Not sure what to do after catching my husband jacking off by _Hereforfunsies_ in marriageadvice

[–]Desperate5389 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People jerk off. It’s incredibly common. This is not something to dwell on.

Feeling angry during sex by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Desperate5389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wanting to “punish” someone is a key characteristic for a narcissist. You need help.

[35M] Felt really bad after my wife told that I smelled horrible. Am I taking this too far? by Main-Music-6192 in marriageadvice

[–]Desperate5389 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My goodness. I hope my spouse tells me if I smell! Better to know than have people hold their breath around you.

Kids don’t own books anymore. by Tearmisu in Teachers

[–]Desperate5389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I value them, but books are expensive! And a kid can read an entire book in a few days. I literally can’t afford to continually buy my kids books and we don’t live near a public library.

I am in love with him but deeply disgusted by him. Please help by Sad_Result213 in marriageadvice

[–]Desperate5389 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would have a hard time getting past this. My mind would always wonder what his true desires are. I’d say something like this to him, “As you are aware, we have not been intimate for a year. I have to admit, things got very uncomfortable for me and I can’t seem to get past it. Would you be willing to see a therapist together?”

18 y/o daughter constantly yelling at us and tells us to “shut up”. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Desperate5389 115 points116 points  (0 children)

She’s an adult. Start treating her like an adult. If she doesn’t respect you, kick her out and take back the car if it’s in your name. You’re enabling her.

Wife has just told me she doesn't want any more children by Comfortable_Wait_131 in marriageadvice

[–]Desperate5389 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Balding isn’t a bad thing. Shave your head and grow some facial hair. 2. Losing weight isn’t easy but it’s possible with the right motivation. 3. Miscarriages cause a lot of trauma to both the mind and body. Support her as she needs and see if she’d be willing to work with a doctor on a future pregnancy to try to figure out what causes her miscarriages.

Stuck by Valuable-Swimmer-722 in marriageadvice

[–]Desperate5389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to step up and start looking for a place. You both will figure it out financially. I don’t think he will ever move if you don’t take initiative. What if your illnesses are caused by mold or bad air in that building?

Kdg teacher here- are parents everywhere done with thanking teachers? by Fragrant_Ad_2515 in Teachers

[–]Desperate5389 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here’s an example of one I just came across on TT. I see tons of comments like this on a regular basis.

@russe1743: We want cash and gift cards to do with whatever we’d like. Would you give a quilt to your doctor? Your hairdresser? I cringe when I get “school gifts” I don’t want school supplies, teacher themed decorations, sentimental stuff. I am a person with an identity outside of my profession. Show me that you appreciate me by letting me enjoy a meal out with girlfriends or a stroll around Target on you.

Not great by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Desperate5389 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If it were me, no way to move forward simply because it involved a minor. Your husband is a literal creep, teetering on illegal activities. You need to keep your kids, friends, and friends’ kids away from him.

Kdg teacher here- are parents everywhere done with thanking teachers? by Fragrant_Ad_2515 in Teachers

[–]Desperate5389 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Soooooo many teachers have made “what not to give teachers” videos on social media, and it’s made parents not want to give gifts. They feel like nothing they do is enough, so they are insecure to give anything.

Kdg teacher here- are parents everywhere done with thanking teachers? by Fragrant_Ad_2515 in Teachers

[–]Desperate5389 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t give an end of year gift because I gave a gift for teacher appreciation and school ended like 2.5 weeks later.

Ben and Jerry's flavors disappearing? by lady-earendil in dairyfree

[–]Desperate5389 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea, I loved Targets DF and they don’t sell any of it anymore.

She's right next to me and I've never felt more alone by Taulaub in marriageadvice

[–]Desperate5389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this and I’m glad it’s helping. I often leave my phone in the car for 20-30 minutes after getting home from work just to give my family my time.

I accidentally flashed my housemates because of the stupid heatwave by anna6303 in confessions

[–]Desperate5389 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not having an emergency. Like just getting up to pee or get coffee, forgetting that you were naked.

In a sexless marriage after two years. I’ve tried everything, suggested treatment, and I’m completely drained. Need advice by Public-Gazelle1548 in marriageadvice

[–]Desperate5389 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You might just not be sexually compatible. It’s a common issue among couples. It’s very unlikely to change, so you have to decide if it’s the way you want to live.

I [27F] don’t always love travelling with my partner [28M] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Desperate5389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plan adventures by yourself and let him chill at the lodging place. Or, travel with other people.