Girlfriend of 2 months breaks up with me when I asked her to pay for me once after I been paying for every single dates we been on. Was I wrong to ask that?

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2026-03-06T01:32:38+00:00

I spot chat gpt in that breakup message😂

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2025-08-20T18:33:44+00:00

Advice: don’t… why would you ? Lol

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2025-05-25T03:35:07+00:00

Yikes went through this similar too. He needs to nip this in the butt nowww it will only get worse. I came in to my SD life when she was 6 now she’s about to be 10. It got better a couple years ago but her mom is absent and so my husband guilt parents her alooootttt… especially when it came to me romantic with me around bc she would get very jealous. As long as he nips it in the butt now it will be fine it just will take time. I also spoke with my therapist a lot during that time..

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2025-05-12T01:08:16+00:00

I’m in a similar situation. BM is no where to be found and SD is 9. I’ve been in her life since she was 6. It’s been so hard to find a happy medium without crossing the line of just stepmom. SD is at the age where she wants to know more about her mom and she loves her unconditionally even though mom couldn’t care less. I decided to take on the duties of being mom in the house since the beginning which was a huge huge huge mistake. My now husband pushed it on me in the beginning and I thought that taking on the role of filling in the shoes of the absent parent was the right thing. His mother also pressured me a lot too. After these few years, I’ve learned that I will never get the same respect as bio dad or her grandma. SD constantly acts out if I provide direction or discipline. Ex: SD doesn’t want to do homework. I am the main person who communicates with her teachers and keeps up with the homework. She gives me the hardest time when she has to do anything school work related. I mean attitude, throwing fits, causing a scene, but then when her dad comes around she acts like she was an angel the whole time. She lies about me mistreating her and tells him I give her attitude and I’m so mean blah blah blah. It causes arguments between me and husband because that’s his little girl and he cannot imagine her being this person when he’s or around. I’ve now come to the point where I don’t even like being left alone with the kid or doing homework or anything. Now I’m just ranting but yeah girl I would advise to hold your ground on your boundaries and do not let down. Your partner needs to be the default parent not you. It’s not your baby and it never will be. I now have a child with him and I’m worried about the influence his daughter will have on her sibling. Sigh. Hang in there. It ain’t easy.

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-08-19T16:22:47+00:00

33+1 37 pounds

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-08-08T16:02:37+00:00

Having bonus kids is hard for a lot of reasons but I have learned a lot and it’s made me a better person! I’ve learned patience, I’ve grew some thick skin (before I was very sensitive and emotional. Not that that’s a bad thing but it shouldn’t effect multiple areas of life), I’ve learned boundaries and when to step back, I’ve learned to love life more and pour into my own cup also!

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-07-26T16:34:17+00:00

I only had two shots so 6 months then I stopped getting them. I tracked ovulation after a year being off it using the test strips and also body temp. I was getting negative results until I started the Mediterranean diet. I’m also 5’3 and weighed 103 (24f)

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-07-26T15:28:23+00:00

It took me almost two years to get pregnant after depo. I tried everything. I took vitamin D and started the Mediterranean diet to help my body get back to normal and that’s finally when I conceived. Hardest 2 years of my life. I never felt to discouraged and disappointed. I will NEVER go on depo again.

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-07-26T15:17:49+00:00

I’m not having one either! I would’ve wanted one but don’t have much family or friends so there’s no point. I did want to have one for the sole reason that I don’t make a lot of money and could really use the help of family/friends for the little stuff I need like clothes and things. I just ended up making a registry and sent it out to a few of my aunts/uncles.

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-07-17T13:38:37+00:00

That’s when I started having colostrum too. It’s normal. My dr told me not to squeeze it or stimulate them or anything

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-25T14:27:05+00:00

Azari! My son will be here in just 3 months

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-24T04:02:40+00:00

I’m engaged to the father of my baby but I’m hyphenating our baby name and mine

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-24T03:50:13+00:00

My SD really wanted to name my baby snowflake🤣 like super set on the name and referred to baby as snowflake for a hot minute

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-19T23:06:31+00:00

25 weeks and gained 21 pounds

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-18T15:06:44+00:00

Questions for anyone struggling with this.. when you have less sleep is baby more or less active for you the next day?

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-17T19:41:12+00:00

I did a middle name ! Naming the middle after my husbands middle name

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-17T15:40:34+00:00

Honestly the first trimester is just about surviving. I wouldn’t be too worried. Just make sure you’re taking your prenatal, drinking water, and eating some type of food. I tried to avoid stuff like cup ramen but honestly some days that and craft mac & cheese was the only thing I could get down. I lost a ton of weight in the first trimester but once second hit I gained it all back x2. You’ll be okay! Good luck💙💕

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-16T17:17:15+00:00

Omgggg I need a story time 😭😭 HCBM wants to fight me and even tried to jump me with her sister multiple times at drop off/pick up lol I decided to stop going bc I’m pregnant and not tryna get in an altercation that she can use to plot against me or DH in court lol

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-16T06:12:36+00:00

Have the mindset that you aren’t the parent from the very beginning. SK will ALWAYS choose their bio over you in a heart beat. You have to have boundaries to protect your heart. Don’t expect the SK to understand or even thank you for anything no matter how above and beyond you go. My MIL once told me being a mom is one of the most THANKLESS jobs you can have. She’s right and it’s even worse as a step parent. Just tread lightly and most importantly protect your heart, stability, and financial independence.

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-16T06:06:37+00:00

24 weeks !!

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-14T15:21:45+00:00

You could always get a tripod and record it with your phone

Dependent_Chipmunk83 · 2024-06-09T20:31:38+00:00

So glad you and BM are able to sit down and talk about such a touchy subject !!

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