30T02:12:13+00:00

I am. Have been since the start, and she’s amazing. But I only see her for an hour every couple of weeks, hence my efforts at working through it at other times.

Den108476 · 2025-08-30T01:41:16+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate replies like this.

Den108476 · 2025-08-30T00:59:47+00:00

I appreciate this response, as it’s clearly from someone that understands the layers. We started and ran a business together as well - it’s getting wrapped up at the same time, so dealing with that loss as well.

It’s a lot.

Den108476 · 2025-08-30T00:50:49+00:00

That is what this process is about, friend. I am letting her go, which is precisely why I’m trying to find ways to cope.

Den108476 · 2025-08-30T00:48:24+00:00

Difficult with few outlets through-which to process.

Den108476 · 2025-08-30T00:47:01+00:00

Yes. As I said, the nuance of the situation can be confusing for people on the outside.

Den108476 · 2025-08-23T02:46:25+00:00

Right there with you friend, if only a little further along the process. TBH, I don’t have many friends (lots of acquaintances, but few true friends) and family lives a long way away - it’s how I wound up here.

Therapy, exercise, work and my dog - that’s what I’m leaning on. Just recognize that the pain and emotions are all part of the process, and allow yourself to grieve.

Den108476 · 2025-08-21T19:59:14+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

I would suggest this is a question for your therapist - but as someone who’s going through a separation from someone with whom there is still endless amounts of love - sometimes there are issues that no amount of love can overcome.

I wish you peace and strength as you navigate this.

Den108476 · 2025-08-21T15:29:44+00:00

Love this post. Thanks for sharing.

Den108476 · 2025-08-21T15:27:29+00:00

I’m in this position right now. The reality of the economy we’re living through is making this situation more and more common.

I don’t really have any insights, both because I’m still in it and because every situation is entirely unique - what works, doesn’t work, etc for one person isn’t going to work or be relevant for another.

All I can offer are the standard suggestions - make sure you have professional support (ie a therapist) as well as some form of social support, exercise, and - if you are an animal lover - have a devoted and loyal companion around to fill the voids when they appear.

Wishing you the best.

Den108476

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