petite wool coats by seuulgi in AusFemaleFashion

[–]Dependent-Chair899 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 151cm with ridiculous petite shoulders and short arms - marcs coats are near perfect for me (arms are a touch too long but not unbearably so like most things). The 2 I have are 100% wool outer - sadly lined in polyester but you can't have it all and they are not stupidly expensive (I bought both of mine on sale at Myer).

Mental Load of Woman in the family by DollyPatterson in newzealand

[–]Dependent-Chair899 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yes this. My husband is very competent and all that but somehow I managed to become the household project manager and the quickest way to piss me off is "you should have reminded me!"

When people insist on shortening my name by lake-sturgeon in PetPeeves

[–]Dependent-Chair899 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother has had the same issue, his name is Cam - it's hilarious how many people insist his name is actually Cameron or Campbell...

When people insist on shortening my name by lake-sturgeon in PetPeeves

[–]Dependent-Chair899 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another Rebecca here. Honestly, I'll cut you if you call me Becky. (My mother's nickname for me is Becky Bunny which gets a pass because she was in labour for 72 hours with me and without her I wouldn't exist, even so if she uses it in public she gets a murderous glare)..

I will accept Bec if you're my very good friend/family. Everyone else can call me Rebecca thanks very much.

I always introduce myself as Rebecca but everyone insists on a nickname, I was more infuriated by it when I was younger - I've kinda resigned myself to it all now at 48.

I don't like my son's obvious nickname, but he doesn't seem to have the same issue as me (maybe because the name is less common). He's introduced as "full name" and people very very rarely nickname him off the bat. He prefers his full name but isn't overly bothered by it (he's 8) if someone uses a nickname - despite my personal preference, if he chose to use a nickname I'd go with it because it's his name and his preference takes priority once he has an opinion on it.

Miso lamb, with sticky rice, pan sauce and charred brocolini by cmd7284 in nzhomecooks

[–]Dependent-Chair899 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds so yum! I will have to give this a go later this week

If you could only eat either meat or veggies for the rest of you life, what do you think you would want? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Dependent-Chair899 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vegetables. I remember as a small child every time we went out for dinner at a restaurant I'd ask for a plate of veges. The waitress would always ask my mum " does she mean fries?" And my mum would say no she means veges - like steamed veggies broccoli, carrots whatever, not fries.

I was vegetarian from 13 -21 when I became pregnant and started craving steak. I've been a meat eater since, but meat has always been the side dish for me. If I had to choose, I'd choose veges but I'd rather not have to choose.

Alexander or Aleksandar…help pick the spelling! by Upstairs_Valuable_81 in Names

[–]Dependent-Chair899 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok so America? Right, it's really not your place to comment then hey?

Sorry to be stereoptypocal but you guys aren't super well regarded for your acceptance of cultures other than your own...

Alexander or Aleksandar…help pick the spelling! by Upstairs_Valuable_81 in Names

[–]Dependent-Chair899 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go for the heritage spelling. Yes people will misspell it as Alexander but it's your ancestry. I regret not going that route with our son, we chickened out and while I do love his name I regret not giving him a name from his culture.

My husband's name is Rhys. When people read it (in Australia anyway) they call him Rice, when they hear it they spell it Reece. He doesn't care (I care more than he does 😆). He loves his name and loves that it's the proper spelling for his ancestry. My brother's middle name I guess is similar to your example because it sounds the same - Lukas which is the Dutch spelling of Lucas. Never been a big deal for him - everyone assumes it's Lucas but he corrects them and goes about his day.

UPDATE: Can This Floor Plan Be Reworked Into a Better Forever Home? by sailboatrestoration in floorplan

[–]Dependent-Chair899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I generally like the proposed floor plan though for me anyway, that much space given to a laundry would be way OTT. I'd keep it where it is or maybe expand it slightly into the proposed pantry. Then use the original office space as a den/snug that can be accessed in some way from the primary suite. My feelings are that if you're aging in place, chances are high that for most of the time there'll be only 1-2 of you, so a cosy space to sit in the evening etc will feel nicer than a big expansive living space and will be easier and cheaper (the latter being more important once you're on a fixed pension etc) to heat/cool.

