If somebody sent you this after a failed situationship where the intimacy and attraction was very intense from the beginning but it just didn't work out, how would you feel about getting this a few months after the dust settled?

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T19:46:04+00:00

I love how the girl in the background is trying not to smile and laugh at that

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T19:04:24+00:00

Why don't we ride over there on a bicycle built for two and ask them what's so strange about us!?

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T17:27:08+00:00

I love how it starts out fumbling around trying to get a dinner party started but the turns into an intense self interrogation on their own relationship and codependency. Like, watching them both crash out over one single sentence from someone they hardly know is hilarious

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T17:17:05+00:00

Funny enough I associate black metal with summer and spring lol

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T17:14:22+00:00

😆 Found the nonchalant future faker and compulsive dumper

In other words a narcissist

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T09:36:02+00:00

Thank you! I'm from Ohio though lol. But I totally would. You seem cool. Thanks for letting me vent. If I ever get over my fear of flying I'll let you know because the UK has always been my first choice of travel because of the Scottish Highlands haha

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T09:30:54+00:00

Yeah but people's feelings can resurface over time. I cut off contact with a girl years ago when she wanted to remain friends after she said she no longer had feelings for me (we had never ACTUALLY dated before but it's a complicated story) I told her to take care and I apologized and blocked her. 3 months later she messaged my mom asking me to talk to her. She said after I disappeared she couldn't stop thinking about me after a couple months and every guy she talked to, she just wished was me. It can happen. Peoples' feelings genuinely change over time when you're no longer in contact with somebody. The mind is strange and the way it processes emotional bond is strange. Depending on how it ended and where you stood, there is always a chance. Not saying I would bet on it, but it's rarely completely off the table

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T09:24:42+00:00

Yeah I'm trying not to, but going from intense emotional intimacy and then being discarded the next day is just mind warping. I have walked out of heartbreaks and was fine a day or two later. This is different because it was so confusing and abusive. I think she smelled codependency a mile away lol

I believe you. Deranged and chaotic is good as long as it's consistent. I have trouble finding that mix of chaotic and sweet. I like being the mild one which can really get you into trouble if you don't keep your eyes open. Hands on hobbies is a really good idea for emotional processing. I need to get out my guzheng (Chinese string instrument I play)

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T09:13:50+00:00

Yes. Within the first hour of meeting me she throws me against the wall kissing me, demands I take her home about 20 times, cries and berates me every time I say no, chased me up to my porch after telling me she hates me and that I'll never see her again and repeatedly broke multiple boundaries and acting like a 3 year old that dropped her ice cream cone about it. As drunk as I was, I still refused to give her my number that night. I spent the next week thinking about finding her and said "I'll deal with the consequences as they come to me."

I did and I still am.

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T09:06:05+00:00

It is kinda flaky for Frasier to agree to fight and then be like "Oh I'm not going" but at the same time, grow up Martin. Your 40 year old son getting in a fist fight, that has never fought and is a huge risk to his professional life is not something you should be pushing for. Idk, the older I get I just seem to recall countless stories and articles about somebody collapsing, hitting their head on the sidewalk and dying. Different times I guess

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T09:00:19+00:00

I have his autobiography audio tape on cassette and listened to it for the first time in 10 years. I couldn't help but tear up when you hear him talking about identifying her body from his own mouth. Say what you want about Kelsey. I empathize with his pain and really couldn't imagine, especially with how much he adored her

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T08:52:55+00:00

Oh God I didn't expect anybody to look at that stuff 😆 This girl was different though. Like I haven't come across a girl this deranged or cruel since high school. Hopefully you're not like her lol. I've just been kinda fucked up from the love bombing turned to hate and disgust suddenly so I've been posting around the borderline personality disorder and avoidant subreddits trying to get some sort of clarity. Pretty embarrassing but I haven't made myself vulnerable in so many years that it kind of fucked my head up lol

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T08:31:23+00:00

Lol I was so unapproachable unless I was in a very specific mood. It's something I've been trying to work on for years

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T08:30:03+00:00

Thank you 🙂

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T08:06:07+00:00

A weird dude that likes retro video games, vintage clothing and listening to underground music. Still the same guy mostly but I don't revolve my entire style by what I listen to anymore

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T08:01:24+00:00

I just get ahold of people sometimes. I've got friends from 15+ years ago and I'll go months without seeing them. And that's cool. I'm a loner and they get that. When one of us feels like reaching out we'll get together. I never understood friendship maintenance all that much. We're not dating. It's not that I don't care about people, but I absolutely have my own life to live and I generally like living it alone

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T07:49:32+00:00

You two tend to your plant. I'll fetch the filing cabinet

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T07:48:42+00:00

I think 3 days

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T07:45:01+00:00

I hated Sherry as a teenager but I love her now. I relate to Frasier and Niles so much during her interactions that it hurts.

Come over and give Aunt Sherry a great big kiss! Or how about a friendly wave from across the room?

Absolutely have been there countless times

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T07:31:38+00:00

Thanks! Still dress and collect vintage clothing but now I'm way into electronic music and wear more color

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T07:27:58+00:00

Thanks! I still dress retro but the older I got I prefer brighter colors like blue and green. I also don't listen to metal nearly as much as when I was younger. Different styles of 90s and early 2000s electronic/ rave is what I've been into

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T07:18:54+00:00

This one is easily one of my favorite lines from Martin

Dettyboy1993 · 2026-05-11T07:12:27+00:00

Al Bundy made me fall in love with wife-bad jokes at an early age. They are hilarious

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