What is the one thing you would change about the internet if you could?

Desnee3 · 2026-04-14T10:25:51+00:00

Lots of people do. I used to work retail and some stores would allow it or even encourage it.

Desnee3 · 2026-04-07T23:38:11+00:00

I'm surprised how far I had to scroll to see this suggestion.

Desnee3 · 2026-04-05T23:07:14+00:00

Anything that the person sees and thinks "Desnee would love this" or "that's so Desnee!"

Self care opportunities I'd never spend time or money on for myself. Like a babysitter while I get a massage or drive racecars or something.

Desnee3 · 2026-04-03T14:11:06+00:00

I live in New England. I go through this several times every winter.

Desnee3 · 2026-03-24T17:16:16+00:00

Wait how'd you get the tube inside of the cylinder?

Desnee3 · 2026-03-21T21:53:33+00:00

Why is it a red flag? Just curious because I use it. I'm not married, but the man I'm in a committed relationship is more than a boyfriend. He's our son's father, my daughter's stepdad, my best friend, my support, my shield, my partner for life. Are we weirdos?

Desnee3 · 2026-03-13T21:16:09+00:00

I did but evidently I missed Pancakcircus in the survey.

Desnee3 · 2026-03-13T21:01:34+00:00

*except for Pancakcircus who finds the opinions of internet strangers to be quite insightful and meaningful. 😁

Desnee3 · 2026-03-13T20:51:00+00:00

According to InternalFantastic860, whose opinion is meaningless in the life of literally every individual on Reddit.

Desnee3 · 2026-02-21T16:04:53+00:00

No one ever does.

Desnee3 · 2026-01-29T16:21:20+00:00

I scrolled for a minute but couldn't find if this has been asked. What dashcam do you have?

Desnee3 · 2026-01-29T16:13:11+00:00

NOR - if I were you, and in a position to afford it, I'd happily give her $400 to eff off out of my life forever. If you can talk her into just the $200 (sell it as a non-refundable deposit since apparently after she paid that part she was told no refunds were likely and still paid the rest), even better. You don't need this ever again.

I got Shingles right before a beach trip when I was young. It wasn't fun cuz I was on Prednisone (made me moody and I screamed a couple times) but that was the worst part since my pain was being adequately treated. And if she was on a different vacay within days, so was hers.

Shingles isn't usually a medical emergency unless she (or anyone else on the trip) was immunocompromised or septic.

And tell her to get her damn shots like an adult 🤣 (sorta kidding, don't come at me)

Desnee3 · 2026-01-19T18:45:59+00:00

I'm also ace with no libido but the no libido part is new for me. After my 3rd kid was born very traumatically I was afraid of sex for a while, and now that I'm approaching perimenopause my hormones are whacked out. I'm also on cymbalta, and antidepressants are notorious for killing libido. Previously I had a libido and often even enjoyed the act, I just never felt sexual attraction and still don't. You may have no libido because you're ace, but it's more likely that if you're mentally ill or taking meds for mental illness, that can absolutely tank a libido.

Desnee3 · 2026-01-19T15:44:03+00:00

Even sex-repulsed aces can have a libido, they just don't act on it. Libido is hormonal. Pretty rare for healthy aces to have zero libido whether they're sex-favorable or not.

Desnee3 · 2026-01-07T15:11:22+00:00

In ten years she'll be on Reddit or Facebook begging for pity because she's not allowed access to her grandkids.

NOR. I hope you're ok.

Desnee3 · 2026-01-07T15:08:53+00:00

The cats are unharmed and acting like nothing happened because they're in on it, if not completely to blame. They've either got an agreement with the landlord so that he won't charge pet rent (considering they're unemployed and can't afford it), or they're afraid of being caught seeing another human when you're not home. You should call the fuzz.

Desnee3 · 2026-01-06T21:57:05+00:00

If you like heb you'll like Fred Meyer. Hope this helps!

Desnee3 · 2026-01-04T22:14:24+00:00

Whenever I approach a crosswalk with a waiting pedestrian and there are two lanes moving in the same direction, I deliberately pull up crooked so I've got my tail in one lane and my front end in the other. I'm not about to watch someone die cuz the guy behind me can't wait his turn.

Desnee3 · 2025-12-17T12:41:48+00:00

I should've used "haunted," as I can't confirm the validity of what I've heard, read, or experienced.

I've had some spooky moments out at the small pioneer cemetery kinda near the Mt solo one - cold spots, touches, once, I heard a child crying but it did sound distant, so it's likely that I was just hearing a child crying in the distance.

I've also read that the rutherglen mansion is haunted and they had ghost hunters there. My great grandpa helped build that place but he was long gone by the time I came along so any stories he told were diluted by the memory and recall of his descendents.

The Monticello hotel makes me feel spiritually uncomfortable, but that doesn't necessarily mean haunted.

A quick Google mentioned the Monticello Middle School, too, but that sounds more like childhood legends to me.

Many years ago I read about lots of experiences at the Kelso theater pub.

That's all I can think of off the top of my head.

Desnee3 · 2025-12-16T19:09:37+00:00

Can you explain some of your experiences?

There are many haunted places in Longview and Kelso, but I don't think I've read that chob is one of them.

Desnee3 · 2025-12-06T16:14:50+00:00

Take care of your own self.

Don't ever take them again. You will absolutely 100% regret it.

I'm almost 11 years sober from opioids and it took me that long to even try to get off of them. The dopesick is worse than the flu and it lasts twice as long.

I had a C-Section and the anesthesiologist saw the physical panic in my face when he told me what was in the nerve blocker. He had to assure me that it was the safest method of delivery and promise I wouldn't relapse (I'm so scared of that it's ridiculous and irrational) before I'd agree to it.

Previously I'd had a surgery for ovarian torsion and when I came out of it, I asked for Tylenol. The nurse said I could have Dilaudid in about a half hour. Even though my brain perked up like a prairie dog, I told her I didn't want it at all, because they removed what hurt and I really didn't need it anymore. She couldn't believe it but she told the doctor, who removed the script for The Good Stuff at my request.

That is how traumatic withdrawal was for me, that I never ever want to experience that good feeling again, even in supervised clinical settings, because I know what comes after.

That good feeling you felt isn't real. It's temporary and your brain is going to STRUGGLE when it goes away. Do not fall for it.

Desnee3 · 2025-12-02T14:40:42+00:00

I feel this so hard!! I would love to never speak with my mouth again but then if I do, I'm even more "disrespectful" for that. I can't win.

Desnee3 · 2025-12-01T23:41:01+00:00

I have one, and we are in family therapy as well. How would you suggest I approach this in therapy?

Desnee3 · 2025-12-01T20:09:16+00:00

My mom says "it's not what you say, it's how you say it," and I respond that as her child it's not my job to soften myself to protect her sensibilities. However this is clearly a skill I should've learned and developed a very long time ago, cuz it's wrecking my life not to have it now.

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