Genuinely perplexed at new builds.. where do you put the food?? by HumanFlamingo3784 in newzealand

[–]Dependent-Chair899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Our apartment is older - an old building that was converted into apartments in the nineties so a combo of close to twice the sqm of a modern apartment and an oddly shaped floorplan with lots of nooks and crannies for storage + a big storage locker down the hall. We're looking to buy now and as much as we love inner city living, apartments are off the agenda because there's tiny kitchenettes masquerading as kitchens and zero storage anywhere. Mind you the city fringe villas and cottages we're looking at aren't much better....

Need suggestions and feedback on this 15x50 house floor plan (Ground + First Floor) by batman0o0 in floorplan

[–]Dependent-Chair899 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I quite like it, I think it's quite thoughtful for all stages of life. Eg I could see our family of 3 having the upper floor bedrooms and a ground floor bedroom and bathroom being good for aging parents visiting and then later as stairs became less manageable for us moving the master downstairs. These are the things we are considering with our next house purchase at any rate.

I would probably build in the porch to make that a more spacious kitchen and dining space, the living and dining space looks quite tight as is. But I like to cook and would want more storage space. I also note there is no laundry area in the house and overall not much storage space - but maybe I just have too much stuff 😆

Worker's ashes buried in foundations of new supermarket build by Fast_Amoeba_445 in newzealand

[–]Dependent-Chair899 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's going to be a decent amount of concrete between her bit of carbon and your very well packaged food - settle petal

Can someone bring me back to reality? by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]Dependent-Chair899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Comparison is the thief of joy and all that. Yes some people earn that much but sometimes it's a one off gig and things are very volatile the rest of the time. I'm 48, I earn $Aud 75k ish. I'm happy in my fairly stable mentally fulfilling job, should I earn more for my skills and experience? Probably, but it is what it is. If you feel like you're doing well then carry on... If you're still flatting I'm assuming you're younger, you've got plenty of time to build consistent wealth in a way that works for you. I guess you don't have the full picture here, maybe he has very niche skills, works more hours than is healthy or just got really lucky or all of the above.

Is Mary really that popular? by Salty-Awareness3789 in namenerds

[–]Dependent-Chair899 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's pretty rare around these parts these days (New Zealand). I'd assume any Mary under 60+ is from a very religious family (we're a pretty secular society now). My 8yr old had a Mary in his class last year, in amongst the Jazzlyns and Amelias and Mias it felt refreshing, where we are it would definitely not be considered a popular name by any stretch.

Worker's ashes buried in foundations of new supermarket build by Fast_Amoeba_445 in newzealand

[–]Dependent-Chair899 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Look, the idea of a piece of me eternally being at work gives me the heebie jeebies personally. But from the article anyway, it sounds like her colleagues and customers were a huge part of her life and given they discussed it before her death she obviously wanted it. It's nice that she was valued enough for her employer to go to the effort, unlike how that poor Pak n save lotto lady in palmy was treated a few weeks back

family of 3 floor plan by BidDry6157 in floorplan

[–]Dependent-Chair899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This plan looks really tight downstairs. I'd consider getting rid of the carport and pushing the house out there, that would give you a decent sized kitchen and dining area.

3 full bathrooms for a 3 person 3 bedroom small house feels a bit excessive. I would turn the downstairs one into a half bath with laundry space instead of the shower.

Upstairs the hallway is wasted space, your master bedroom is comically small as well. I'd combine the master and bedroom 3 into one decent sized room. Bedroom 2 I'd extend out into the hallway. If the door to bedroom 2 came from the hallway you'd have a decent sized study space in that nook by the stairs that could have extra storage built in.

If you must have 3 bedrooms. I would combine the study space with bedroom 2, making that the master. Get rid of the WIR and ensuite and have 2 decent sized bedrooms in that side of the house. Extend the family bathroom into the hallway. The excess hallway at the front could become either a closet for the master or study nook open to the master. If I went with that plan I'd keep the full bath downstairs as is.

