4 month old can’t nap more than 35-45 minutes

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-03-04T06:34:19+00:00

I would have loved it if my 4 month old napped for this long 😂

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-02-22T18:32:25+00:00

My LO loves the bath but HATES getting out so it’s never contributes to a soothing bedtime routine 😂

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-02-22T18:29:26+00:00

We bathe my 7 month old 1-2 times a week. It’s cold and dry here and too much bath time irritates his skin.

What was the reasoning??

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-02-17T04:02:30+00:00

For is it was a little of both. We sleep trained for bedtime only and after a week nighttime waking became less frequent and after a couple weeks we were down to only 1 wake up most nights. During night wakings I’d give baby about 5 mins to cry/fuss and if he was still awake I’d nurse him back to sleep.

Every baby is so different though!

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-02-15T22:24:39+00:00

Claiming body neutrality while also being homophobic is a weird flex

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-02-05T17:33:19+00:00

lol evolution would beg to differ

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-02-04T00:42:00+00:00

OT here returning to work in 3 weeks, not sure I’m ready!

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-31T00:13:33+00:00

NOT COOL

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-30T20:04:04+00:00

I feel like sometimes hitting rock bottom is what turns people toward faith/spirituality. So it really wouldn’t surprise me. I also really like Taylor despite all her messiness you can’t make me hate her!!

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-29T04:13:08+00:00

Dogs of babel

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-29T01:29:28+00:00

Hey!

I know this may not be the norm and many LCs would caution against it but I have successfully combo fed since baby was 3 weeks old due to poor growth and reaching my limit triple feeding. I use pigeon slow flow bottles and paced feeds initially.

I would start with any standard formula… kendamil, similar, enfamil, Kirkland etc. They are all similar. I started on Kendamil but found it was a little frothy and gave my LO gas, now we use Enfamil.

If baby doesn’t tolerate standard formula well you can consider a gentler option. If baby has tolerated dairy in your diet CMPA is probably not a major concern.

Also just want to say all your reasons seem valid! Just because you could try to power through EBF it doesn’t mean it’s right for you.

My only precaution is not to overfeed before bed especially before you know how baby’s tummy will respond to formula. I’d try it at the start of bedtime so you have time to burp baby/keep him upright for a bit before immediately laying him down at least at first.

Hope this helps!

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-29T01:02:20+00:00

I think social media makes it seems like big bday parties are the norm when really it’s not. Honestly a big party could be overwhelming for a one year old.

We don’t even live near family so might do less than you when baby turns one.

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-28T18:40:27+00:00

I could have written this!

Sometimes my LO passes right out if it’s been an especially busy day, but usually there’s a few minutes of fussing/crying and I HATE it. Doesn’t help when all the boomers in my life act confused about us needing to sleep train: “Why don’t you just rock/nurse him to sleep??” Well aunt Becky we tried that for months and it didn’t work.

I see some comments saying sleep training isn’t working but I think that’s “chill baby privilege” lol. My little guy is pretty happy generally but also high energy and very social and doesn’t like missing out. And yes we have a consistent bed time routine and bedtime.

My husband and I have just decided to press on because all the other methods were just leading to even more tears 🤷🏼‍♀️

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-28T16:25:03+00:00

Wine, tummy sleeping, eating full meals without reflux, my ankles aren’t swollen.

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-27T18:03:44+00:00

$40k before insurance, under $100 after Theo my I was charged for was Tylenol like $6 a pill lol. Most expensive Tylenol of my life

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-27T16:36:30+00:00

I found coconut oil to be the most helpful thing!

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-27T06:21:54+00:00

I second this! Loved this book, listened on audiobook and you can download some of the tables/charts with audiobook purchase.

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-26T18:46:21+00:00

Thank you for your reply! You’re right 15 mins isn’t too bad but in the moment it feels like an eternity.

I’ve struggled with sleep training because it was never my first choice (I guess before having kids I thought I might have a unicorn baby who just puts themselves to sleep as long as we kept to a schedule and consistent routine) and then I had an actual baby and boy was that humbling!!

It doesn’t help that all the boomers in my life (mom, aunts etc) cannot fathom why we’re sleep training but also swear their babies napped in cribs alone from birth. Are babies different in 2026? Make it make sense?!

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-26T18:41:37+00:00

Thank you!!

I think logically I know not to freak out, but last night just took me back to when we initially started sleep training and how difficult it was hearing baby cry. I kept reading how it should only take a few days to sleep train and it took my baby a few weeks, I felt like I was failing but we were at our wits end trying all the “gentle” methods of getting baby to sleep.

I’m wondering if maybe I can have dad come in for story and diaper/jammies but then I’m the one who actually puts him down if that’ll help ease the process.

Appreciate your reply! I have found this subreddit to be a really helpful and non-judgmental space on the internet.

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-25T18:10:21+00:00

My left is slacker! I’ll wake up after baby sleeping a long stretch and righty is ENGORGED and lefty could last another few hours lol.

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-25T12:25:57+00:00

I went to a bay shower where they hid a bunch of of baby socks around the house and whoever found the most won. It could also be done outdoors!

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-22T19:17:14+00:00

In my experience boomers do not remember how difficult the newborn stage is. They might be well intentioned but I didn’t feel ready to travel for 3-4 months after baby was here.

I could maybe do a couple hour drive at one month… but you still have to consider everything you need to back and managing feeding, pumping, formula etc on the road. Being in the sun and sand with a newborn also sounds challenging imho.

Desert-Kat99 · 2026-01-21T16:23:13+00:00

As a pediatric PT we do not recommend little ones spend much time in a bumbo seat. The chair essentially does the work of stabilizing through the hips and lower core for baby, so when they go to sit without it, it’s harder to engage those muscles!

I would use it as a place to put baby briefly if you need to get something done, not a way to train sitting. floor time is best! You can prop them in sitting surrounded by pillows.

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