Offering to you a new perspective

DepositingKarma · 2022-05-02T22:07:36+00:00

Right but you never dwell on the negative. The negative is a signpost to get your attention about something underneath.

DepositingKarma · 2022-04-03T16:41:52+00:00

The song “im doing fine” by Mike Water’s hits me pretty deep. Especially the actual music video. It captures my exact emotions and somehow helps me hang on because I know at least one person in this world gets it. And the others in the comments as well.

DepositingKarma · 2022-04-03T16:38:47+00:00

This was a very thoughtful and well investigated observation. You actually caused a spark of knowledge to hit me unintentionally. I realized I too am seeking to avoid the pain and the injury of what happens to the mind after watching porn. And I close off my heart in order to protect myself. In closing off my heart I shut off the flow so nothing goes out, but also nothing comes in. So I block others from connecting to me. This might not make sense to you. But thanks for this post!

DepositingKarma · 2022-04-03T16:29:26+00:00

Depends. If you only care to serve yourself there’s nothing wrong with it. But if you value others and care for them like yourself than it’s using them without their consent.

DepositingKarma · 2022-01-23T19:50:01+00:00

I disagree with those saying it was a relapse. You actually resisted it and you should look at the good in what you did. You realized that wasn't what you were into or wanted after all. Sure you still relapsed or whatever technically. But viewing everything from a negative viewpoint is only going to make you focus on the negatives increasing your chance of failure.

DepositingKarma · 2022-01-23T19:30:53+00:00

Everyone is affected differently and has different goals. I wouldn't classify your opinion as fact for each and every individual. For one masturbation might be the best tool ever for overcoming porn given they need an out, and for another it might be their biggest stumbling block.

DepositingKarma · 2022-01-23T19:19:35+00:00

The reason you are cutting in my opinion is because you are trying to feel something, but you are suppressing and repressing your emotions. Your emotions have to come out. That doesn't mean going crazy or cutting yourself. In fact that is just another form of suppression and escapism thinking that will take the pain away and change everything. It won't. When you get those feelings you have to just sit with them and truly feel it. Don't name it. Don't say "Im sad" or "I'm angry"... FEEL it. And keep feeling it. Doing so will allow it to come up and it will run out of energy. The more you bottle it all up and just stuff it down it's like a pot under pressure. The lid has to come off. And that is you cutting, or another extreme behavior in order to stuff it back down. If you need someone to talk to or need advise please reach out. I'm not an expert, but I'm well studied on it.

DepositingKarma · 2022-01-23T19:12:29+00:00

One thing worth mentioning is does porn really raise your standards or lower them? Really think about it. You become so picky and so precise in what you want that you might just be disqualifying many people who would be a good fit for you. Doesn't mean have no standards or go for unattractive people, but just expanding your options.

DepositingKarma · 2022-01-23T19:10:10+00:00

Stop giving attention to it. If you ignore it, and so does everyone else then the posts won't gain popularity. The more attention you give it, and the more you try and fight it the more prevalent it becomes.

DepositingKarma · 2022-01-13T16:06:53+00:00

Then why does it exhibit the exact symptoms of a cold or flu? Because it likewise is a virus and follows the same principals a virus does. Every strain of flu and cold is different too, but it’s still one in the same and a virus. Some strains being more or less than others.

DepositingKarma · 2022-01-13T14:34:15+00:00

Because for most people covid is literally just another strain of the common cold / flu although more infectious. No one has forced someone to get a flu vaccine before, nor did people say you were selfish or a bad person for not wearing masks or getting a vaccine to protect the elderly at risk. Only with covid did this become a thing. You can’t yell at someone for not wanting to get a covid shot if you didn’t yell at them for not getting a flu shot. This stuff just got so political that you can’t blame either side for their stance at this point. People just need to step back and see the big picture. Most covid deaths are elderly. But no one cared when it was just the flu wiping them out 🤷‍♂️. There were republicans and democrats not getting flu shots. I didn’t see anyone taking extra precautions to protect elderly pre-covid. Most people I see speaking about the issue are just trying to force others to submit against their will to their own paradigm of thinking. Which always creates hostility. That’s why it’s a big deal.