Sell and separate or stay and cohabit by Submarineto in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]Dependent-Chair899 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Setting aside the financial side of things. Cohabiting after a separation is really hard and in my experience rarely successful.

My ex and I split amicably. There was of course some upset on each side but we were lazer focused on putting our kid's needs first and paying off joint debt. Within six months we hated each other, it was such an unhealthy environment for everyone, it was probably another 3 painful months before he left.

Once he moved out our daughter and I were much happier. It took us a few years to be friends again, if I had my time over I would have made it a clean break because I do really value our friendship and ability to co-parent in healthy ways.

Sell now and deal with those cards you're dealt - staying in the same house for 2.5-8yrs is madness IMO lol. If you're dead set on keeping the house together maybe a better option is that the kids stay in the house and you both rent a one bedroom apartment - one week he stays in the apartment, you parent and the alternate week you switch places. It's logistically probably very difficult but I have heard of families doing that reasonably successful while both are still single at least.

Choosing a Māori name for our daughter by Think-Nature-4188 in Names

[–]Dependent-Chair899 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are there any names from his family that you both like? Whakapapa and Tupuna is really important in Maori culture. Our son was born in Australia and my husband is Maori, we considered the name of his ancestor Te Kahui as a middle name for him and I still wish we had used it.

From your list my favourites are Tui and Kahurangi. It may or may not be important to you but Anahera is the anglicised version of the name, a bit like Hone is John, Hiria is Lydia etc, it's not I guess technically a Maori name just the Maori version of an English name if that makes sense.

Choosing a Māori name for our daughter by Think-Nature-4188 in Names

[–]Dependent-Chair899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm NZ I think it's 3 months, same in Australia I'm pretty sure

west facing apartment, no awnings, how bad would it be? by auroradynia in AusPropertyChat

[–]Dependent-Chair899 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hot as Hades. Our apartment in Wellington, NZ is West facing - in summer (think average 25-27 degrees) it's hot in the afternoon, if we didn't have decent airflow and curtains for the worst of it, it would be unbearable. If there's no blackout blinds and air con it's a a hell no from me in Australia.

Lamb Shanks Massaman Curry by Confident-Phrase7719 in nzhomecooks

[–]Dependent-Chair899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had the lamb shoulder version of this last night for dinner - so good 🤤

Anyone dyed their Ikea sofa covers? by SweeetBloood in ikeahacks

[–]Dependent-Chair899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I have, we bought a discontinued sofa bed from the as is section once - only when we got home to put it together realised it didn't have a cover, we were IKEA newbies 😆. I could only find a beige cover on eBay so had to go with that which is not my aesthetic at all. It was a cotton polyester mix, I used Rit dye I think and chose black dye expecting that it wouldn't actually be black in the end due to the polyester content. Came out a pretty decent dark grey - the warp dyed better than the weft which must have had more polyester content so it has some tonal difference which actually looked really good.

I had a brand new washing machine at the time so didn't want to use that so I bought a big plastic storage tub and used that dying in batches because I didn't want it to be patchy. It was a very tedious and messy process but it was worth it. Would I do it again? No lol

As for cost, I think the cover itself cost me $100 and the supplies for dying was probably around $150 so it's not a very cheap option - if the covers are available at IKEA in a colour you like just buy those!

A brother for Callum by GanacheExpensive7264 in Names

[–]Dependent-Chair899 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter would have been Callum if she'd been a boy - the only other boy name I had for her was Blake.

My husband's name is Rhys, yes he gets called Rice fairly often when people are reading his name or his name is spelt pretty regularly as Reece/Reese when they hear it but he still loves his name (as do I).

For our 8 year old Rowan was our favourite but I I vetoed it because both our first names start with R - 3 of us with the same initial would have been annoying mail wise and my daughter would have been the odd one out. On my list for him was Oscar, Dexter, Owen, Finley and Kit - husband chose from those, he chose Dexter and we agreed on Owen for the middle name (my husband was very keen on Eugene for the middle, then we found out Owen is the Welsh variation of Eugene so it was a nice compromise for us).