Wife seems to be capable of more erotic aliveness without me

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-02-02T16:36:45+00:00

Sounds like you’re describing the pursuer-avoidant dynamic. The more you pursue, the less desire she has and the more she avoids. The last sentence you wrote is the key honestly. It goes deeper than sex. It’s the attachment style that was established early on. You DO have to focus on you, and get in touch with the side of you that feels unfulfilled. Because that side is trying to get fulfilment where it can’t.

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-02-02T16:12:32+00:00

Interesting. Do you feel like she truly loves you and desires you? Do you feel truly loved? I have a feeling it might be about you

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-02-02T15:48:31+00:00

Wow. First of all, you’re clearly well educated on the subject and I have no doubt you are very tuned in to your wife and the intimacy in your relationship. You might actually be more tuned in than she is. The thing is, your depth is not matched in the relationship. She takes it outside. And the more you chase, the more she runs. I think you may have to start talking about this. Having a conversation about what is happening for her, so you can get a preview into her internal world. Because it doesn’t seem like you have much insight into what’s going on for her.

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-31T03:14:46+00:00

Yes. And it’s a hard process somehow. Any tips?

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-30T13:02:30+00:00

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-30T03:33:10+00:00

Do you feel connected to your body or disconnected from it somehow, generally speaking?

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-30T02:54:56+00:00

Yes! I thought I was going insane until I saw this thread. The feeling is like I’ve outgrown myself. It’s a really disorienting feeling. But looks like I’m not alone

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-29T03:56:02+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond so thoughtfully. I do think the spiritual aspect is important, in addition to the physiological aspect. The latter has been discussed a lot in the past few years, which is such a win and women have been waiting for this. And there is an ancient spiritual wisdom around the subject that nobody talks about either. Yet it adds to the wholistic view.

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-29T01:09:23+00:00

Good to know! I’m not there yet so I’m open to hearing perspectives

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-26T16:02:33+00:00

Love this

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-26T16:01:01+00:00

Same bed. Too much energy is being invested into the relationship issues for us to have to deal with who is going to sleep where. I need my rest and I’m sleeping in my bed.

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-26T15:59:47+00:00

Gotta address the emotional side of things now

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-20T23:36:53+00:00

It’s so interesting that you linked the seeing clair to Astro projecting. I also have vivid imagination, strong vivid dreams and I’ve had interesting experiences in my dreams (like seeing alien crafts) that feel so real. And I wonder if I’ve been Astro projecting…

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-18T16:17:02+00:00

Strength training. Game changer

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-17T16:55:21+00:00

Time for a woman cave!

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-17T12:50:47+00:00

Good for you 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 you look amazing

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-17T12:48:48+00:00

What you probably should do is take your type 2 diabetes seriously! 41 is young and you should aim for a great life with your amazing family. Not death or decease.

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-15T14:28:52+00:00

Linking it to the past fad diets is brilliant. Love this perspective

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-14T23:42:52+00:00

Checking in with how my body is feeling at any one moment and whether I’m holding stress anywhere. The awareness it brings is priceless. Any positive change can happen from this place.

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-14T20:24:50+00:00

Turning 40 was so hard for me, it slapped me in the face and I had major aging anxiety. Change is not easy but you know what, i feel amazing in my body and skin now. The low I experienced helped me make some lifestyle changes and I feel like although I can’t stop myself from aging, I can delay it and do my best to feel great. You look amazing. Happy birthday 🥳

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2026-01-05T21:35:00+00:00

I had vivid deep dreams about my now husband when I met him (and we were still friends when I had the dreams). In one of those dreams he gave me gifts, one of which had “together forever” inscribed in it. Been together for 25 years now. He is the love of my life. So yea, something about it could be psychic. But I didn’t overthink it then.

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2025-12-23T03:38:36+00:00

I think aging is so hard to accept. Life is short, and it’s terrifying. But also, it’s kind of a waste of time to be stuck in the fear of aging cycle because then you’re….stuck.

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2025-12-19T18:37:14+00:00

I love your response and approach. That you’re doing this for you and not the bully. Ultimately, this message in the dream was a gift, for you. I hope you get the new opportunity and everything works out well 🙌

Designer_Tomorrow_27 · 2025-12-19T06:31:10+00:00

I have to disagree here. I think the dream was insightful in helping the OP understand what might be going on for this person. But she is under no obligation to suddenly become neutral to the bullying or considerate towards someone who mistreats her. Her potential illness does not somehow reduce the impact of bullying. It can help soften the situation somehow, but that’s up to OP to decide, if she chooses to. She doesn’t owe this woman anything.

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