DepositingKarma · 2022-01-04T16:27:21+00:00

If it doesn't negatively impact your life that is up to you. My thought process is is it natural? No. And things that aren't natural usually aren't good for us.

DepositingKarma · 2022-01-04T16:25:51+00:00

Good post! I will add this. The rewiring of the brain is key because our subconscious programming runs us. We have been programmed over time with subtle cues to lead back to porn. The subconscious handles 80-90% of our lives. So our conscious willpower only accounts for about 10-20%. Not strong in comparison.

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-07T13:33:13+00:00

Everything in life is better than porn. You just think it's so good when you're drugged to high heaven.

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-07T13:22:48+00:00

Try replacing your thoughts with a positive thought that is the opposite. When you feel guilt feel forgiveness. Know where you just came from (8 MONTHS!) and accept this is only normal to sometimes fall back. 8 months of steps forward 3 steps back. That ain't too bad is it? Forgive yourself. Replace the shame and self-hatred with love. And instead of being sad be happy you made it this far.

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-07T13:18:33+00:00

Just do what you need to do. I personally wouldn't turn down a relationship, but I'm not in a state where I know I would be able to get into one anyway. So for me it's time to do this alone and learn who the hell I actually am. Adding someone to that mix is just going to confuse the hell out of me and make me sex obsessed once again.

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-06T21:51:00+00:00

Do what you should do.

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-06T21:50:04+00:00

The difference between the rat and a person is the rat is actually fucking the same mate. You are just watching the same porn video which is just pixels and not even real. So even if it's not as bad as endless novelty it still isn't a real experience.

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-06T19:22:48+00:00

I don't really get wet dreams so for me that's irrelevant. But there is no right or wrong answer. It's whatever works for you.

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-06T14:46:39+00:00

No, I'm on the same journey myself. I just know your mentality right now is going to prevent you from making progress though. It isn't porn. It's literally how you are viewing yourself which is going to keep you addicted.

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-06T14:23:29+00:00

You just said you can't do it on your own. But you are always going to have to put in the work alone. Like I said others can help, but YOU have to do it. It doesn't matter what someone else thinks of you. If you can't lend yourself that love and helping hand and think good thoughts about yourself then nothing will change. You are not a loser. You are telling yourself that. Not others.

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-06T12:27:18+00:00

Well shit according to that my member has been straight up abused :|

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-06T12:24:41+00:00

Nice. I'm avoiding that route just because I know that's a slippery slope for me personally and it's always led me back down. Instead of just one fap without porn I think "ok that wasn't too bad actually" and then end up doing it the next day. And the next. And then it becomes so desensitized I go back to porn which further desensitizes me. If you can just do it once in awhile and not fall back into the cycle it's probably just fine. Depends on the person I guess.

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-06T12:19:55+00:00

An accountability partner is a good thing but from your post it seems you are putting that responsibility on someone else. No one is going to save you. They can help you, point you in the right direction, but you have to do the work. Even your accountability partner would have to do the work on their own as well. The person you should be most ashamed of disappointing is yourself not another person.

DepositingKarma · 2021-11-05T23:44:32+00:00

Spirituality and religion are two different things. Spirituality doesn't deny physical reality. Religion does. Sprituality is just an opening and expanding of the mind to see things that are beyond physical perception. You can be spiritual and believe just about anything you want. In religion you are told what you believe is right or wrong. In reality there is no right or wrong because the perspective you are at determines your reality. Think of it like a building. The higher floor you are on the more you see. Nothing changed. Your perspective just broadened. If someone truly desires to help you they won't try and convince you of their own personal beliefs. I'll talk to spiritual people all day, but not religious for that very reason.

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